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- From: mysti@sierra.sybase.com (Mysti Rubert)
- Newsgroups: alt.romance
- Subject: Re: fliriting and not knowing it (was: Re: Question For Guys)
- Message-ID: <25785@sybase.sybase.com>
- Date: 14 Nov 92 01:31:43 GMT
- References: <1992Oct26.113640.3857@memstvx1.memst.edu> <1992Oct29.003206.11162@bsu-ucs> <Bx8FBB.D32@news.cso.uiuc.edu> <y5h1zz@rpi.edu> <BxFp60.3vw@news.cso.uiuc.edu>
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- In article <BxFp60.3vw@news.cso.uiuc.edu>, bzb47596@uxa.cso.uiuc.edu (Phaedrus) writes:
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- |> Or, are there many women who won't wait for you to do something. Since I find
- |> it hard to know when an advance is welcome, it would be nice if a woman would
- |> tell me.
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- Often, one person thinks they are being as obvious as a large piano dropped from
- 2nd story window, and that person can't believe the flirtee isn't reading the
- signals correctly. Tragic, but true.
-
- |> If I am interested in someone, eventaully I will make a move, weather
- |> or not i think they are interested.
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- Can't you just ask them if they are interested? What is this "move" jazz?
-
- |> I would hope that a woman who was
- |> interested in me would do the same.
-
- Unfortunately for you, and everybody else, many women are subject to sharp
- critcism or censure if they appear too "forward". Damned if you do, damned
- if you don't....but since you "make moves" instead of just asking yourself,
- you've little room to complain, no?
-
- |> But this is part of a delusion that i used
- |> to have: that people could actually communicate with one another.
-
- tut tut, isn't it a bit early to be picking up your marbles and going
- home? Humans send out signals nonstop, and it is really just a matter of
- learning to read the signals. Don't require that everyone else learn your
- set of signals without making the effort to learn theirs. And don't forget
- to ask :)
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- Mysti Rubert, Oaktown, California
-
- "It't not the men in my life, but the life in my men." Mae West
-