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Newsgroups: soc.singles,alt.sex,alt.polyamory
Subject: Re: raising children
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Date: 17 Nov 92 23:39:38 -0500
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In article <sf03bq600VB2I_DkV=@andrew.cmu.edu>, [e-mail] (Rebecca Ann Stallings) writes:
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> Steve Walz writes:
>>Independent and enterprising? Single-parent children? Like hell they
>>are. They tend to either be more shy and insecure or else boisterous
>>and potentially a behavior problem.
>     Single-parent chidren have as many individual personalities as
> double-parent children do.  Making generalizations, either positive or
> negative, about their behavior is unfair.
>
>>Even at age ten my son confessed that the time he spent at home alone
>>was the scariest time he recalls from his young life. And he only spent
>>about an hour before both of us were home.
>     Okay, that's the way your son felt.  At age eight, I loved the two
> hours twice a week I spent alone while my mom went with my brother to
> gymnastics class and my dad was at work.  I liked having the house to
> myself, and I didn't find it frightening at all.
>
>>The role models in the society are shit, but your
>>kid is going to pick them up. If they have only a dad or only a mom,
>>they are going to pick up an incomplete set with which to make
>>improvements later.
>     As several other posters have said, being raised by a single parent of
> one sex doesn't mean a child has no role models of the opposite sex.  An
> example:  For a while, a single mother and her little girl lived next
> door to my parents.  Kristi's primary role model was her mother, and
> some other role models (her teacher, etc.) were female, but she spent a
> lot of Saturdays hanging out in our backyard helping my dad in the
> garden, and they talked about lots of different things and enjoyed
> spending time together.  I'd say that made him a role model.
>
>>With no dad, they aren't going to pick up on things that men know and
>>they will either be lousy fathers, or else they will marry lousy
> fathers. >With no mom they won't know what a woman is about.
>     What things do men know?  What is a woman about?  I sense more
> stereotypes here. . . .
>


Hmmm.  Maybe you people need to see it in another perspective.
The children that frequent my convenience store are mostly
fatherless ones.  They were raised by black mothers who had a father
figure in the house often.. The problem is, most of them don't
stick around long enough to learn the kids names.

So these little brats come into my store, with their chip on their
shoulder, and try to buy cigarettes.  The law in
Virginia states that one must be 18 to purchase tobacco products.
When you ask these little lovelies  for their I.D., you are told,
immediately, to fuck off.
  If they had any respect for their elders, they would act like
humans instead if animals.

This, you see, is the result of single parent homes.

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