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- From: mec6@quads.uchicago.edu (rini)
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- Subject: Re: Living in a State of Siege
- Message-ID: <1992Dec23.165642.6571@midway.uchicago.edu>
- Date: 23 Dec 92 16:56:42 GMT
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- holzman@d0gslb.fnal.gov (Daniel B. Holzman) writes:
- >muffy@remarque.berkeley.edu (Muffy Barkocy) writes:
-
- >> No, the issue is that every time someone talks about the violence that
- >> is practiced against women, some people here start shouting about the
- >> violence that happens to men. Not only do they not seem to want us to
- >> work on the problem *we* are concerned about, but they further want us
- >> to work on *their* problems.
-
- >Who is "we", Muffy?
-
- As I read it, "we" is "[those who] talk about the violence that is practiced
- against women" and the "they" is "some people here [who] start shouting about
- the violence that happens to men."
-
- >Violence against women is *my* problem, not because I
- >share biological structures with a portion of perps, but it touches the lives
- >of a great many women whose well-being is important to me. Violence against
- >men is *my* problem because I am a target of it and because it touches the
- >lives of a great many men whose well-being is important to me. Thus, I
- >work on both. Thus I have cause to discuss both.
-
- This is a well taken point. I believe the point that Muffy was making is
- that we can't even *DISCUSS* violence against women, because people raise
- the big, red SEXIST flag and level accusations of misandry. It would be
- *NICE*, IMO, to actually discuss BOTH. Especially, since this is
- alt.feminism, about how both relate to feminism and sex roles in society.
- But everytime we try to discuss EITHER, we just enter these meta-discussions
- like the one you are having here and we never get to the issue.
-
- >Personally, I think I have enough time to deal with both. If you can
- >only deal with one, don't be surprised if a bunch of people decide that
- >they only have time for their problem and to hell with you and yours.
- >This does not seem an effective tactic.
-
- Well, I'm glad you are interested in working on both. Next time there's
- a thread about violence against [gender], I look forward to seeing your
- ideas on the topic and we maybe we can get around the "But what about
- violence againt [other gender]?????"
-
- rini
-