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- From: oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu (Sharon O'Neil)
- Subject: Re: Being Alone?
- Message-ID: <oneil.721868612@cwis>
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- Organization: University of Nebraska at Omaha
- References: <1992Nov12.022755.17214@microsoft.com> <amymw.721677596@chaos.cs.brandeis.edu> <1992Nov15.151337.13175@bnlux1.bnl.gov>
- Date: Sun, 15 Nov 1992 23:03:32 GMT
- Lines: 44
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- schroede@bnlux1.bnl.gov (gary l. schroeder) writes:
-
- >In article <amymw.721677596@chaos.cs.brandeis.edu> amymw@chaos.cs.brandeis.edu (Amy Wisotsky) writes:
-
- >>A new boy/girlfriend can be found when the person is ready to find
- >>one. It depends entirely on the person in question. I know people
- >>that have started relationships within the same week, and others who
- >>are still hurting almost a year afterwards. I think part of it
- >>depends on the length and intensity of the relationship that ended.
-
- I'm not so sure about that. My first serious relationship lasted over a
- year. It was three years before I dated again. The last serious relationship
- lasted nearly five years and I started dating two weeks later.
-
- I do think that a lot of it depends upon being in the right place at the
- right time.
-
- Anyway:
-
- >Well, I'm glad to hear that relationships are so easy to stumble upon at
- >Brandeis, Amy. There's a lot of people out there that are "ready to
- >find one", but are still alone. Consider the possibility that you don't
- >live in a college atmosphere anymore where you're surrounded by nothing
- >but people of your own age group that you're constantly interacting
- >with. That's the great thing about college, isn't it? It's just a big
- >pool of people that you can go out with on the weekend. Well, after
- >that artificial world ends, your friends might find it difficult to
- >meet someone new within the week.
-
- After my first relationship broke up, I spent about three years living on
- a college campus surrounded by 20,000 other people and didn't date anyone.
-
- Of course, I wasn't especially interested in dating anyone and that
- probably had a lot to do with it.
-
- I think that it has a lot to do with how comfortable you are with yourself.
- I always find myself being asked out when I'm the most comfortable with
- myself.
-
- --
-
- Sharon O'Neil
- oneil@cwis.unomaha.edu
-
-