Play and Learn 2/19941.ZIP/19941/EDUCMISC/PARENTS/QREWARD.TXT

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This child's parents have got @1 trained to     ';
look to them for approval.  They carefully      ';
reward what they like and approve of.           ';
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This child has a long list of things to do that ';
the parents check daily.  The parents then de-  ';
cide what the child will receive as a result of ';
@2 behavior.  Things like trips with parents,   ';
prizes, and activities are determined in this   ';
manner.  They always notice anything done right.';
Reward #1   ';
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This child's parents have @1 focused on,        ';
determing the importance of things to @1 .      ';
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They often present @1 with problems, challenges ';
and tasks that have a teaching purpose.  They   ';
encourage the child to get involved with them   ';
and to determine what @3 learned.  They         ';
encourage @1 to work and think for @1 self.     ';
They look for things @3 is interested in and    ';
get excited about as sources of rewards.        ';
Reward #2   ';
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This child's parents are always on the lookout  ';
for things @3 wants or would enjoy.             ';
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When they identify something that @3 wants,     ';
they set up a way that @3 can get it.  This     ';
ususally involves earning it over time by       ';
behaving in an acceptable manner.  This is      ';
usually determined beforehand so that @3 knows  ';
just what @3 has to do and for how many times   ';
in order to get something @3 wants.             ';
Reward #3   ';
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This child's parents are always looking for ways';
to broaden @2 horizons and to give @1 more      ';
chances to decide things for @1 self.           ';
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They tie this freedom and opportunity to speci- ';
fic things @3 must do to demonstrate that @3    ';
is ready to take on this opportunity.           ';
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When @3 shows, by @2 behavior, that @3 can      ';
handle it, @3 is given the chance.              ';
Reward #4   ';
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This child's parents believe that the more you  ';
handle, the more you should be expected to      ';
handle.                                         ';
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For the child, they tie this into the process of';
growing up.  As @3 demonstrates by @2 behavior  ';
a certain level of responsibility, they recog-  ';
nize it by letting @1 take on a greater measure ';
of responsibility with greater independence. Any';
increase in responsibility is a source of joy.  ';
Reward #5   ';
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This child's parents are constantly encouraging ';
@1 to be @1 self.  They ask @1 what @3 likes    ';
and does not like.  They then think of ways for ';
@1 to do more of the things @3 likes and not    ';
to have to do the things @3 does not like. They ';
tie this into @1 doing the things they would    ';
like @1 to be doing.                            ';
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They negotiate an agreement where @3 behaves in ';
a given way so things will be more @2 way.      ';
Reward #6   ';
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This child's parents are always looking for ways';
to stretch @1 and to get @1 to grow and         ';
develop.                                        ';
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They are involved in @2 education and tend to   ';
see the educational value in everything.  They  ';
believe in mastering each step before moving on ';
on to the next. If ready, @3 gets to take on    ';
the next challenge.  Taking on the next chal-   ';
lenge means more involvement and a new success. ';
Reward #7   ';
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This child's parents comment on every positive  ';
or acceptable thing that @3 does.               ';
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Their comments are focused on how well @3 did,  ';
at any time.  They focus on the positive and    ';
convey the sense that they are pleased with all ';
the positive progress being made, no matter how ';
small that progress might be.  They do not even ';
have to be involved, these positive comments    ';
come even when they hear of anything good.      ';
Reward #8   ';
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This child's parents focus on rewarding all be- ';
havior that demonstrates that the child did what';
@3 was told or was obedient to those in         ';
authority.                                      ';
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They make use of a wide variety of rewards and  ';
often allow teachers or friends to give out the ';
rewards if and when the child does something    ';
he was told to do.  In fact, greater rewards are';
available for obedience without hesitation.     ';
Reward #9   ';
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This child's parents tie social freedom to the  ';
behavior at home.                               ';
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The better the behavior @3 shows at home, the   ';
more @3 can be with others. This even applies   ';
to being with the family.  When @2 behavior     ';
is acceptable @3 has total freedom to be with   ';
the family and to take part in all of the things';
that the family is doing.  The parents make sure';
that behaving means belonging.                  ';
Last Reward ';