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- Newsgroups: alt.support.big-folks
- Path: sparky!uunet!boulder!ucsu!davis
- From: davis@ucsu.Colorado.EDU (Barbara Davis)
- Subject: Re: How could you ever trust?
- Message-ID: <1992Nov12.183338.9765@ucsu.Colorado.EDU>
- Organization: University of Colorado, Boulder
- References: <1992Nov12.062756.7505@access.usask.ca>
- Date: Thu, 12 Nov 1992 18:33:38 GMT
- Lines: 44
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- lat22@jester.usask.ca (T'Keela Mahkin Birr) writes:
-
- >Distribution: world
-
- >Hello all!
-
- >Just a thought I have had for a while, thought it might spur
- >discussion, and answers...
-
- >If you are heavy (I mean VERY, size 24 or so) and men are not
- >interested in you because of your weight: how can you ever
- >trust in a man if you lost weight, became what most men want
- >(aiee duck the flames on that one):), and went out with a man?
- >Oh sure, he might say, "I'd love you just as much if you looked
- >different", but where was he when you were large? It's very
- >perplexing..to go from an obese woman who can't get a date to
- >a thin woman who is so bloody cynical she can't get a date.
-
- As a size 26/28 I had not realized that I am VERY heavy. I consider myself
- round and very beautiful. <big grin>
-
- Interestingly, so do the 3 men I am dating right now. All like me for
- my warmth and humor and openness and honesty. Weight is *not* an issue for
- me and so it is *not* an issue in my relationships. Dragon like, I enter
- every relationship expecting to like and be liked. Tuesday I had the
- first experience since July with someone being unable to return my happy,
- infectious grin. Her lips smiled and her eyes look anger and hostility.
-
- Everytime I was near her the rest of the evening, I tried my grin on her.
- Each time her returning smile got closer to her eyes. At the end of class
- I got a semi-warm grin from her! One more won over to the joy of smiling.
-
- Barb
-
- >Maybe I'm just having a bad day.:):):)
- >T'Keela
- >-----------------------
- >"Time and space can be a bitch." -- Gooshie, QL "Killin' Time"
-
- --
- Barbara G. Davis Internet: davis@ucsu.colorado.edu
- University of Colorado, Boulder
-
- If I don't ask, you can't say, "Yes!".
-