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From: [e-mail] (Robert Murphy)
Newsgroups: alt.romance
Subject: Re: ADVICE GIVERS - help me please
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Date: 21 Dec 92 23:47:16 GMT
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[e-mail] writes:
>          I need some help with a problem of mine.  It involves my
>boyfriend who, has moved to my hometwon for the year to make some
>money to travel.  His family lives 5 hours away, and we met when we
>were at University together and have been going out for 2 years.
>We both just graduated and took some jobs just to make some cash,
>these jobs aren't expected to last more than another 6 months.  Since
>our families live in different cities, we thought it would be nice if
>we could spend the year together, instead of having it long distance,
>which we usualyy do over the summers.
>          So here is the problem, he is really grumpy lately.  He
>complains about everything in my hometwon.  He hates his job, hates
>the weather, hates the fact that it takes us 5 hours to drive to see
>his friends.  I understand, and try to be as sympathetic as possible,
>but there is anly so much that I can take.

    <Story about party/unhappiness removed>

I would suggest that at the end of your six-month jobs, you move to his
city for six months.  That will tell you whether his attitude problem is
really due to living in your hometown, or because of something that's wrong
in the relationship.  (My guess is that it's something wrong in the
relationship.)

Regards,
Bob