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- Path: sparky!uunet!stanford.edu!leland.Stanford.EDU!muaddib
- From: muaddib@leland.Stanford.EDU (Rob Dorfman)
- Subject: Re: lying
- Message-ID: <1992Nov20.230302.3265@leland.Stanford.EDU>
- Sender: news@leland.Stanford.EDU (Mr News)
- Organization: Department of Chemistry, Stanford University
- References: <1992Nov20.212212.21312@europa.asd.contel.com>
- Date: Fri, 20 Nov 92 23:03:02 GMT
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- In article <1992Nov20.212212.21312@europa.asd.contel.com> draper@gnd1.wtp.gtefsd.com writes:
- >Sometimes I don't no where to post things, but there isn't a group
- >that primarily deals with relationships (or I don't know which one does).
- >
- >What do you do when you know your husband is lying to you? Confront him?
- >What if you know he is doing it to protect your feelings?
-
-
- This is my first post to this group. But I will do my best to
- give my opinion on this.
-
- I have been on both sides of the issue of whether to tell the truth
- or to hear it. I believe that it is in everyone's best interest to
- know the truth no matter how bad it is. I have seen that the truth
- will always reveal itself. But there are better and worse ways do to
- this.
-
- in your case (and i dont know your exact situation) if you feel that he
- is not telling you the truth there might be a non-confrontational
- way to get the truth. if the truth is not being told then he may not
- feel secure enough to tell it or he may be afraid to tell it because
- he believes it is bad. if either of these things are the case in my
- experience being supportive usually helps the truth come out. and if
- it is a bad truth then the two of you can work together to solve it.
- if it can be solved.
-
- rob
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-