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- From: kgorman@bbn.com (Karen Gorman)
- Newsgroups: soc.singles
- Subject: Re: What is attractive to women?
- Date: 23 Nov 1992 15:07:25 GMT
- Lines: 33
- Message-ID: <lh1stdINN3gt@news.bbn.com>
- References: <1992Nov18.203319.22569@b8.b8.ingr.com>> <7260@news.duke.edu>
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- In article <7260@news.duke.edu>, diamond@acpub.duke.edu (Elizabeth Abrams)
- writes:
- > In article <thurlow.722367772@convex.convex.com> thurlow@convex.com
- >(Robert Thurlow) writes:
- |>>I had a boss once, "Bob", who thought all "Robert"s liked to be called
- |>>"Bob" the way he liked to be called "Bob", and he called me "Bob" every
- |>>time I talked to him through my summers at the pulp mill. To this day,
- |>>I refuse to answer to "Bob", though I will on occasion ask someone who
- |>>uses the name "Bob" who they might be referring to if there's no one else
- |>>around.
- |>
- |> Wow, sounds as bad as being named 'Elizabeth' in a decade in which popular
- |> consensus has decreed that all Elizabeths be called 'Liz'. I often
- |> introduce myself as Elizabeth Abrams because it sounds more formal and
- |> adult than Beth Abrams,
-
- During this introduction, do you state clearly that you prefer to be
- addressed as Elizabeth or Beth, or whatever you wished to be addressed as
- (since there are so many nicknames/variations on the name Elizabeth and
- Robert too)?
-
- |> but this often backfires when someone decides
- |> to call me Liz in attempt to sound friendly (and earns, instead, my
- |> hostility).
-
- If you didn't state your preference clearly during the introduction, then
- I really don't think hostility is called for, particularly since you
- realize people are just trying to be friendly.
-
-
-
- Karen
- kg@bbn.com
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