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- From: demetri@cgrg.ohio-state.edu
- Subject: A Question
- Message-ID: <1993Jan26.014209.15902@cgrg.ohio-state.edu>
- Sender: demetri@cgrg.ohio-state.edu (Demetrius Owens)
- Organization: OSU Advanced Computing Center for the Arts and Design
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- Date: Tue, 26 Jan 1993 01:42:09 GMT
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- In reference to men changing their names, I just remembered that I know of
- a man who got married over the summer and hyphenated his name. I found
- this out when a student asked for him and he had a her name-his name
- combination. Initially I wanted to resist using it (his original name is
- so much easier to pronounce). Shame on me! But it occurs to me that, as
- hard a time as I sometimes have getting people to call me by my birth name,
- I wonder what reaction men get. Maybe something like "yeah, that's cute"
- but many people still use his birth name. Not that "people having a
- problem with it means he should back down. It has been suggested that we
- give our children my name as a middle name because people will never get
- the hyphenated name right. We have discussed it, and just don't find it
- satisfactory. So we are prepared to go a little out of our way to educate
- people.
-
- Back to the men, it reminds me of a case where a colleague of mine had
- twins and her husband got strange reactions from his empoloyer about his
- decision to take a few weeks of leave. How unfortunate that when a man
- does try to take a more modern approach, he gets so little support.
-
- Renee
-