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- Focusing on the Family
- By Chuck Colson
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- In the late 1970s President Jimmy Carter announced a White House
- "Conference on the Family." Yet instead of praise for his efforts to
- bolster a crumbling institution, Carter received howls of outrage from
- militant groups. Their objection?
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- The word FAMILY, it seems, was too restrictive, connoting a traditional
- household of husband, wife, and children and excluding single parents,
- couples living together, homosexual partners, and other combinations.
- Bending to the pressure, White House officials renamed their meeting the
- "conference on Families."
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- I wasn't overly troubled at the time: The protesters seemed a fringe
- element at best, and surely such semantic games couldn't do much harm.
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- Well, I was wrong. This wasn't merely another case of politicians
- placating special interests but the opening salvo of a concerted assualt
- upon the traditional American family.
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- By the end of eighties, the campaing was in full stride. Last June, for
- example, over the protests of Christans and civic leaders, San Francisco
- officials passed a "domestic partnership" law, entitling two people
- living together who attest that they have "an intimate and committed
- relationship of mutual caring" to the same rights as those legally bound
- in marriage.
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- In Washington, DC, a 25 member commission is examining " new forms of
- the American family." (I've become increasingly leery when Washington
- convenes a commission to study anything - let alone the constitutional
- unit of Western civilization.) Last year New York City officials granted
- a gay man full familial status and the right to his dead lover's
- rentcontrolled apartment. Then mayor Koch, a bachelor, explained that
- marriage is no longer necessary for a "strong family unit."
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- Still, many observers dismissed these actions as merely special interest
- pressures of trendy, elite politics. After all, in San Francisco
- ordinary voters overturned the domestic partnership ordinance - in the
- city with the lartes, loudest homosecual population in American. Surely
- this demonstrated that the American people have better sense that to
- seriouly consider redefinig the family.
-
- But now I wonder.
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- When the Massachusetts Mutual Life Insurance Company recently surveyed
- its policy holders for a definition of the American family, 75 percent
- chose the description, " a group of people who love and care for one
- another." Only 25 percent picked the historic difinition of " a group of
- people trlated by blood, marriage, or adoption."
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- So, by three to one, not only is a gay couple with adopted children a
- family; so is a heterosexual couple living together for a few months.
- For that matter, so is a fraternity house.
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- What the Massachusetts Mutual poll tells us is that we are no longer
- dealing with fanatical fring factors seeking to fool with the family.
- Now the man or woman on the street is saying, in effects, that a family
- is anything you want it to be.
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- What is dangerous about all this is the way changes in language precede
- changes in ideas. In George Orwell's 1984, a totalitarian government
- controls the people's thoughts by controlling their language. With no
- word for the idea of revolution, for example, the people never thought
- to revolt.
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- Today this process is imposed not by some sinister, totalitarian force,
- but rather by a society that has neutered any language that connotes a
- moral judgement. So "living in sin" becomes " living together"; "broden
- bomes" are just "single parent families"; homosexuals, or the "gay
- community," simply pursue an "alternative lifestyle."
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- To speak plainly, all this has frightening implications for society. To
- redefine the family was instituted by God for the propagation of the
- human race. it is the first school of human instruction. It is the
- promary means by which a society transmits values and standards of right
- and wrong from one generation to the next.
-
- (it is not coincidental that Harvard scholars James Q. Wilson and
- Richard Herrnstein's celebrated study documents the connection between
- crime and the lack of proper moral training in the home. When families
- fail to provide love, security, and models of reponsible behavior, they
- fail to provide the influence needed to produce chivalrous citizens.
- Our prisons are full of those whose one-parent, inner-city families
- failed to provide such training; and the rash of white-collar crime by
- youg New York investors, for example, shows that this is not relegated
- to one socio-economic bachground. When families fail to provide moral
- education, the result is immoral behavior in those they produce - from
- Watts to Wall Street.)
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- Perhaps all this sounds rather hysterical; a secular observer might well
- label my concerns the ravings of an intolerant fundamentalist. But when
- three-quarters of the country has been duped to think of the family as
- any free folowing sort of associantion, I think it's time to be
- hysterical.
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- In a pluralistic society, acceptance of differing points of view is a
- noble and necessary virtue. But when it runs amuck, it can create havoc
- in our most precious institutions. The destruction of the family and the
- resulting destruction of values is too high a price to pay to indulge
- the whims of trendy tolerance.
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- Charles W. Colson is chairman of Prison Fellowship.
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- This article was taken from Jubilee, October 1990 issue, page 7.
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