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- From: thurlow@convex.com (Robert Thurlow)
- Subject: Re: Concerned about relationship
- Sender: usenet@news.eng.convex.com (news access account)
- Message-ID: <thurlow.727855042@convex.convex.com>
- Date: Sun, 24 Jan 1993 05:57:22 GMT
- References: <1993Jan22.174352.10021@fuug.fi>
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- Organization: Engineering, CONVEX Computer Corp., Richardson, Tx., USA
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- I key on two things: she won't treat your relationship as serious,
- and she obviously has not decided to really split with her husband.
- She really isn't emotionally available to you right now, is she?
- I think you are being treated very unfairly, intentionally or not,
- and that a bit of selfish thinking about your own needs is called
- for. I'd guess that this relationship will not work out for you;
- I know that's hard to hear, but you're really putting up with some
- things that you shouldn't be expected to put up with. Maybe raising
- the issue without ultimatums and such will deliver a much-needed
- wakeup call, but you may need to wait until you've decided what
- your non-negotiables are and you're emotionally ready to break off
- if your needs can't be met.
-
- I know personally that it's very hard falling deeply in love with
- someone who is not able to respond. Hang in there, things get better.
-
- Rob T
- --
- Rob Thurlow, thurlow@convex.com
- "Shouldn't I have this, shouldn't I have this, shouldn't I have all of this,
- and, passionate kisses, passionate kisses, passionate kisses, from you?"
- - "Passionate Kisses" Lucinda Williams
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