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- From: barrett@server.cs.jhu.edu (Dan Barrett)
- Subject: Re: expectations and idealism
- Message-ID: <1992Dec25.024704.2415@blaze.cs.jhu.edu>
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- Organization: Johns Hopkins Computer Science Department, Baltimore, MD
- References: <1992Dec22.202716.4874@cs.tulane.edu> <1992Dec23.215700.28002@plx.com>
- Date: Fri, 25 Dec 1992 02:47:04 GMT
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- >The Rodman (burger@convex1.tcs.tulane.edu) wrote:
- >: In article <22DEC199209121423@iago.caltech.edu> lanny@iago.caltech.edu (Hsieh, Lai Lanny) writes:
- >: > [ Lots o' stuff deleted. ]
- >: > Synopsis: She loves him. He is understated in word and in deed. She
- >: > feels unappreciated. He makes it seem like it's her fault.
- >: IMHO, it sounds like he's taking you and your relationship for granted.
-
- In article <1992Dec23.215700.28002@plx.com> asgard@sparky (J.R. Stoner) writes:
- >After hearing this response to a genuine question, I now feel that his (the
- >unasked remote lover's) behaviors are more honest than yours.... Has it
- >ever occurred to you that the remote one demeanor is *natural*. There is a
- >whole world of people who have genuine feelings and emotions, yet are not so
- >promiscuous in their display.
-
- Yes, maybe her boyfriend is naturally quiet. But there is a
- difference between "being quiet" and "not communicating." It sounds to me
- like there is a definite lack of communication in this relationship.
- Regardless of who is at fault, if this non-communication persists, the
- relationship is going to get progressively unhappier, at least for her.
-
- Dan
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