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In article <1992Nov20.094245.4156@memstvx1.memst.edu> anthrlib@memstvx1.memst.edu writes:
>Hello Out There!
>
>I am in desperate need of advice, help, whatever.... For the last three
>monthes I've been falling for one of the nicest guys on the planet (or so I
>thought). He seemed very interested at first---before he knew that I was. Now
>that he knows that I'm interested (I told him) he's bolted! I'm so confused.
>Never had this problem before. Any advice? Suggestions? Possible solutions?
>etc? Has this happened to any of you? I don't get an opportunity to read the
>news often--so please feel free to email me at:
>
Damn, another victim of the boy-disease. Boys are not comfortable with
closeness, only pursuit. They love to chase, love the thrill of the challenge,
but the MINUTE you show signs of having your attention captured, they
are finished - the thrill is over and the next conquest is to be won.
It is a killer, and it would do us all a world of good if men like this
would show visible signs of the disease. They are so engaging when they
are in pursuit mode, though, that even if they had a big sign blinking
in neon on their forehead, we'd probably ignore it, thinking "for me it will
be different." sigh....
If it helps, remember than he never really was interested in *you* just in the
game you offered. If you back off and recover your own interests and amusements, he might regain his former interest in the challenge you present, but do you really want that? <if you couldn't tell, I am just recently over a case of this myself - it is painfully common.>
