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- From: tlode@nyx.cs.du.edu (trygve lode)
- Subject: Re: Being Alone?
- Message-ID: <1992Nov17.075553.5389@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu>
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- Organization: Nyx, Public Access Unix @ U. of Denver Math/CS dept.
- References: <1992Nov14.105811.1400@jarvis.csri.toronto.edu> <1992Nov15.142817.13083@mnemosyne.cs.du.edu> <oneil.721868088@cwis>
- Date: Tue, 17 Nov 92 07:55:53 GMT
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- In article <oneil.721868088@cwis> oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil) writes:
- >
- >I honestly believe -- and have been told I'm unusual for this belief -- that
- >in a relationship, friendship should come before romance. Personally, I've
- >*never* fallen head over heels in love with someone unless I was friends
- >first. Maybe it *is* a little cynical, but I just don't believe in love at
- >first sight, for myself anyway.
-
- I think you are unusual, though not unique, in this respect--it's been
- my experience that for most people, once they perceive you as a friend,
- they will no longer ever be able to perceive you as a potential romantic
- possibility. Personally, I think your way is more reasonable, but it's
- still very much the less popular tactic.
-
- Trygve
-