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- From: 01ksdavis@leo.bsuvc.bsu.edu (Rebel without a clue.)
- Newsgroups: alt.romance
- Subject: Re: just wondering...
- Message-ID: <1992Nov20.151600.12180@bsu-ucs>
- Date: 20 Nov 92 20:16:00 GMT
- References: <41112@sdcc12.ucsd.edu> <1992Nov17.224622.14453@jetsun.weitek.COM>
- Organization: The Corporation.
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- In article <1992Nov17.224622.14453@jetsun.weitek.COM>, weaver@jetsun.weitek.COM (Michael Gordon Weaver) writes:
- > In article <41112@sdcc12.ucsd.edu> ph2sct@sdcc14.ucsd.edu (Dzu Nguyen) writes:
- >>hi holks...
- Hello Dzu. Tried emailing you, but it didn't work for some reason.
- >>
- >> I was here thinking the other day and i was wondering ...
- >>
- >> what is it that makes someone become interested in one of
- >>their friends? is it lonliness? is it seeing them from a different
- >>perspective that they did not see them in before? and how can this
- >>interest turn into love? does the spark subside or does it continue
- >>to grow? this happend to me with my ex girlfriend. we had been good friends
- >>before then one day i asked her out and then after that i asked her
- >>out again (kinda the 'oh what the heck, i'm bored this weekend'
- >>attitude) and again and again until eventually we started going out.
- >>
- > Who was bored? Her, you or both? If you acted bored when you asked
- > her out, that is not going to make a good impression.
- I don't think this was what he was trying to say. I think he was
- trying to say they were both bored of not having any dates.
- >
- >>anyway she said she needed her space after 3 months (whatta
- >>line...ack) and we broke up.
- >>
- > When someone uses a cliche, it can mean they are trying to avoid saying
- > what they really feel.
- Ahh, but you have to account for the few people who have never heard of
- these cliches before.
- > So I wouldn't read too much into that.
- > 'Need space' should mean she feels you are trying to be closer than
- better ^^^^^^=could
-
- (I don't pretend to know what goes on in women's minds, either, so I
- could also be totally wrong.)
- > she is ready to be.
- >
- >> we are still friends and she has gone
- >>through 2 other guys since then (then being august) so i know that
- >>the problem wasn't with me.
- Let's not assign blame anywhere. I do want to mention that maybe the
- reason why she totally dumped on you was probably because she was afraid of
- love. Could be something in her past that has caused this fear in her. Trust
- me here, I know of where I speak.
- >>
- > What problem? You seem to be saying that because you broke up, that one
- > of you must have a problem. This does not follow. There are lots of
- > reasons for breakups.
- >
- >> thinking back on it today made me wonder
- >>and hence my question....any comments or ideas?
- >>
- >>dzu
- >>
- >[All of Michael's obvious stuff you could do in a situation like this removed
- for space, although I am giving you the benefit of the doubt in these areas he
- has mentioned (personal hygeine, etc.)]
- > Good Luck,
- > Michael.
- If you ask me, it sounds like you are both lonely, although you might
- be a little bit more lonely.
- Also, I think that if you work at this, take it slow, something might
- develop between you. I sort of think the "I need space" line that she used
- probably meant that she really didn't know what she is looking for.
-
- I also wish you luck,
-
-
- --
-
- ______________________________________________________________________________
- |Kyle S. Davis
-
