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- The Alt.polyamory FAQ
- Culture Supplement
-
- 1.) Poly Non-fiction
-
- 2.) Poly Fiction
-
- 3.) Poly Movies
-
- 4.) Poly Songs
-
- 5.) Poly Comic Books/Graphic Novels
-
-
- Key to symbols: * indicates level of poly in piece
- ! indicates poly friendliness of piece
-
- For further information on books on this list, you can telnet the
- Library of Congress at dra.com or locis.loc.gov. The Library of Congress
- is also accessible via the WWW at http://lcweb.loc.gov/catalog
-
-
- 1.) Poly Non-fiction
-
- ***** !!!!! Deborah Anapol, "Love Without Limits" (see IRC listing under
- organizations)
- ** !! Simone De Beauvoir, "Adieux: a Farewell to Sartre"
- ***** !!!!! M. L. Carden, "Oneida: Utopian Community to Modern
- Corporation"
- ***** ! Audrey Chapman, "Mansharing: Dilemma or Choice"
- ***** !!!! G. Clanton & C. Downing, "Face to Face to Face"
- ***** !! L. & J. Constantine, "Group Marriage"
- *** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Heavenly Breakfast"
- ** !!!! Samuel R. Delany, "The Motion of Light in Water"
- ***** !!!!! Dossie Easton & Catherine Liszt, "The Ethical Slut: A
- Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities"
- ** !!!! Helen Fisher, "Anatomy of Love: The Natural History of
- Monogamy, Adultery, and Divorce"
- ** !!! Barbara Foster, Michael Foster, & Letha Hadady, "Three
- in Love: Menage a Trois from Ancient to Modern Times"
- * !! Sarah Hoagland, "Lesbian Ethics: Toward New Values"
- * ! Arno Karlen, "Threesomes: Studies in Sex, Power, and
- Intimacy"
- ***** !!!! Elizabeth Kassoff, "The Diverse Nature of Nonmonogamy
- for Lesbians: A Phenomenological Investigation"
- ***** !!!!! Aidan A. Kelly (ed), "The New Polygamy: The Polyamorous
- Lifestyle as a New Spiritual Path."
- * !! Sonia Johnson, "The Ship That Sailed into the Living
- Room: Sex and Intimacy Reconsidered."
- ***** !!!!! Kevin Lano & Claire Parry (ed), "Breaking the Barriers to
- Desire: Polyamory, Polyfidelity, and Non-monogamy"
- *** !!! R. Libby & R. Whitehurst, "Marriage and Alternatives:
- Exploring Intimate Relationships"
- *** !!! Spencer Klaw, "Without Sin"
- *** !!! R. Mazur, "The New Intimacy: Open Marriages and Alternative
- Lifestyles"
- ** ! Peter McWilliams, "Ain't Nobody's Business If You Do: The
- Absurdity of Consensual Crimes in a Free Society"
- ***** !!!!! Ryam Nearing, "Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer"
- (see PEP listing under organizations)
- ** !!! Anais Nin, "The Diaries of Anais Nin"
- **** !!!!! Nena and George O'Neill, "Open Marriage"
- *** !!! James Ramey, "Intimate Friendships"
- *** !!! Carl Rogers, "Becoming Partners: Marriage and Its
- Alternatives"
- * ! Lillian Rubin, "Just Friends: The Role of Friendship in Our
- Lives."
- ** !!!! Bertrand Russell, "Marriage and Morals"
- ** !! Meredith Small, "What's Love Got to Do With It? The
- Evolution of Human Mating."
- ***** !!! Gay Talese, "Thy Neighbor's Wife"
- *** !! Robert Thamm, "Beyond Marriage and the Nuclear Family"
- ***** !!!!! Celeste West, "Lesbian Polyfidelity"
-
-
- 1.) Poly Fiction
-
- * ! Isabel Allende, "Eva Luna"
- *** !! Thea Alexander, "2150 AD"
- ** !!! Wilhelmina Baird, "Crashcourse"
- *** !!! John Dudley Ball, "Chief Tallon and the S.O.R."
- *** !!! M. A. R. Barker, "Flamesong"
- *** !!! M. A. R. Barker, "Man of Gold"
- ** !!! Boccacio, "The Decameron", collection of short stories
- **** !!!!! Amy Bloom, "Love is Not a Pie", short story
- *** !!!! Marion Zimmer Bradley, "The Forbidden Tower"
- ** !! Rita Mae Brown, "Six of One"
- ** !!!! Heidi Brown and Jay Mussell, ed, "Friendly Erotica:
- A Question of Boundaries" (See Martin Park Com.)
- ** !! Orson Scott Card, "Saints"
- ** !!! Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia"
- ** !!! Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia Emerging"
- ** !!!! Michael Cunningham, "A Home at the End of the World"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Fifth Business"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Leaven of Malice"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Lyre of Orpheus"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "World of Wonders"
- * !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Babel-17"
- * !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Dhalgren"
- *** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "The Mad Man"
- ** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand"
- *** !!! Emily Devenport, "Scorpianne"
- *** !!!! Peter Dickenson, "King and Joker"
- ** !!! Diane Duane, "The Door into Fire"
- ** !!! Wayne Dyer, "Gifts From Eykis"
- *** !!! Robert Graves, "Watch the North Wind Rise"
- * !! Andrew Harvey, "Burning Houses"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Beyond This Horizon"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Cat Who Walked Through Walls"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Friday"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Glory Road"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Gulf"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "I Will Fear No Evil"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Methuselah's Children"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Number of the Beast"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "To Sail Beyond the Sunset"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Stranger in a Strange Land"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Time Enough For Love"
- * !!! John Irving, "The World According to Garp"
- ** !!! John Irving, "The 158-Pound Marriage"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "The Eye of the World"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "The Great Hunt"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "The Dragon Reborn"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "The Shadow Rising"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "The Fires of Heaven"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "Lord of Chaos"
- *** !!! Robert Jordan, "A Crown of Swords"
- *** !! Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Knight of Ghosts and Shadows"
- * !! Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Summoned to Tourney"
- *** !!! Ursula K. LeGuin, "A Fisherman of the Inland Sea"
- ** !!!! Doris Lessing, "The Marriages Between Zones Three, Four,
- and Five"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "The Dancers of Arun"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "A Different Light"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "The Sardonyx Net"
- *** !!! Gordon Kendall, "White Wing"
- **** !!!! Donald Kingsbury, "Courtship Rite" ("Geta" in the UK)
- ***** !!!! Kathy Koja, "Kink"
- **** ! Milan Kundera, "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
- *** !!! Michael P. Kube-McDowell, "The Quiet Pools"
- **** !!!! Larry McMurty, "Leaving Cheyenne"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Starfarers"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Transition"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Metaphase"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Nautilus"
- * !! Somerset Maugham, "Cakes and Ale"
- * !!!!! Shirley Meier, "Shadow's Daughter"
- ** !!! Mary Meigs, "The Medusa Head"
- ** !!! Hester Mundis, "Jessica's Wife"
- * ! Vladimir Nabokov, "Ada"
- **** ! Maxine Paetro, "Manshare"
- * !!! David Palmer, "Emergence"
- **** !!!! Marge Piercy, "The High Cost of Living"
- *** !! Marge Piercy, "Woman on the Edge of Time"
- *** !!! Marge Piercy, "Summer People"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Come Live My Life"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Harrad Experiment"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Immoral Reverend"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Love Exchange"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Premar Experiments"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Proposition 31"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Rebellion of Yale Marrat"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Thursday My Love"
- ** !!!! Tom Robbins, "Another Roadside Attraction"
- ** !! Elizabeth Scarbourough, "The Harem of Aman Akbar"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "The Empress of Earth"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "The Five-Twelfths of Heaven"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "Silence in Solitude"
- *** !!! George Bernard Shaw, "The Simpleton of the Unexpected
- Isles"
- *** !!!!! Starhawk, "The Fifth Sacred Thing"
- ** !!! S. M. Stirling, "Snow Brother"
- **** !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "The Cage"
- * !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "Saber and Shadow"
- *** !!!!! S. M. Stirling, Shirley Meier, & Karen Wehrstein, "Shadow's
- Son"
- *** !!! S. M. Stirling & David Drake, The General series; "The
- Forge", "The Hammer", "The Anvil", "The Steel",
- "The Sword"
- ** !!! Dylan Thomas, "Under Milk Wood"
- ** !!! John Varley, Gaia trilogy; "Demon", "Titan", "Wizard"
- ** !!! John Varley, "The Persistence of Vision"
- *** !!! John Varley, "Blue Champagne"
- ** !!! Joan D. Vinge, "The Outcasts of Heaven's Gate"
- ** !!! Alice Walker, "The Temple of My Familiar"
- **** !!! Irving Wallace, "The Three Sirens"
- **** !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Heart"
- **** !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Soul"
- *** !!! James Wharram, "Two Girls, Two Catamarans"
- ** !!! Kate Wilhelm, "Where Late the Sweet Birds Sing"
- * !!! Walter Jon Williams, "Aristoi"
- ** !!! Jeanette Winterson, "The Passion"
- ** !! Virginia Woolf, "Orlando"
-
-
- 3.) Poly Movies
-
- "Another Woman's Lipstick"
- (Denise Crosby)
- Three episodes based on "Red Shoe Diaries", first episode concerns
- a woman who has two different lovers, who satisfy different needs.
- More dishonest monogamy than polyamory.
-
- "Belle Epoque"
- (Ariadna Gil)
- Spanish film set just before the Spanish Civil War. An artist takes in
- a deserter, who repays him by sleeping with all four of his
- daughters. It's pretty light hearted and a warm farcical romp.
-
- "Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice"
- (Robert Culp, Angie Dickenson)
- This is very much a wife-swapping tale, rather than being more
- generally oriented. Widely known and raises many poly questions.
-
- "Breaking the Waves"
-
- "Cafe au Lait"
- French film about a woman who becomes pregnant by one of her lovers.
- The three of them wind up forming a family of sorts to raise the child.
-
- "The Captain's Paradise"
- Tale about a ferryboat captain on the Gibraltar/Africa run with a
- wife on each side.
-
- "A Change of Seasons"
- (Shirley Maclaine, Bo Derek)
- Maclaine's professor husband has an affair with Derek; she then has
- an affair of her own, and then the four decide to go on a holiday
- together to see whether they can work something out...
-
- "December Bride"
- A young woman in turn of the century Ireland falls in love with two
- brothers, choosing to live with them both and raise a son and daughter
- with two fathers.
-
- "Design for Living"
- (Gary Cooper, Fredrich March, Miriam Hopkins)
- Adaptation of Noel Coward's stage play about an artist (Cooper) and a
- playwright (March), friends and Americans in Paris and what happens
- when the both fall in love with a woman (Hopkins).
-
- "Enemies: A Love Story"
- (Angelica Houston, Ron Silver)
- A tale of a man and the three women in his life.
-
- "Farinelli"
- The story of the 18th century castrati opera star. There are a
- number of scenes portraying the title character and his brother
- sharing a woman. This movie is rated R.
-
- "French Twist"
- French film about a philandering husband who's wife becomes lovers with
- another woman. The wife decides not to choose between her two lovers
- and the three of them form a family in the end.
-
- "The Harrad Experiment"
- (James Whitmore, Tippi Hedron, Don Johnson)
- Adaptation of the Robert Rimmer book. Unfortunately it spends so much
- time on the topic of public nudity that it has little left over to
- deal with poly issues.
-
- "Harrad Summer"
-
- "Heartbeat"
- (Nick Nolte)
- This is the story of "beat" reporter Jack Kerouac's affair with a
- married couple.
-
- "Henry and June"
- (Uma Thurman, Fred Ward)
- Writer Henry Miller has an affair with his friend Anais Nin... and
- then his wife June shows up. Anais finds herself becoming attracted
- to June....
-
- "The Hunger"
- (Catherine Deneuve, David Bowie, Susan Sarandon)
- More bi than poly, and only a few moments of that. At the end
- Sarandon's character seems to have new lovers of both genders.
-
- "Jules and Jim"
- (Oskar Werner, Jeanne Moreau)
-
- "A Lesson in Love"
- (1954) (Ingmar Bergman)
- A romantic comedy about a doctor trying to win back his wife after
- she leaves him over an affair of his.
-
- "Lianna"
- (John Sayles)
- A professor's wife finds out he's having an affair, and at the same
- time falls in love with a female professor. More a lesbian tale than
- a poly one, but especially good at showing the effects on family and
- friends of "coming out" different.
-
- "Loving Couples"
-
- "Loving Molly"
- (Beau Bridges, Sally Fields)
- The story of three men and the one woman that they share from the time
- they are children and throughout their lives.
-
- "Lucky Lady"
- (Liza Minelli, Gene Hackman, Burt Reynolds)
- It does look like the three main characters are getting set to stay
- together at the end of the movie.
-
- "Mickey and Maude"
- (Dudley Moore)
- Light-hearted romp about a man who gets himself married to two
- different people. When everyone finds out, they try to share.
-
- "No Way Out"
- (Kevin Costner, Sean Young, Gene Hackman)
- Costner gets involved with Young, who is already involved with his
- boss (Hackman). Bad things happen. She actively says that she is
- poly (before she is killed).
-
- "Paint Your Wagon"
- (Lee Marvin, Jean Seberg, Clint Eastwood)
- Due to the scarcity of women, Marvin and Eastwood share one.
-
- "Red Shoe Diaries"
- Man finds out about girlfriends poly lifestyle after she kills
- herself. Then he meets her other lover.
-
- "The Remarkable Mr. Pennypacker"
- Tale of a traveling salesman with two complete families, one in
- Pittsburgh and the other in Philadelphia.
-
- "Rita and Sue ... and Bob too"
- A married man's affair with two younger women causes his wife to
- leave him. Can the three lovers transmute their sexual interest into
- something more lasting?
-
- "Same Time Next Year
- (Alan Alda)
- Alda has a once a year meeting with his lover (as opposed to his wife),
- most of the time is spent examining the changes in the two people in
- the intervening times.
-
- "The Seduction of Joe Tynan"
- (Alan Alda)
- Alda plays a politician who falls in love with another woman at a
- convention.
-
- "Sharing Richard"
- A lawyer, a real estate agent, and an office worker, who are best
- friends, separately meet and start dating a recently divorced doctor.
- Instead of breaking it off, they decide to share him without his
- knowledge.
-
- "She's Gotta Have It"
- One of Spike Lee's earliest films, deals with a polyamorous young
- woman and the three men who want her to choose. There are also
- alot of Afro-American male/female issues addressed in this movie.
-
- "Small Circle of Friends"
- Genuine poly values are central to the plot of this film about
- a MFM triad. Low-budget production, but asks good questions.
-
- "A Strange Affair"
- (Judith Light)
- A wife is in the process of leaving her husband for another man
- when her husband suffers an accident and requires full time care.
- So she moves her new lover in.
-
- "The Substitute Wife"
- (Lea Thomson, Farrah Fawcett)
- Thomsons character is dying, and she finds Fawcett to be a new
- wife for her husband. The family falls in love with the new woman
- and then Thomson miraculously recovers. They decide to keep the
- family together with both women.
-
- "Summer Lovers"
- (Darryl Hannah, Valerie Quenessen, Peter Gallagher)
- A young American couple on a summer vacation in the Mediterranean
- get involved with a French archaeologist.
-
- "Threesome"
- (Laura Flynn Boyle, Steven Baldwin, Josh Charles)
- The story of 2 men and 1 woman who find themselves assigned to the
- same dorm room, and the relationship that develops. Their multi-partner
- relationship is portrayed in a very poly-friendly way.
-
- "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
- (Daniel Day-Lewis, Lena Olin)
- The womanizing Tomas falls in love with the monogamous Tereza, but
- cannot give up his lover Sabina....Meanwhile, Russian tanks roll over
- Prague...
-
- "Willie and Phil"
- (Michael Ontkean, Margot Kidder, Ray Sharkey)
- Seventies movie about a polyamorous triad involved in the protest
- movement. Somewhat of a remake of "Jules and Jim"
-
- "The Wedding Banquet"
- (Winston Chao, Mitchell Lichtenstein, May Chin)
- In spite of his partner's reservations, a gay man and a starving artist
- decide to marry, he to get his traditional, matchmaking parents off his
- back and she to keep from being deported. Things get....complicated.
-
-
- 4.) Poly Songs
-
- Joan Armatrading, "The Weakness in Me"
- Baba Yaga, "Monogamy Shpedogamy"
- Barenaked Ladies, "Alternative Girlfriend"
- William Bell, "Trying to Love Two"
- Christopher Bingham, "Family"
- Chris de Burgh, "More Than This"
- Patsy Cline, "Triangle"
- Leonard Cohen, "The Sisters of Mercy"
- David Crosby, Jefferson Airplane, "Triad"
- Devo, "Happy Guy"
- Jane's Addiction, "Three Days"
- Howard Jones, "Noone is to Blame"
- King Crimson, "Man With an Open Heart"
- Christine Lavin, "Don't Ever Call Your Sweetheart By His Name"
- Lovin Spoonful, "Did You Ever Have to Make Up Your Mind"
- Deidre McCalla, "Don't Doubt It"
- Mary MacGregor, "Torn Between Two Lovers"
- Joni Mitchell, "Cactus Tree"
- Joni Mitchell, "Coyote"
- Mondo Vita, "Four Way Stop"
- The Monks, "Love in Stereo"
- The Muppets, "We Got Us"
- Michael Nesmith, "Different Drum"
- Prince, Cyndi Lauper, "When U Were Mine"
- Resless Heart, "Why Does It Have to Be"
- The Roches, "You're the Two"
- Scarlett, "Independent Love Song"
- Sting, "Tea in the Sahara"
-
-
-
- 5.) Poly Comic Books/Graphic Novels
-
- Love and Rockets comic books have a poly/bi accepting story line
- written by Jaime Hernandez
- Omaha the Cat Dancer and ElfQuest comic books also have main
- characters that are frequently or occasionally involved in polyamorous
- relationships.
- There was a comic in the Kerista newsletters called "Far Out West"
- some of these have been collated into a comic called, "Polly Morphus
- in FAR OUT WEST".
- _Whom Gods Destroy_, a DC Elseworlds graphic novel which features
- an alternate earth where,the Nazis are still in power, Superman never
- aged, and Lois Lane and Lana Lang got old. In the end, when the
- adventure is finished, the three profess to love one another and then
- live in polyamorous cohabitation.
- Shade: The Changing Man has a plot thread involving the title
- character and two women (Kathy and Lenny)
-
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