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- Subject: "Made" or "Just Happens"?
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- Date: 17 Nov 92 16:14:00 GMT
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- There has been an on-going arguement as to whether or not relationships
- have to be planned or just happen. Do you need a plan and a strategy to find
- that special SO or do you play the waiting game and let nature take its course?
- Does it just happen or do you have to make it happen? etc.
- This reminds me of an episode I saw on Donahue or Oprah or one of those
- stupid shows years ago. There were four doctors/shrinks/specialists on the show
- that had all written books on relationships; how to get involved in one, what to
- do when in one, etc.. Three out of the four people's books and beliefs painted
- a picture of smilely faces and roses: if you are a good loving person, good
- things will come to you, be yourself, happy, happy, gag, gag. The forth guy
- was an author of one of those "how to pick up chicks" books. Basically, the
- whole show was the three "happy" people, the host, and the majority of the
- audience verbally abusing this one guy. However, there were people in the
- audience, both men and women, who found what this guy had to say to be true and
- were shocked by the way the majority saw this situation through rose-colored
- glasses. These people said that it's not all that easy to find that special
- someone, that it's a game that has to be played over and over again.
- So what's my point? I want to know how other people feel about this.
- Myself, I think that anyone who doesn't see that relationships are made and
- don't just happen are either A) Living in a fantasy world, B) Been in a
- relationship too long to remember what it is like, or C) One in a million that
- were lucky enough to experience "love at first sight". So let's here it:
- Does it just happen or do you have to make it happen?
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- - Just wondering...
- Mike Poe
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