NetNews Usenet Archive 1992 #27/NN_1992_27.iso/spool/soc/singles/31664

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From: [e-mail] (trygve lode)
Subject: Re: Money and the Single World (was: Education and the Single World
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Date: Mon, 23 Nov 92 22:49:56 GMT
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    [e-mail] ("The Lovely and Talented" Dawn Hardin "Woo Woo") writes:

] In article <[e-mail]>, [e-mail] (tr
] ygve lode) writes:
] > In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] (Dawn Hardin) writes:
] > >In article <[e-mail]>, [e-mail]
] (trygve lode) writes:
] > >
] > >> Even if there is a minimum
] > >> balance required, I can't see that as a particularly important factor--I've
] > >> been known to let my checking account balance creep up to $15,000+ before
] > >> getting around to transferring the money elsewhere.
] > >
] > >Your sweetsie-pie persona is starting to slip, Tryg baby.  You only said
] > >this to be a shit and so you could see all the unworthies reading this
] > >group whimper.
] >
] > Now would I do a thing like that?  (And who reading this group is unworthy?)
] > Besides, wimpering isn't one of my turn-ons.
]
] But apparantly, reminding everyone of how rich/romantically successful/
] muscular/smart you are is a turn on.
]
] Someone said that they had a problem with keeping a minimum of $1500 in a
] bank account.  You say, "gosh, why is that a problem?  I have $15,000 in
] mine all the time."  As in "you mean there are starving people in the
] streets?  I don't think that's important because I just had this huge
] chocolate binge."  Or, "If there isn't enough bread, then let them
] eat cake."

Actually, I said that I personally prefer keeping separate accounts;
someone (who, for other reasons had a personal preference for not having
separate accounts) suggested that this would cost a small amount more
than a single account and that I would have to decide whether to "save
the marriage or save the money."  My point was that, to me personally,
the cost of an extra checking account or two is trivial compared to the
value of a marriage.  (Incidentally, I didn't say that I had $15,000 in
my account all the time--in fact, I try to avoid having that much money
sitting in a place where it is generating little or no income.)

] In other words, it was rude and insensitive.

Hmmmm...sounds like you need to work on this insecurity thing--you
really shouldn't let other people's mention of their personal
preferences reduce your enjoyment of life so much.  You seem to have a
very strong negative reaction when anyone posts anything suggesting that
they are happy in a relationship (in the past, you've responded with
announcing a desire to kill or at least maim the "offending" parties)
or, in this case, to a very simple response to someone pointing out what
he though were problems with my personal preferences for financial
arrangements within a marriage.

Keep in mind that, contrary to what you've claimed above, I'm not rich.
(At this point I'm still slowly working my way up to comfortable.)  I'm
certainly not romantically successful by any stretch of the imagination.
(Remember me?  I'm the one whose current--and not too infrequently
stated--feeling in regard to romantic relationships is "I feel so much
better now that I've given up all hope.")

I don't tear into you whenever you mention your past marriage or your
relationship with your ProblemYoungerMutant (since I've yet to get
involved with anyone who doesn't flee the moment either of us gets
emotionally attached to the other, I certainly have at least as much
justification for doing so as you have for tearing into me for my
occasionally being a little sloppy in managing my checking account).

Ah, well; enough of playing armchair psychologist (especially when,
technically speaking, I'm really just a therapist).  Personally, though,
I think you'd have a happier life if you didn't feel the need to get all
bent out of shape every time you interpret what someone posts as
implying that some small aspect of his or her life is slightly better
than the corresponding aspect of yours.

Trygve  (Where is Kurt Vonnegut when we need him?)