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                            Courting

Iµá eve≥á ß persoε dieΣ fo≥ love¼á i⌠ wa≤ surσ t∩á havσá beeεá aε ì
Apolloniaε (NF)«á Rome∩ anΣ Juliet¼á botΦ NFs¼ coulΣ no⌠ facσ thσ ì
prospec⌠á oµ lifσ withou⌠ eacΦ othe≥ anΣ s∩ chosσ t∩ diσ iε ß wa∙ ì
whicΦ wa≤ symboliπ oµ thei≥ singlσ mindeΣ anΣ eterna∞á commitmen⌠ ì
t∩ eacΦ other«á Othe≥ famou≤ lovers¼ sucΦ a≤ Heloisσ anΣ Abelard¼ ì
thσ Brownings¼ Anton∙ anΣ Cleopatra¼ BetΦ thσ landlord'≤ daughte≥ ì
anΣá he≥á highwayman¼áá al∞á createΣá ßá worδá oµá ar⌠á iεá thei≥ ì
courtships«á Thi≤á i≤á no⌠ surprising¼á sincσ onσ oµ thσ art≤á a⌠ ì
whicΦá thσá N╞á i≤á skilleΣ i≤á tha⌠á oµá creatinτá thσá romantiπ ì
relationship« Iε fact¼ thσ terφ se° woulΣ seeφ someho≈ crudσ wheε ì
useΣáá iεáá discussinτá thσá NF╗áá lovσá bette≥á capture≤áá thei≥ ì
appreciatioε oµ thσ physica∞ relationship« BotΦ thσ N╞ femalσ anΣ ì
malσá responΣá t∩ thei≥á mate≤á witΦá sympathy¼á tenderness¼á anΣ ì
frequent¼áá passionatσá expression≤á oµá love¼á botΦá verba∞á anΣ ì
nonverbal«á Possessinτá facilit∙ witΦ language¼á NF≤ arσ ablσ to∩ ì
expres≤ nuance≤ oµ emotion≤ tha⌠ ma∙ escapσ othe≥ types«á NF≤ arσ ì
no⌠á afraiΣ oµ usinτ poetry¼á music¼á anΣ quotation≤á t∩á enhancσ ì
thei≥á courtinτ relationships╗á thσ romantiπ development≤ iεá thσ ì
live≤á oµá NF≤ thrivσ oε receivinτ thesσ token≤ oµ affectioεá anΣ ì
dedication«á NF≤á havσ ß flai≥ fo≥ dramatizinτ thei≥á courtships¼ ì
makinτ eacΦ thσ perfec⌠ love«á ┴ storybooδ flavo≥ permeate≤ thei≥ ì
courtshi≡ behavior« Thσ N╞ suito≥ i≤ certaiε hσ wil∞ livσ happil∙ ì
eve≥á after¼á anΣá transmit≤á thi≤ certaint∙á t∩á thσá objec⌠á oµ ì
romantiπá pursuit«á Thσ idea∞ oµ thσ perfec⌠ lovσ tha⌠ wil∞ neve≥ ì
diσá motivate≤á thσá NF≤ iε thei≥ searcΦ fo≥ ßá partne≥á wh∩á caε ì
relatσá spirituall∙á a≤ wel∞ a≤ physically«á The∙á strivσá t∩á bσ ì
authentiπá lover≤á capablσ oµ sustaininτá dee≡á intimacy«á Seeinτ ì
thei≥ identit∙ a≤ matσ i≤ ß majo≥ par⌠ oµ thei≥ personality.

Jus⌠á a≤ thσ possiblσ rathe≥ thaε thσ actua∞ lure≤ NF≤á iεá othe≥ ì
part≤á oµá thei≥ lives, s∩ d∩ thσ possibilitie≤ iεá relationship≤ ì
inspirσá them«á Wheεá ß relationshi≡ i≤á beinτá established,á thσ ì
recipien⌠á oµá thσ NF'≤ attentioε i≤ ap⌠ t∩ bσ thσ cente≥ oµá hi≤ ì
world« Thσ pursui⌠ i≤ giveε almos⌠ single-mindeΣ attentioε anΣ n∩ ì
effor⌠ i≤ spareΣ iε thσ wooing« Aε undyinτ lovσ i≤ iε thσ offing, ìèanΣ oncσ thσ physica∞ relationshi≡ i≤ consummateΣ (fo≥ ß malσ NF⌐ ì
o≥á thσ word≤ oµ lovσ spokeε (fo≥ ß femalσ NF⌐á thσá relationshi≡ ì
wil∞á bσ blesseΣ witΦ romantiπ bliss«á BotΦ N╞ male≤ anΣá female≤ ì
arσ likel∙ t∩ bσ blinΣ t∩ an∙ flaw≤ iε thei≥ beloveΣ iε thσ earl∙ ì
stage≤ oµ ß romance«á Lifσ wil∞ bσ happ∙ eve≥ afte≥ (althougΦ thσ ì
detail≤á oµá thi≤á happ∙ eve≥ afte≥ arσ usuall∙ no⌠á exploreΣá iε ì
depth)«áá Thσá romantiπá gesturσá anΣá thσá idealizatioεá oµá thσ ì
relationshi≡ arσ characteristiπ oµ thσ courtinτ behavior≤ oµá thσ ì
NF«á Thσá dreaφ i≤ sometime≤ preferreΣ t∩ reality«á A⌠ times, thσ ì
fantas∙á oµá thσ sexua∞ encounte≥ canno⌠ survivσ thσá realit∙á oµ ì
consummation, especiall∙ fo≥ thσ malσ NF.



                               ╙σ°

I⌠á appear≤á femalσá NF≤ arσ morσ ablσ t∩ sustaiεá thσá deptΦá oµ ì
romanticisφá involveΣá witΦ ß relationshi≡ longe≥ thaε malσá NFs« ì
Oncσ thσ physica∞ sidσ oµ thσ relationshi≡ i≤ acteΣ out¼ thσ malσ ì
N╞ caε losσ interes⌠ anΣ turε t∩ anothe≥ fantasy«á Iε ßá Quixotiπ ì
way¼ hσ seem≤ t∩ bσ compelleΣ t∩ pursuσ thσ impossiblσ dreaφ oµ ß ì
large≥á thaεá life¼á giant-screeεá goddes≤ wh∩ wil∞á bσá madonna¼ ì
mistress¼ lover¼ whore¼ mother¼ daughter¼ anΣ wife« Hi≤ real-lifσ ì
matσá i≤á no⌠ alway≤ ablσ t∩ measurσ up«á Thσá N╞á male¼á iεá ho⌠ ì
pursuit¼á i≤á likel∙ t∩ expres≤ ß lovσ whicΦ i≤ undyinτ bu⌠ whicΦ ì
caεá vanisΦ al∞ t∩ sooε iε thσ harsΦ ligh⌠ oµ thσ morninτá after« ì
Thσ femalσ N╞ doe≤ no⌠ demonstratσ thi≤á characteristic╗á rather¼ ì
shσá i≤á likel∙á t∩ increasσ he≥ dedicatioεá afte≥á thσá physica∞ ì
relationshi≡á i≤ consummated«á Shσ become≤ morσ anΣ morσ devoted¼ ì
continuinτá t∩á romanticizσ thσ relationshi≡ anΣ believσá iεá it≤ ì
perfection¼á t∩ givσ smal∞ transaction≤ profounΣ significance¼ t∩ ì
dramatizσá thσ interaction≤ witΦ he≥ mate¼á t∩ bσ willinτ t∩á diσ ì
fo≥á love«á Shσá seem≤á seldoφ disappointeΣ iεá thσá sexua∞á act╗ ì
orgasmiπ responsσ oε he≥ par⌠ i≤ seeε a≤ inconsequentia∞ compareΣ ì
t∩ thσ pleasurσ oµ givinτ pleasurσ t∩ he≥ mate«á Wha⌠ matter≤á i≤ ì
tha⌠ hσ i≤ fulfilleΣ anΣ satisified«á Fo≥ thσ malσ NF¼á ennuΘ caε ì
se⌠ iε a≤ ß resul⌠ oµ familiarity╗ fo≥ thσ femalσ NF¼ thi≤ i≤ no⌠ ì
a≤á likel∙á t∩ happen«á Thσ S╨ caε say¼á anΣ mean¼á witΦá Doroth∙ ì
Parker¼á "I'l∞á bσá truσá a≤á lonτá a≤á you¼á anΣá no⌠á ßá momen⌠ ì
after...,"╗ thσ femalσ N╞ i≤ morσ likel∙ t∩ havσ a≤ ß par⌠ oµ he≥ ì
matinτá identit∙á thσá imagσ oµ fallinτ iε lovσ oncσá anΣá fo≥á ß ì
lifetime«á Thσá fac⌠ tha⌠ hi≤ doe≤ no⌠ alway≤ worδ ou⌠á doe≤á no⌠ ì
negatσá thσá possibilit∙ oµ thσ dreaφ cominτá true«á Fortunately¼ ì
botΦá malσ anΣ femalσ NF≤ havσ ß capacit∙ fo≥ dee≡ affectioεá anΣ ì
carinτ ove≥ anΣ abovσ sexua∞ expression¼ anΣ ou⌠ oµ thi≤ capacit∙ ì
caε gro≈ ß lasting¼ satisfactor∙ relationship.

Iεá thσá las⌠á decadσ o≥ s∩ ß curiou≤á phenomenoεá ha≤á occurred¼ ì
perhap≤ arisinτ froφ thσ femalσ NF≤ characteristiπ oµ maintaininτ ì
he≥á romantiπ dreaφ eveε iε thσ facσ oµ ß contradictor∙á reality« ì
Thσá grou≡ tha⌠ spearheadeΣ thσ sexua∞ revolutioε werσ thσ femalσ ì
NFs«á I⌠á ha≤ beeε thσ femalσ NF≤ wh∩ havσ saiΣ N╧ t∩ thσá doublσ ì
sexua∞ (anΣ other⌐ standards« I⌠ ha≤ beeε thσ femalσ NF≤ wh∩ havσ ì
beeεá mos⌠ militan⌠ iε demandinτ equa∞ orgasmiπá rights«á I⌠á ha≤ ì
beeεá thσ femalσ NF≤ wh∩ havσ decideΣ tha⌠ the∙ arσ no⌠ surσ the∙ ìèwil∞ bσ true¼ eveε a≤ lonτ a≤ thei≥ malσ partners« Someho≈ femalσ ì
NF≤ havσ decideΣ tha⌠ thei≥ visioε oµ ß better¼ morσ satisfactor∙ ì
matinτ relationshi≡ caε bσ actualized« The∙ seeφ willing¼ iε eve≥ ì
growinτá numbers¼á t∩ takσ whateve≥ risk≤ arσ necessar∙á t∩á finΣ ì
tha⌠ relationship¼ eithe≥ iε o≥ ou⌠ oµ ß lega∞ contract« Iε fact¼ ì
morσá anΣá morσ thσ N╞ female≤ seeφ reluctan⌠ t∩á tiσá themselve≤ ì
dowεá t∩á ß lega∞ arrangement¼á puttinτ ofµ thσ urging≤ oµá thei≥ ì
housemates¼á askinτ tha⌠ botΦ wai⌠ unti∞ shσ i≤ surσ shσ i≤ doinτ ì
thσ righ⌠ thing«á Morσ anΣ morσ N╞ female≤ seeφ t∩ bσ willinτá t∩ ì
bea≥ thei≥ childreε outsidσ ß lega∞ arrangemen⌠ anΣ t∩ raisσ theφ ì
alone«á Thi≤ i≤ no⌠ t∩ sa∙ tha⌠ othe≥ type≤ arσ no⌠ als∩ involveΣ ì
iε thi≤ movement¼á bu⌠ i⌠ i≤ thσ NFs¼ alonτ witΦ ß limiteΣ numbe≥ ì
oµá N╘á females¼á wh∩á providσ thσ vanguarΣá oµá thσá revolution« ì
InsteaΣá oµ beinτ read∙ anΣ willinτ t∩ diσ fo≥ love¼á thσ curren⌠ ì
N╞á femalσ seem≤ t∩ bσ willinτ t∩ livσ fo≥ thσ possibilit∙á oµá ß ì
bette≥ wa∙ oµ relatinτ t∩ mates.



                          ╔ε⌠σ≥≡σ≥≤∩εß∞

BotΦ malσ anΣ femalσ NF≤ arσ likel∙ t∩ bσ charminτ mates¼á anΣá ß ì
sourcσ oµ continuinτ warmth¼ support¼ anΣ understanding« The∙ arσ ì
usuall∙á read∙ t∩ lenΣ sympath∙ t∩ ß matσ wheε thσ outsidσá worlΣ ì
turn≤ hostilσ anΣ arσ no⌠ ap⌠ t∩ usσ tha⌠ momen⌠ t∩ poin⌠ ou⌠ thσ ì
error≤á oµá ß mate'≤ ways¼á somethinτ whicΦ othe≥ type≤ migh⌠á bσ ì
tempteΣ t∩ do« Thσ NF≤ arσ generall∙ skilleΣ socially¼ anΣ peoplσ ì
usuall∙á fee∞ wanteΣ anΣ well-hosteΣ iε thei≥ homes«á The∙á ofteε ì
arσ expert≤ iε thσ art≤ oµ appreciation¼á especiall∙ iε thσá areß ì
oµá persona∞ characteristics¼á anΣ the∙ arσ ap⌠ t∩ bσ generou≤ iε ì
expressinτ thesσ appreciation≤ t∩ thei≥ mate«á I⌠ i≤ probabl∙ thσ ì
N╞ wh∩ i≤ thσ mos⌠ loving¼á dedicated¼ affectionate¼ appreciativσ ì
mate¼ anΣ i≤ unstintinτ iε thσ expressioε oµ thesσ emotions¼ botΦ ì
t∩ matσ anΣ t∩ children«á Thei≥ conversations¼ particularl∙ thosσ ì
oµá extraverteΣá NFs¼á arσá ap⌠ t∩ bσá sprinkleΣá witΦá term≤á oµ ì
endearment¼á especiall∙ iε private«á Thσ N╞ caε bσ a≤ extravagan⌠ ì
a≤ aε S╨ wheε expressinτ lovσ througΦ thσ mediß oµ gifts¼ bu⌠ thσ ì
N╞ i≤ morσ thaε likel∙ t∩ presen⌠ thσ gif⌠ iε private¼ anΣ selec⌠ ì
witΦá extraordinar∙ carσ somethinτ witΦ specia∞ o≥ eveεá symboliπ ì
meaning«á NFs¼á botΦ malσ anΣ female¼ usuall∙ remembe≥ birthdays¼ ì
anniversaries¼á anΣá thσ likσ withou⌠ beinτ prompted¼á o≥ a⌠ mos⌠ ì
needinτ onl∙ ß hint«á If¼á iε turn¼á thσ NFsº milestone≤ arσá no⌠ ì
heeded¼á the∙ arσ deepl∙ hurt¼ a≤ deepl∙ a≤ the∙ arσ appreciativσ ì
wheε their≤ arσ noticed.

AlthougΦ NFs¼á especiall∙ thσ malσ NF¼á becomσ restles≤ iµ other≤ ì
(includinτ mates¼á children¼á o≥ parents⌐ arσ dependent¼ NF≤ havσ ì
iεá thei≥á owε personalitie≤ characteristic≤á tha⌠á promotσá thi≤ ì
dependency«á The∙á pridσ themselve≤ oε beinτ sensitivσ t∩á other≤ ì
anΣá carinτá abou⌠ them«á I⌠ i≤ almos⌠ impossiblσ fo≥ NF≤á t∩á bσ ì
unawarσá oµá othersºá psychologica∞ needs«á Ye⌠á thσá N╞á become≤ ì
restles≤á wheεá thesσá tie≤ begiε t∩ bind¼á a≤ the∙ d∩á wheεá thσ ì
amoun⌠á oµ emotiona∞ inpu⌠ become≤ ß psychologica∞á overloaΣá fo≥ ì
thσá NF«áá A⌠á thi≤á poin⌠á thσá N╞á caεá seeφá cruel¼á insistinτ ì
unexpectedl∙á tha⌠á thσ othe≥ "stanΣ oε hi≤ owε tw∩á feet.óá Thi≤ ìèshif⌠ iε attitudσ i≤ usuall∙ abrup⌠ anΣ thσ persoε wh∩ heretoforσ ì
believeΣ tha⌠ hσ wa≤ ver∙ specia∞ iε thσ eye≤ oµ thσ N╞ no≈ find≤ ì
himselµá apparentl∙ rejected«á Thσ N╞ doe≤ no⌠ meaε t∩ bσ unkind╗ ì
hσá o≥á shσ i≤ simpl∙ dosconnectinτ ß relationshi≡ whicΦá caεá n∩ ì
longe≥á bσ handleΣ -iε spitσ oµ thσ realit∙ tha⌠ thσá N╞á createΣ ì
thi≤á dependen⌠á relationshi≡ througΦ expression≤ oµ empath∙á anΣ ì
uniquσ understanding«á Buildinτ empathiπ relationship≤ i≤á seconΣ ì
naturσ t∩ thi≤ temperament¼á ß maste≥ oµ thσ ar⌠ oµ intimacy« Bu⌠ ì
a≤á thosσá arounΣ thσ N╞ wan⌠ morσ anΣ morσ attention¼á morσá anΣ ì
morσá expression≤á oµ thi≤ unusua∞ appreciation¼á morσá anΣá morσ ì
signal≤á oµá dee≡ affection¼á thσ N╞ matσá become≤á restles≤á anΣ ì
resentfu∞á oµ pressure≤ t∩ delive≥ wha⌠ haΣ seemeΣ promised║á thσ ì
idea∞ love¼á thσ perfec⌠ friendship¼á completσ understanding¼ anΣ ì
tota∞ acceptance.

Thσá N╞ i≤ vulnerablσ t∩ thi≤ kinΣ oµ misunderstandinτ becausσ oµ ì
hi≤á extraordinar∙ capabilitie≤ t∩ introject«á Hσ caεá takσá int∩ ì
himselµá thσ poin⌠ oµ view¼á thσ emotions¼á anΣ thσ psychologica∞ ì
statσá oµá anothe≥á s∩ completel∙ tha⌠ thσá othe≥á feel≤á totall∙ ì
received«á Thσ othe≥ persoε ma∙ no⌠ realizσ tha⌠ thσ N╞ doe≤ thi≤ ì
iε mos⌠ relationships¼á anΣ ma∙ bσ hur⌠ oε discoverinτ tha⌠ hσ i≤ ì
no⌠á valueΣ a≤ uniquel∙ a≤ hσ firs⌠ thought«á Wheε thσ N╞á leave≤ ì
eacΦá person¼á thσá N╞ n∩ longe≥ resonate≤ t∩á tha⌠á person¼á bu⌠ ì
relate≤ t∩ thσ persoε no≈ present« Understandably¼ thi≤ caε causσ ì
somσá difficult∙á iε thσ matinτ relationshi≡ fo≥ mate≤á wh∩á wan⌠ ì
thi≤ characteristiπ t∩ bσ exerciseΣ morσ exclusively╗á thσ N╞ ma∙ ì
no⌠ kno≈ ho≈ no⌠ t∩ responΣ t∩ thσ emotiona∞ demand≤ oµ others.



                             ╙∩πΘß∞

┴á dange≥á aε N╞ face≤ iε hi≤ intimatσ relationship≤ i≤á tha⌠á hσ ì
wil∞á movσ froφ relationshi≡ t∩ relationshi≡ rathe≥á thaεá makinτ ì
thσ necessar∙ effor⌠ t∩ develo≡ thosσ alread∙ existing«á Thσ NF'≤ ì
tendenc∙á t∩á experiencσá anticipatioε a≤á morσá attractivσá thaε ì
consummatioε caε causσ hiφ t∩ usσ hi≤ energie≤ pursuinτ thσ dreaφ ì
a⌠ thσ expensσ oµ wha⌠ i≤ actuall∙ available« Oncσ aε N╞ believe≤ ì
tha⌠á hσá o≥á shσá kno≈á al∞ therσá i≤á t∩á kno≈á abou⌠á another¼ ì
disinteres⌠ set≤ in╗ restlessnes≤ anΣ ß sensσ oµ boredoφ develop« ì
NFs¼á a≤á d∩á othe≥ types¼á wan⌠ ß certaiε amoun⌠ oµ variet∙á anΣ ì
changσá iεá thei≥ lives«á Othe≥ types¼á however¼á ma∙á seeδá thi≤ ì
througΦá intellectua∞ pursuits¼á adjustmen⌠ oµá livinτá routines¼ ì
vacations¼á ne≈ activities«á Thσ N╞ i≤ mos⌠ vulnerablσ t∩ seekinτ ì
thi≤ througΦ searchinτ ou⌠ ne≈ relationships¼ morσ ofteε thaε no⌠ ì
a⌠ thσ expensσ oµ deepeninτ thosσ alread∙ existing.

┴á qualit∙á aεá N╞á caε brinτ t∩á intimatσá relationship≤á i≤á aε ì
extraordinar∙ sensitivit∙ anΣ abilit∙ t∩ communicatσ emotionally« ì
Iε thσ affectivσ area≤ thσ N╞ i≤ withou⌠ equal«á N∩ othe≥ typσ i≤ ì
a≤á sympathiπá t∩á other≤ a≤ i≤ thσ NF«á A≤ mate≤ the∙ caεá bσá ß ì
sourcσá oµá warmth, appreciation, anΣ suppor⌠ whicΦá othe≥á type≤ ì
havσ difficult∙ emulating.

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                            ─∩φσ≤⌠Θπ

Afte≥ thσ honeymooε i≤ over¼á thσ matσ oµ aε N╞ caε fee∞ le⌠ dowε ì
wheεá thσ realit∙ oµ livinτ witΦ thσ N╞ ma∙ bσ iεá somσá contras⌠ ì
witΦ wha⌠ wa≤ anticipated«á Thσ discover∙ b∙ thσ matσ tha⌠ thσ N╞ ì
is¼á afte≥á all¼á les≤ thaε perfec⌠ ofteε result≤ iε feeling≤á oµ ì
resentmen⌠ ill-deserveΣ b∙ thσ NF¼ bu⌠ nonetheles≤ real« N╞ mate≤ ì
themselve≤á arσá iεá ßá dilemma«áá The∙á arσá caugh⌠á u≡á iεá thσ ì
romanticizeΣáá expectation≤á oµá thσá psychologica∞á anΣáá sexua∞ ì
experiencσá generateΣ iε thei≥ owε perception≤ anΣ encourageΣá b∙ ì
others« Thσ fantas∙ i≤ morσ thaε likel∙ t∩ bσ exaggerateΣ b∙ botΦ ì
thσá N╞á anΣ thσ mate¼á anΣ i⌠ i≤ ß commoε experiencσ fo≥ NF≤á t∩ ì
expres≤ tha⌠ anticipatioε wa≤ morσ delightfu∞ thaεá consummation« ì
Thσá actua∞á sexua∞á act¼áá iεá particular¼áá caεá bσá les≤á thaε ì
anticipated¼á for¼á morσ ofteε thaε not¼ thσ NF'≤ romantiπ naturσ ì
wil∞á no⌠á allo≈ hiφ o≥ he≥ t∩ acquirσ sexua∞á expertisσá througΦ ì
study« Rathe≥ the∙ seσ themselve≤ a≤ someho≈ supposeΣ t∩ kno≈ thσ ì
appropriatσá lovinτá anΣ tende≥á approacΦá intuitivly«á Consulinτ ì
scientifiπá studie≤á i≤á seeεá a≤ colΣ aεá objecivσá anΣá someho≈ ì
destructive«á Thus¼á thσá actua∞á sexua∞ relationshi≡á ma∙á bσá ß ì
letdowεá initiall∙á anΣ ß disappointmen⌠ t∩ botΦá partner≤á unti∞ ì
botΦ acquirσ thσ necessar∙ competency.

AlthougΦá NF≤á arσ almos⌠ hypersensitivσ t∩ thσá mood≤á oµá thei≥ ì
mates¼á especiall∙á iµá the∙ arσ als∩ introverts¼á the∙á ma∙á no⌠ ì
alway≤á bσ willinτ t∩ dea∞ positivel∙ witΦ thσ other'≤á emotiona∞ ì
reactions« NF≤ repor⌠ tha⌠ the∙ finΣ thei≥ owε emotiona∞ circuit≤ ì
ofteε s∩ overloadeΣ witΦ thei≥ owε concern≤ tha⌠ the∙ canno⌠ dea∞ ì
witΦ thσ emotiona∞ experience≤ oµ other≤ wh∩ arσ especiall∙ closσ ì
t∩ them¼ particularl∙ wheε experience≤ involvσ conflic⌠ anΣ hurt« ì
Thus¼ thσ mate≤ oµ NF≤ caε seσ thei≥ mate≤ respondinτ t∩ relativσ ì
stranger≤á witΦ ß degreσ oµ warmtΦ anΣ acceptancσ tha⌠ ma∙ no⌠ bσ ì
availablσ t∩ them.

A≤ parents, NF≤ arσ sensitivσ t∩ thσ viewpoin⌠ oµ thei≥ children, ì
sometime≤á t∩á thσá poin⌠á oµ sidinτ witΦ theφá iεá ßá wa∙á whicΦ ì
reinforce≤á thσ youngstersº antisocial, self-defeatinτ behaviors« ì
Aεá N╞á parent,á fo≥ example, caε rusΦ t∩á rescuσá ßá chilΣá froφ ì
consequence≤á oµá hi≤ wrongdoinτ and, iε thσ process, no⌠á permi⌠ ì
thσ chilΣ t∩ develo≡ necessar∙ skill≤ whicΦ hσ need≤ t∩ dea∞ witΦ ì
thσ realitie≤ oµ ß les≤ protectivσ world.