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- From: fippen@ux2.cso.uiuc.edu (J. Fippen)
- Subject: I belong to her, and .........
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- Organization: University of Illinois at Urbana
- Date: Mon, 21 Dec 1992 13:07:31 GMT
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- When two people's hearts come together and touch, and they mutually
- agree to share their lives together while supporting one another, this
- is called "commitment". This is a rare word these days because the
- word "sex" has more immediate value as a sales tool in the media ( sex
- sells ) and sex is viewed as greater than love; this is the lie of the
- century. Sex without love is for the moment, while sex with love is
- forever.
- Commitment means two hearts are joined in a permanent way.
- The logical outcome of commitment is marriage; this is intended to give
- permanence to the joining of the hearts and protection to the girl in many
- ways that lesser liaisons do not. She BELONGS, not just used.
- When two hearts commit to one another is one of the great
- moments in life; I will never forget committing to my wife, nor will she
- ever forget committing to me. From this point on we both gained because
- two married people working together are more than 2 people; as they
- become more supportive of each other their efforts multiply and their
- output represents that of perhaps 3 people, or even 4 people. This is
- why strongly commited couples achieve at accelerated rates; it's
- happened to us these past 43 years, and it can happen to you. The business
- school types refer to the as "multiplication of effort".
- I don't believe any man or woman can achieve happiness or
- sucess in their endeavor without commitment. "Fence sitting" is merely
- a way to avoid commitment; it prevents a person from moving forward in
- either their marriage or their job. It is the downfall of man. I'm told that many
- women are better than one; the person who told me this doesn't have even the
- foggyest notion of what love is; his objective is glandular and not of the heart.
- He does not give of himself, he takes. Commitment takes a lot of courage, and
- people who will not commit themselves have an inner weakness which they
- often disguise as bravado or macho.They try to pass themselves off as
- "the wonder of our times" or the "master stud". They simply lack the strength
- to commit, an act of great courage.
- Yes, I belong to her, and she belongs to me, we are committed to each
- other for life. This does not mean that I "own" her, for she has a mind of her
- own, a great mind, and she thinks quite differently than I. We have differing
- interests and often vote differently, but still we each put the other ahead of
- everything else. She knows that I love her, because I tell her so every day. And
- vice versa. I cannot be happier than when I am with Elizabeth. I reccomend
- our way of life to every young person seeking happiness.
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