NetNews Usenet Archive 1992 #27/NN_1992_27.iso/spool/soc/singles/31661

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From: [e-mail] (Marcia)
Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
Message-ID: <[e-mail]>
Organization: The Dolphin Conspiracy, Phase II
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Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 22:28:02 GMT
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In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] (Elizabeth Abrams) writes:
>it wouldn't take a rocket scientist to deduce that I want to be
>*called* Elizabeth.  If I wanted to be called Liz, I'd say, "Hi, I'm
>Liz Abrams."  Or "Hi, I'm Elizabeth Abrams.  Please call me Liz."
>If someone is "just trying to be friendly", why not ask me if I
>like to have my name shortened, and what I like to have it shortened
>to?

Strong agreement here! I think it's almost the height of arrogance to assume
that someone can be called anything other than what they've just introduced
themselves as! (And yes, I get enough impromptu shortening of my name to
get annoying.)

But just to be sure, I now make a point of asking anyone who has a name that
is commonly shortened, "Do you go by X, or are you called something else?" Most
people seem to appreciate that, and I also make a point of using what they
tell me in the next sentence, to let them know that 1. I heard and understood
and 2. give them a chance to correct my pronunciation if I've got it wrong.
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