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- From: dab@ism.isc.com (Dave Butterfield)
- Newsgroups: misc.kids
- Subject: Re: Loving the disobedient was (Re: 20/20 and Spanking)
- Followup-To: alt.flame
- Date: 18 Nov 1992 22:44:09 GMT
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- References: <1992Nov13.230602.3879@dcs.qmw.ac.uk> <1992Nov18.034204.2457615@locus.com> <1992Nov18.165421.13815@dcs.qmw.ac.uk>
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- >More to the point, perhaps, the kind of moral advice you were offering
- >is bound to be taken personally by people whose only complaints against
- >their parents are of this emotional kind, because you said nothing to
- >guard against the words "abuse" and "neglect" being taken in only the
- >narrower sense.
-
- If they can be taken in a narrow or a broad sense, why assume the
- intended one was the one you find offensive? Are you looking for
- opportunities to be offended?
-
- >I mean that you are simply mistaken in presuming that those who
- >continue to blame their parents for their personal unhappiness
- >do so because of having made no effort to understand their parents'
- >point of view.
-
- Some of them do; some of them don't. If only *one* member of her
- audience falls into that category, then her words were worthwhile.
- If you think the shoe fits you, then wear it. Otherwise leave it
- for someone else. Or are you looking for opportunities to be
- offended?
-
- >>[...] Suffice it to say that there is enough diversity on
- >>the net that almost anyone can get insulted by almost anything I say.
- >
- >The insult does not necessarily lie in the mind of the person receiving it.
-
- In this case it quite clearly did. You have the option to add Judy to
- your killfile if you find her words insulting. I happen to think her
- posts and opinions are quite worth reading.
-
- Not much in here about kids; followups redirected.
-
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- Truth is an evaluation of a statement within a context.
-