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- Date: Thu, 12 Nov 1992 17:45:00 EDT
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- From: KMORGAN@WHEATNMA.BITNET
- Subject: Re: Sexism, etc.
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- On 12 November, Rick writes:
-
- >There =are= problems which exist for =both= men and women,
- >which are based on inappropriate behaviors by members of the
- >other sex. Those problems, however, will not be solved by
- >groups consisting solely of men *OR OF WOMEN*. They will be
- >solved by groups of =people= who recognize both the equality
- >and the unique differences inherent in the sexes.
-
- I agree. You might be interested in reading _The
- Mismeasure of Woman_, by Carol Tavris. It's about a year old
- now, I think.
-
-
- >Neither "female-bashing" masculinists nor "all sex is
- >rape" feminists are doing anything positive for their sexes,
- >the former are perpetuating myths which disempower women
- >while the latter are preaching hatred and prejudice under a
- >guise of supporting women. Both are equally sexist and
- >bigoted.
-
- And so are these two sentences. At least, they
- reflect a bias which is so close to home that Rick, bless his
- heart, doesn't even see it. And it is a bias that disturbs
- me very much. The bias is present in the examples used to
- describe and define both groups. In these sentences,
- masculinists are people (presumably men), who do "female-
- bashing," which means that they "perpetuate myths which
- disempower women," while feminists are people (presumably
- women) who claim that "all sex is rape," which means that
- they are "preaching hatred and prejudice under a guise of
- supporting women." To say that "masculinists perpetuate
- myths which disempower women" implies that women are
- currently disempowered by those myths (otherwise, how could
- the masculinists be "perpetuating" something?) However, I
- don't understand the linking of "feminists" to sex (as an
- _act_, for the etymologists in the audience). First of all,
- I've never heard any feminists (men or women) that I know say
- that "all sex is rape," though I've heard much "female-
- bashing" by both men and women. And I can imagine some
- feminist lesbians who actually like sex as an act and do not
- view "all sex as rape." In fact, I can imagine some
- HETEROSEXUAL feminists, like myself for instance, who like
- sex and do not view "all sex as rape."
- Secondly, how is it that feminism is all about sex?
- In my view, this SERIOUSLY trivializes the issue of equal
- opportunity regardless of sex (the _noun_ that we use to
- denote the category under which one may find the
- subcategories "male" and "female"), which is what I thought
- feminism was about. There's the first bias presented in what
- is otherwise a thoughtful series of statements.
-
- The second is apparent in the assertion that to claim
- that "all sex is rape" (assuming somebody does, albeit
- whether or not that somebody is by necessity a feminist
- remains to be demonstrated) is "preaching hatred and
- prejudice." One cannot be preaching hatred of men (I assume
- of men, since the closer to this line is "under the guise of
- supporting women") by claiming "all sex is rape" unless the
- sex one is speaking of involves men (otherwise the two are in
- no way linked--men and sex, that is). So in this statement,
- it appears that the assumption is that there are people who
- when they have sex are actually raping,and that those people
- are men. In other words, Rick, you're perpetuating the
- stereotype yourself in labelling what you claim these kinds
- of feminists are doing! I could go further but I think you
- catch my drift....
-
-
- >Years ago, as an undergraduate at the University of
- >Michigan, I enrolled in a women studies class called "Women
- >and the Law" which examined the effects of sexism on women
- >in today's society. At the time, I felt it important to my
- >growth to more fully understand the subtilities of the
- >issue. The class had a discussion group element - and I was
- >the only man enrolled (I believe women's studies are
- >important for men to participate in).
-
- I admire your thinking in this regard, and I agree--
- men should participate in women's studies.
-
- >In the first meeting of the discussion group the question
- >was raised as to the appropriateness of a man participating
- >in the class. I assumed the consensus would be that it was a
- >positive indicator that at least =some= men were interested
- >in the issues. It turned out that the consensus was that it
- >was disgusting that a man was present, that it would prevent
- >free discussion of the issues...
-
- This might be true--data indicate that in mixed
- conversational groups, women do not talk as much as they do
- in groups of only women. This is a problem for us at Wheaton
- right now, as we see what is happening to classroom dynamics
- now that we've gone co-ed.
-
- >...but that the regulations of the University permitted it
- >so there was nothing that could be done other than to
- >tolerate my unwanted presence. The discussion leader (an
- >Assistant Professor, as I recall) was as hostile toward my
- >presence as any student. I left the discussion group and
- >dropped out of the UM....
-
- Not before writing an accurate and seething letter of
- complaint to the department and University President about
- this situation, I hope! It sounds highly illegal and
- inappropriate to me!
-
- >This type of behavior is all too frequent in academic
- >settings...
-
-
- I wouldn't limit it to that setting only....
-
- >...and it underlines a basic problem with the women's
- >movement - an unwillingness to involve men in the issues -
- >and a very strong tendancy to stereotype men as inaccurately
- >as we are accused of stereotyping women.
-
- Rick, I understand your frustration, but no group is
- going to suddenly throw open the doors of welcome to the
- group which they perceive has wronged them without venting a
- little anger first. It happened in other civil rights
- movements. This one is no different. Patience, patience....
-
- >Those who point their fingers at "Playboy" as proof that men
- >view women as sex objects rather than as individuals might
- >want to consider the literary merits of "Playgirl" as well!
-
- Point I: There is only ONE "Playgirl." There is,
- however, in addition to "Playboy," "Penthouse," "Hustler,"
- "Esquire," and a whole host of others.
-
- Point II: The data are available which show that
- "Playgirl"'s largest readership and the one that keeps them
- in print consists of gay men.
-
-
- My $1.50,
-
- --Kathy Morgan
- kmorgan@wheatnma.bitnet
-