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- From: blowfish@carina.unm.edu (rON.)
- Subject: Re: net.hugs?
- Message-ID: <p-qq9m+@lynx.unm.edu>
- Date: Sun, 22 Nov 92 10:14:32 GMT
- Organization: University of New Mexico, Albuquerque
- References: <h4y1#k=@rpi.edu> <cbnqh9b@lynx.unm.edu> <64z158_@rpi.edu>
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- In article <64z158_@rpi.edu> petitc@rpi.edu writes:
- > Yes, there is a difference. However, to some of us, when we get dumped by
- >someone we care for, it HURTS. Apparently, this is not true for you---since
- >this is for romantics (people who care deeply for others), it really hurts to
- >get dumped---moreso than for non-romantics.
-
- Romance and pain tolerance are two different things.
- It still hurts for me to get dumped. You seem to imply that because I don't
- post dribble like *hugs* and *kissies* to the net that I don't care deeply
- about others? In fact, I see that endless crap that goes get posted to
- alt.romance and alt.romance.chat to be shallow and offensive.
-
- >|> Let me give you a word to look up: Reality.
- > As for Reality, if it's what I see on TV, I can see why we have such problems.
-
- No- Reality. Like what goes on beyond the glass windows and walls you've built
- up. Get up from your terminal and experience it once in a while.
-
- >|> It means that if I have a boo-boo I don't go running for a support group for
- >|> a 'group-hug!' It means that I am a big boy now, and I can and do take care
- >|> of myself. Of course it doesn't mean I don't like a warm body to snuggle up
- >|> to, or a good friend to talk with- who doesn't?
- > No, but you ARE saying that other people mean very little to you, since you
- >can't be hurt by them. Psychological invunerability is only possible if
- >nobody means anything to you, which seems to be the case here, if you insist
- >that you can't get hurt.
-
- Nope, wrong again. Saying that I can help myself does not mean that I am a
- psychological superman. I don't know where you made that implication.
- I am human, I bleed.
-
- >|> Calling myself 'independent' means that I stand up for my own opinions. My
- >|> life isn't going to be over if the other 99,999 people reading this message
- >|> don't agree with my point of view. It means that if I don't get >one single
- >|> net hug< my life will not fall apart. I will go on.
- >|> Will you?
- > Well, as I said before, there are SOME TIMES when we all need hugs. And,
- >apparently, your dates/SO mean nothing to you, so you can't be hurt by them.
-
- You didn't answer the question, and again mis-represented my point of view.
- If nobody around here agrees with you, does that mean your life is over?
- If somebody hurts you, does it mean your going to go out and die?
- I'm saying that I won't. And I'm asking if you will.
-
- And, btw, saying that 'My life isn't going to be over' if nobody agrees with
- me is NOT the same as saying 'I don't care about their point of view'. If
- I get a million mail messages telling me that they all vehemtly disagree with my
- point of view, I'll certainly as hell take that into consideration. If I get
- just 1 mail message telling me they vehemtly disagree with my point of view,
- I'll take that into consideration as well. Neither means I'll change my point
- of view, but I might, its been known to happen :)
-
- One final note- The world is not a big happy joy filled place. You cannot make
- life better by pretending that it is. You want to make the world a better place?
- You had best start by looking at and living in the world (called 'reality' by
- some people). Sending and recieving *hugs* and *kissies* and *giggles* might
- make you feel better. If it does, good for you. I think its insipid.
- r.
-
