NetNews Usenet Archive 1992 #27/NN_1992_27.iso/spool/alt/polyamor/1876

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From: [e-mail] (Dave K. Sprow)
Subject: Re: raising children
Message-ID: <[e-mail]>
Reply-To: [e-mail] (Dave K. Sprow)
Organization: Silent Radio, Los Angeles
References: <[e-mail]> <[e-mail]> <[e-mail]> <[e-mail]> <[e-mail]>
Date: Mon, 23 Nov 1992 21:09:57 GMT
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In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] writes:
>In article <[e-mail]>, [e-mail] (markbr) writes:
>> In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] (Scott Moir) writes:
>>>In article <[e-mail]> [e-mail] (Pete Lancashire) writes:
>>>>>] Ask yourself, would you like to
>>>>>] have been raised in a single-parent family or a multiple parent
>>>>>] family?
>>>
>>>>"If all are 'loving', for me as many as I can get", is what I would
>>>>have wanted. But for me, just ONE caring parent would have been OK,
>>>>my parents just did not wan't me around.
>>>
>>>This brings up a good point. Not only do all involved parents (meaning
>>> N parents, where N is >= 1) need to be loving, but they must -desire-
>>>to be parents in order to be good ones. If you don't want to do something,
>>>how much effort are you going to put in to it? I'm not going to get into
>>>what 'should' be done, I'm just looking at all the families that live in
>>>the same depressed area that I do. How much good is it going to do for a
>>>kid to have a two parent family when the dad is a alcoholic who beats the
>>>kid(s) and wife, or drifts in and out of the family like a spectre?
>>>
>>>How many of you were -taught- how to parent? How many of you who have kids
>>>were ready for the job when you got it? I know that when my kids arrived on
>>>the scene I had very little idea what I was doing. Here I was 18 with a wife
>>>and a kid and I knew what -images- society put forth about what parents and
>>>husbands should be like, but no idea how to actually fit that role and still
>>>be me, and not some actor. The inability to fit those expected roles really
>>>messed me up personally and mentally, and put me through a real wringer.
>>>
>> ABSO-FUCKING-LUTLY!!!!! Isn't marriage & creating kids, to be inserted into
>> society, at *least* as requiring of training as getting a drivers' license?
>>
>> I want there to be a *requirement* for a marriage license that you have
>> taken an approved course (like the defensive driving courses) on parenting,
>> and one on relationships.
>>
>>     mark
>
>I agree. It is about time that schools, be they state or private, started
>to provide teaching on relationships, marriage and kids.
>I am not strongly religious and generally have a low view of the Church as an
>institution. But I was pleasantly surprised to find that the RC church my friend
>belonged to provided him and his future wife with guidance on relationships and
>marriage.
>
>However, church roles are declining (here at least)and so people are not receiving
>this type of counselling prior to marriage.
>
>If you all agree that this is important then maybe we can change it together
>instead of just talking about it.
>
>My $0.02 worth.
>Adios, J.

2 more cents...

University of Santa Monica offers the most cutting-edge relationship course
(both with one's self and with another(s) that I've ever seen or heard of.
Quite remarkable. Too bad we all didn't have this stuff when we were wee
ones.

David