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- Path: sparky!uunet!island!guido
- From: guido@island.COM (Guido Marx)
- Subject: Re: Are they not men?
- Message-ID: <1992Dec22.175514.2397@island.COM>
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- Organization: Island Graphics Corp. San Rafael, Ca.
- References: <1992Dec19.121602.4218@netcom.com> <1992Dec21.174121.2890@island.COM> <1992Dec21.220158.4146@netcom.com>
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- Date: Tue, 22 Dec 1992 17:55:14 GMT
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- In article <1992Dec21.220158.4146@netcom.com> phil@netcom.com (Phil Ronzone) writes:
- >In article <1992Dec21.174121.2890@island.COM> guido@island.COM (Guido Marx) writes:
- > >I have to disagree - the issue IS about assaults. In the
- > >story you quoted, the man in question didn't feel threatened
- > >until someone made an unwelcome physical advance toward him
- > >in the middle of the night. The fact that men and women don't
- > >shower together is simply a matter of societal convention. I
- > >have lived in dorms where men and women DID share bathrooms
- > >and showers. Despite what you claim, it wasn't a "sexual
- > >context".
- > >
- > >The fear that these men underwent clearly was a fear of being
- > >assaulted, not of being placed in an unwanted "sexual
- > >context".
- >
- >Oh? I see. tell me, the dorms that men and women shared bathrooms and showers,
- >was it voluntary? Or was it a forced assignment? I would be very surprised
- >if the "shared" showers were shared in the military sense -- one large
- >room with many showerheads. No cubicles, no privacy.
-
- Of course the arrangement was voluntary. In the same way I would argue
- that if the military did it, it would be voluntary. Since we do have
- an all-volunteer military. This arrangement was needed since it was
- in a dorm originally designed for one sex - so they only had one
- bathroom per floor. In this particular dorm the showers were in
- stalls, so there was slightly more privacy than you might expect in
- a typical military situation.
-
- >And, by the way, that was NOT an assault by legal definition. To sexually
- >grope someone is not an assualt unless there is an intent to bodily harm
- >or it persists after a "no". (Otherwise you have the absurd situation
- >where the very first initiation of petting between two people is an
- >assault).
-
- My Websters gives a definition of "subject to indecent attack", I think
- that that qualifies. The legal definition of assault is a bit different
- but, in this situation since it involved "unwanted touching" it would
- constitute battery, my mistake. The situation of petting between consenting
- people doesn't qualify as either "unwanted touching" or "indecent attack".
- Grabbing a non-consenting womans breast DOES constitute an assault.
-
- >You are wrong. After all, if the author has responded "climb on in sailor",
- >it would not have been an assault.
-
- No, it wouldn't have been because then it wouldn't have been un-wanted.
- However, the perpatrator had no reason to believe that his advance was
- desired. Are you arguing that I should be able to grab women's breasts
- because they MIGHT like it ?
-
- >Of course, you persist in thinking that only the way you think can be the
- >one "real" way.
-
- Not at all, you are free to think whatever you want, just leave me
- out of it.
-
- >1. Some football jock that came out of the closet writes how after he
- > came out, the other jocks (basically) avoided him in the locker rooms.
- > "Somehow" he ended up with a locker assigment that was mostly out of
- > view from the other players lockers. Nobody was actually directly
- > nasty to him, but he did complain of feeling a pariah in the locker
- > room.
-
- > Now, consider the size and physical shape of a footbal player, I don't
- > think those men were worried that they would be raped/assualted. But they
- > clearly didn't feel "comfortable" around this guy -- their sexual context
- > was being violated.
-
- So you say. I would argue that their bigotry was being coddled and
- encouraged. You know, some people in locker rooms don't feel "comfortable"
- dressing with people who have prostheses (artificial legs). IMHO that
- is just tough luck, and they are going to have to learn to live with it.
-
- Some people don't feel "comfortable" dressing with members of other
- races. Again, IMHO tough.
-
-
- Guido
-