NetNews Usenet Archive 1993 #3/NN_1993_3.iso/spool/alt/romance/16287

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From: [e-mail] (Marcia)
Subject: Re: Any cure for the "Just wanna be friends" Blues?
Message-ID: <[e-mail]>
Organization: The Dolphin Conspiracy, Phase II
References: <[e-mail]>
Date: Fri, 22 Jan 1993 03:23:20 GMT
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In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] (Doom, Herald Of the Apocalypse) writes:
>If a man acts in a friendly, supportive, and "non-threatening" (ie: does not
>come onto you like a horny beast from hell) manner are you prone to ignore them
>as a potential candidate for romance? Is this a common thing, or is it just me?

Well, yes. They are acting like a friend, so I tend to treat them like a
friend. That is, after all, what they are telling me they want, yes? No?
Then why are they expecting me to read their minds?

Many people (myself included) have at one time or another mistaken honestly
friendly gestures as indicative that there was something else desired - and
this is a very awkward position to be in. It's much better to take these things
at face value.

Note that one does not have to act like a "horny beast from hell" to get
across the message that you are interested in something deeper than a
friendship. Several other posts have done very fine jobs of describing some
possible behaviors. But note: *you* have to do those things. *You* are the
one interested so *you* have to make that interest known. If she was
interested, it would be up to her, but since she's not, it's up to you.
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Marcia Bednarcyk                                  ADDRESSES: [e-mail]
"Sweaty Snugglebunnies."                                     [e-mail]