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- MY BOOK LIST (part 3 of 3)
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- Author: Alice Miller (translated from German)
- Title: Drama of the gifted child. (Originally published as Prisoners of
- Childhood.)
- Publisher: Basic Books, 1981
- ISBN: 0-0-465-01691-x
- Comments: This is a very thin book that is pretty thick with
- psychoanalytical terminology. And I am not fully sure what the term
- "gifted child" has to do with the book. But there were *lots* of really
- interesting tidbits for me in such a small book. My favorite is a
- description she writes of a patient who described their difficulty in
- developing an authentic sense of self in this way: "I lived in a glass
- house into which my mother could look at any time. In a glass house,
- however, you cannot conceal anything without giving yourself away, except
- by hiding it under the ground. And then you cannot see it yourself
- either." I don't usually quote from books in this list, but what the Hell,
- I am on a roll. Another quote I really liked was this: "One is free from
- depression when self-esteem is based on the authenticity of one's own
- feelings, and not on the possession of certain qualities."
-
- Author: Joyce Block, Ph.D.
- Title: Family Myths; Living our lives, betraying ourselves.
- Publisher: Simon and Schuster,1994
- ISBN: 0-671-75909-4
- Comments: On the whole, I really liked the premise of this book, and I
- found many interesting insights in it. However, at some point it just
- became a little too tedious for me. After a while it read as though if I
- said "white" then it was only because I am playing out a role/myth wherein
- I see myself as "The One Who Says White", or perhaps I play this role/myth
- because I am really actually "The One Who Wants To Say Black". At some
- point it seemed the author could see nothing but smoke and mirrors. Yet
- she spoke as tho she (supported by the many people whom she referenced) was
- the only one standing on firm ground, pointing all around her with great
- assurance at the smoke and mirrors.
-
- Author: Laurel Holliday
- Title: Children in the Holocaust and World War II
- Publisher: Washington Square Press, Pocket Books, Simon and Schuster, 1995
- ISBN: 0-671-52055-5
- Comments: The Diary of Ann Frank is the most well known diary from WWII.
- But it is *not* the only one. This book has excerpts from 22 other
- children ages 10 to 18 years old, who lived through or died in the war.
- The author/compiler asks why it is that we only know of Ann Frank's diary.
- She offers that perhaps it is too hard to deal with. One is enough. One
- example, held high, can keep us from further pain. This book is not easy
- to read. It is raw and wrenching. But it helped me to keep a perspective
- on my life. I did not go through, nor am I now going through, anything
- remotely as devastating as what these young people went through. Yet I was
- and am not fully happy with my life. I am not just a sniveling little
- whiner. These are not inconsistent feelings. I can feel sad for these
- people, and sad for myself, and hopeful for all of us. All at the same
- time.
-
- Author: Robert M. Pirsig
- Title: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance; An Inquiry Into Values
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1974
- ISBN: 0-553-13875-8
- Comments: Someone on alt.support.depression recently said that this is a
- classic for any serious "overthinker". It is not an "easy" book to read.
- It gets pretty thick into the metaphysical/philosophical. But all that
- hard-to-read discourse is woven tightly with two other wonderful
- theme/metaphors that make it much more palatable. I first read this when
- it came out in 1974. I was a senior in High School. It had a profound
- effect on me. I recently re-read it after the sudden and unexpected death
- of my younger brother. I found his copy of the book, with portions
- underlined or highlighted, and all kinds of comments written in the
- margins. Very spooky. "The real cycle you're working on is a cycle called
- yourself. What is good. What is not good. Need we ask anyone to tell us
- these things?"
-
- Author: Scott Adams
- Title: The Dilbert Principle
- Publisher: HarperCollins, 1997
- ISBN: 0-88730-787-6
- Comments: First of all, this guy Scott Adams is really funny. Second, I
- feel somewhat a kindred spirit with Dilbert, since I am sort of a
- techno-dweeb-scientist myself. (Thank God I am not an engineer tho.) I
- have included this book in this list not only because it is funny and I
- needed this kind of humor, nor because like all of the other books here it
- says something about who I am. More to the point, I have included this
- book because at it's core, much of the humor derives from issues that I am
- dealing with. For instance, in the beginning, with much more humor that I
- posses, he explains how training as a hypnotist taught him that we make up
- our minds first, and rationalize it second. Later in the book he explains
- that people fear change because change adds yet a little bit more to the
- vast amount that we already do not know. And this only serves to further
- highlight the similarity between how much we know about life and how much
- our office furniture knows about life.
-
- Author: Dr. Patricia Love
- Title: The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When A Parent's Love
- Rules Your Life
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1990
- ISBN: 0-553-05768-5
- Comments: This book hit me where I live right now. It is about a
- continuum of ways in which parents can promote children to adult status so
- that the children can help the adults emotional well being. To sum it up,
- someone on alt.support.depression said that at any given moment in time, a
- parent's love should be the kind of love that the *child* needs, not the
- kind of love that the parent needs to give. But of course, no parent, no
- person, can ever really know what another really needs at any given moment
- in time. Therein lie the seeds that make it hard to know what is me, and
- what is mommy. When a parent says simple things like "you don't like ice
- cream" often enough, the child learns to discount his own feelings in favor
- of his mothers. It is a subtle form of "emotional incest".
-
- Author: Calvin Trillin
- Title: Messages From My Father
- Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1996
- ISBN: 0374208603
- Comments: This book is a memoir of sorts. A son's tribute to what he
- learned from his father perhaps. It was about an adult son trying to
- understand and make new meanings out of the "messages" that his father was
- trying to send him while he was growing up. Not messages in the direct
- literal sense, but more along the lines of what did it mean, what message
- was sent or received, when my father did this or that, said this or that.
- Very easy to read. Not a how to book, a novel, or a philosophical treatise
- on some new theory of relationships. Just a boy and his dad.
-
- Author: Linda Gray Sexton
- Title: Searching for Mercy Street; My Journey Back to My Mother, Anne Sexton
- Publisher: Little, Brown, and Company, 1994
- ISBN: 0-316-78207-6
- Comments: Linda Sexton describes her life with (and without) her mother,
- the famous poet Anne Sexton, who committed suicide when Linda was 21 in
- 1974. I do not really care much for poetry, not even the depressive or
- confessional style of Anne Sexton. But this was a really good book for me,
- and it makes me want to check out Anne Sexton's poetry. Linda describes
- her life in wonderful and quite powerful prose. She faces head on the
- difficulty she has had finding a life of her own after growing up with a
- mother who's own needs overwhelmed her. In a way, her book still promotes
- her mother, and so she still, even tho long in the grave, puts her mother's
- needs to the fore. I would be very interested to hear how she feels now
- that this book, this stone, has passed.
-
- Author: Peter C. Whybrow, M.D.
- Title: A Mood Apart. Depression, Mania, and Other Afflictions of the Self
- Publisher: Basic Books, a division of HarperCollins, 1997
- ISBN: 0-465-04725-4
- Comments:. This book is about moods and human emotions. About their
- function and purpose in our lives. I found it to be really well written,
- very informative, and reasonably easy to read for the amount of information
- that it contains. I was particularly attracted to the idea that depression
- and mania are "afflictions of the self", and he does a good job of viewing
- these problems on a continuum scale. It was a good book intellectually and
- I am glad I read it. But in the end, it did not really speak to me
- emotionally. It is probably a VERY good book as an introduction to
- depression. Particularly if you are not very depressed, as it is thick
- reading at times.
-
- Author: Dr. Seuss (Theodor Geisl), Lou Fancher, Steve Johnson
- Title: My Many Colored Days
- Publisher: Knopf, 1996
- Comments: A children's book which correlates moods with colors. Text by
- Dr. Seuss. When I searched the library catalog for the keyword "emotion",
- about 80% of the titles were children's books. This one sounded
- interesting so I checked it out. It is a nice book, but not really one I
- would feel comfortable reading to my 3 and 5 year olds. I guess it was a
- little too moody and descriptive for me. It was like "On black days I am
- angry", etcetera. A good book I think, but not for me.
-
- Author: Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen
- Title: Chicken soup for the soul
- Publisher: Health Communications Inc., 1993
- ISBN: 1-55874-262-X
- Comments: There were some stories that I really liked, but on the whole I
- did not like this book. It smacked too much of a "motivational" book.
- Designed to make you "feel better, so you can be more productive". That
- sort of thing makes me want to puke. However, there were some really good
- stories. Funny tho, that there were also some stories that *I* thought
- were really sad even tho they were meant to be "uplifting". Even funnier
- was finding out that others felt that way too, but that we did not agree on
- which stories made us feel bad, and which made us feel good.
-
- Author: Ruthellen Josselson
- Title: The space between us: exploring the dimensions of human relationships
- Publisher: Jossey-Bass Publishers, 1992
- ISBN: 1-55542-410-4
- Comments: This is a little on the academic side, written in part to
- psychotherapists and developmental psychologists. It took me a while to
- get into it, and to read past the references and the "this is so"
- presentation style. But I really liked it. The space between us is in
- large part what it is all about for me right now. Who am I, who are you,
- and how do we bridge this gap between us?? The focus is not just on "here
- is how we are", but more on "here is how we are in our relationships with
- others". About how our need to be held by others, to feel attached to
- others, to feel passion for others, to feel mutual resonance with others,
- are all life-long needs that find different forms of expression throughout
- our lives.
-
- Author: Kay Redfield Jamison
- Title: An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness
- Publisher: Alfred A. Knopf, 1995
- ISBN: 0-679-44374-6
- Comments: Jamison, is a respected researcher in the field of manic
- depression, and suffers from the same illness. I liked the book a lot. I
- could particularly relate to it because I am an Assistant Professor doing
- research in a medical school. Although I am not bipolar, pain is pain, and
- her's comes through loud and clear. I was really only bothered by one
- thing. She, and particularly the press, seem to make a reasonably big deal
- about of her coming out of the closet by revealing her personal life. This
- makes it sound as though others have less to lose by doing the same. As if
- perhaps, a truck driver living in a trailer park, or a secretary working in
- a widget factory, have less to lose by writing such a personal story. In
- addition, while her insights from her professional life add some interest
- and depth, IMHO the value of this book lies in the personal nature of the
- story. I think I would have liked it better if she was just another one of
- "us", rather than being one of "them" and also one of "us". Still, I do
- not begrudge her this. It is, after all, part of her story. Her need to
- show both herself and others that she can do it (ie. be a successful
- professional). She may have me beat in that regard, and perhaps I am
- jealous of that. This is also a good book to read if you have been
- diagnosed with manic depression but are having trouble believing it.
-
- Author: Sheldon B. Kopp
- Title: An end to innocence: facing life without illusions
- Publisher: Macmillan, 1978: Bantam Books, 1983
- ISBN: 0025664700: 0-553-23826-4
- Comments: I liked this book. All about how difficult it is to face the
- fact (the author and I both believe it is a fact) that our external and
- internal worlds are full of random events. It's about how the attitude of
- "I will ultimately be rewarded for my goodness" is just as unlikely to be
- valid as the attitude of "the whole world is out to get me". In the
- authors and my opinion, both views endow the world with more order than is
- there, and both views endow ourselves with more significance to the world
- than is possible. It is the getting lost in these "pseudo-innocent"
- beliefs that we need, and that can also lead us astray. I believe the
- author writes the book to help himself through his own life, and also to
- help others. To the extent that his focus is on the latter, he sounds
- preachy, and is likely to be bathing himself in just the sort of "hopeful
- pretending and pseudo-innocence" that he is working so hard to lose.
-
- Author: Sheldon B. Kopp
- Title: All God's children are lost but only a few can play the piano:
- finding a life that is truly your own
- Publisher: Prentice Hall Press, 1991
- ISBN: 0-13-026881-X
- Comments: A nice little book. The title comes from a story about a blind
- jazz piano player who has to listen to an evangelist insists that he is
- "lost without God". Finally the piano player responds; "all God's
- children are lost, but only a few can play the piano". Now if I only knew
- how to play the piano my life would be OK. Hahahahaha, what is *my* piano??
-
- Author: Irvin D. Yalom
- Title: Love's executioner and other tales of psychotherapy
- Publisher: Basic Books, 1989
- ISBN: 0465042805
- Comments: The book is a compilation of 10 short stories of psychotherapy.
- An example, is the title story. An older woman comes to the
- author/therapist with an 8 year unrequited love obsession. The author
- realizes that the process of therapy and the process of being in love are
- mutually exclusive. Therapy finds darkness and endeavors to illuminate.
- Romantic love on the other hand is shrouded in mystery and crumbles upon
- inspection. He hates to be "love's executioner". I found a bit of myself
- in all of these stories, so I liked the book.
-
- Author: Carl A. Whitaker and William M. Bumberry
- Title: Dancing with the family : a symbolic-experiential approach
- Publisher: Brunner/Mazel, 1988
- Comments: An example of a family in the process of family therapy. This
- is a different family than the one described in "The Family Crucible". The
- book has a somewhat unusual presentation style. In some parts actual
- conversations are on the left, and therapists comments on the right. In
- other parts the therapy dialog is extended with someone asking Carl
- Whitaker questions about what he said to the family. There is also a lot
- of Whitaker simply using this particular family to talk about his style of
- family therapy. I did not think that thus book was as good as "The Family
- Crucible", but if you liked that book, then this one will probably be
- interesting. Although I really like Whitaker's basic approach, I think he
- would be a little too cryptic and elusive for me in a real therapeutic
- environment.
-
- Author: Augustus Y. Napier, with Carl A. Whitaker
- Title: The family crucible
- Publisher: Harper & Row, 1978
- Comments: An easy to read look at a family in the process of family
- therapy. Very good for me personally. Helps to understand how family
- members, as a system, can all unconciously conspire to maintain each other
- in roles that none of them actually want to play. For instance, why would
- ALL of the members of a family actually encourage a child to become
- depressed and to "act out", even while they ALL say they don't like the
- situation?? If you don't know the answer to this question, you might want
- to read this book. Similar in some ways to The Dance of Intimacy.
-
- Author: Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D.
- Title: The Dance of Anger (1985), The Dance of Intimacy (1989), and The
- Dance of Deception (1993)
- Publisher: Harper and Row for Anger and Intimacy. Harper Collins for
- Deception.
- Comments: These three books are all very similar and all VERY good. They
- hit me right were I live. They are a little bit heavy on the "feminist"
- sociological perspective, but I was able to read through what I personally
- did not need. All three books deal with how we can only change ourselves,
- and not others. But, as we change ourselves, we will meet with resistance
- from within and from without. Most of us cannot live alone without any
- contact with other people, but it is hard to dance with someone if either
- party (even yourself) keeps changing their steps. How do we own our own
- selves, dance with others, change our selves, and not lose our step or our
- partners in the process? These are not "how to" books.
-
- Author: Lauren Slater
- Title: Welcome to My Country
- Publisher: Random House, 1996
- Comments: The author is a psychologist who was diagnosed and hospitalized
- with borderline personality disorder. From the time she was about 15 to 20
- she was on the "inside", but she somehow managed to make her way to become
- an insightful therapist. The book has an almost lyrical cadence, as she
- deftly closes the gap between "us" and "them". This is a really good read.
-
- Author: Mark Vonnegut
- Title: The Eden Express
- Publisher: Bantam 1975
- Comments: This is a presumably somewhat autobiographical novel by Mark
- Vonnegut, the son of writter Kurt Vonnegut. It is the story of his
- experience with "schizophrenia." He certainly sucked me down into a spiral
- of disoriented confusion. Apparently he has since been diagnosed with
- manic depression and recent versions of this book are said to include an
- addendum about this.
-
- Author: Tracy Thompson
- Title: The Beast: A Reckoning with Depression
- Publisher: G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1995
- ISBN: 0-399-14077-8
- Comments: A Washington Post reporter writes of her personal struggle with
- depression. I liked it. It is not in strict journal style, but it is sort
- of a personal historical accounting, along the lines of Prozac Nation. A
- bit heavy on the boyfriend, but all in all a good read for me.
-
- Author: Daniel Goleman
- Title: Emotional Intelligence
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1995
- Comments: I liked the premise of this book, but I found it somehow off the
- mark in it's presentation. While it promoted the importance of "emotional
- intelligence", it seemed to present this concept in an intellectualized,
- all but emotional, format that somehow sort of got in my way. Still I did
- like the premise of the book.
-
- Author: Richard E. Cytowic
- Title: The Man Who Tasted Shapes, A Bizarre Medical Mystery Offers
- Revolutionary Insights into Emotions, Reasoning, and Conciousness
- Publisher: Putnam, 1993
- Comments: The title is a little too much, but I liked this book. It is a
- neurological study of people with an unusual form of sensation called
- "synethesia", wherein a person senses an object in mixed modalities (eg.
- tasting in shapes). It is sort of in the spirit of neurological studies of
- "The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat", but it is focused on only one
- type of odd neuology. I thought too much of the book was spent trying to
- localize the "anatomical place" for the synethesia, but I liked the
- concepts it brought up about emotions come first, and logic filters the
- emotions.
-
- Author: Peter D. Kramer, M.D.
- Title: Listening To Prozac
- Publisher: Viking, 1993
- ISBN: 0-670-84183-8
- Comments: A psychiatrist explores some of the many implications of
- antidepressants, and especially of Prozac's effects on personality. He
- also discusses some recent research on depression, as well as many other
- issues which seem linked to depression. As a pharmacologist and a student
- of possibilities, I liked this exploration a lot.
-
- Author: Martha Manning
- Title: Undercurrents: A Therapist's Reckoning with Her Own Depression
- Publisher: HarperSanFrancisco, 1994
- ISBN: 006251184X (paperback, 1995)
- Comments: I thought this was a very good book. It is written in journal
- or diary style, by a psychotherapist. She ultimately underwent ECT and at
- the writing of it, felt it was worthwhile. A good personal story about the
- trials of depression. I talked with her at a National Depressive and Manic
- Depressive Association meeting in 1997. She was warm and witty and very
- articulate. I asked her if she still felt positively about ECT. She said
- that since the book was published she has had another series of ECT
- treatments, and she still feels they have saved her life.
-
- Author: Percy Knauth
- Title: A Season in Hell
- Publisher: Harper and Row, 1975
- Comments: This book is kind of old and can be hard to come by. I found it
- in my local library. A reasonably easy to read personal story of
- depression. The sort of thing I like to read.
-
- Author: William Styron
- Title: Darkness Visible: A Memoir of Madness
- Publisher: Vintage, 1990
- ISBN: 0-679-73639-5
- Comments: This is a wonderful book, although it could be a little *too*
- well crafted. In comparison with Prozac Nation, this book lacks a certain
- raw edge to it. Note that the author is famous for many other books, some
- about suicide (eg. Sophie's Choice), but he did not recognize his own
- depression until much later.
-
- Author: Norman S. Elder
- Title: Holiday of Darkness: A Psychologist's Personal Journey Out of His
- Depression
- Publisher: Wiley, 1982
- Comments: This is a bit old, and hard to come by. Yet another personal
- story of depression. Made somewhat more interesting by the fact that the
- sufferer is himself a psychologist, and so has that set of insights and
- perspectives that go with the profession.
-
- Author: Kathy Cronkite
- Title: On the Edge of Darkness: Conversations about Conquering Depression.
- Publisher: Doubleday, 1994
- ISBN: 0-385-42194-X
- Comments: Written by Walter Cronkite's daughter. Features a variety of
- personal stories by herself and by "famous" people about their experiences
- with depression. I didn't think I would like this book because I could
- really care less about "celebrities", but in the end, as usual for me, I
- found common ground listening to the stories of others.
-
- Author: Elizabeth Wurtzel
- Title: Prozac Nation: Young and Depressed in America
- Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1994
- ISBN: 0-395-68093-x
- Comments: A great book, easily readable. This is an important, and timely
- book, not just for twentynothings. If you find that people cannot
- understand your depression, maybe you should hand them this book to read.
- Ad notes: "An electrifying memoir about a young woman's 5-year battle with
- depression." One of the best "personal stories" I have read thus far.
- Pain is pain. I am as far from a 20 something suicidal young girl as one
- can get, but this book really "spoke to me". Pain is pain.
-
- Author: Judith Viorst
- Title: Necessary Losses
- Publisher: Simon and Schuster, 1986
- Comments: Somewhat hard to read, somewhat heavy on the psychoanalytical
- side, but it seemed to fit for me. I may have to read this again at some
- point, as I don't think it is the kind of book that you can integrate after
- just one reading.
-
- Author: Dr. Vamik Volkan and Elizabeth Zintl
- Title: Life After Loss, The Lessons of Grief
- Publisher: Charles Scribner's Sons, 1993
- Comments: This was a book more about grief then depression, but that fit
- for me.
-
- Author: Roberta Israeloff
- Title: In Confidence, Four Years of Therapy
- Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Co., 1990
- Comments: A woman goes into therapy to become a better mother for her new
- son. She comes up with a whole lot more than she expected. Reasonably
- easy to read, and as a new father I could relate to most of it.
-
- Author: Carol Ferland
- Title: The Long Journey Home
- Publisher: Alfred Knopf, 1980
- Comments: The diary style journal of a woman and her therapy. She deals a
- lot with transference, and her fixation on her therapist. But there is
- more here than just that in it as well.
-
- Author: Harry Middleton
- Title: The Bright Country, A fisherman's Return to Trout, Wild Water, and
- Himself
- Publisher: Simon and Schuster, 1993
- Comments: A man is forced out of his job, but looks for and finds himself
- elsewhere. Fun to read, but a little on the fictional rather than
- autobiographical side.
-
- Author: Annie G. Rogers, Ph.D.
- Title: A Shining Affliction, A History of Harm and Healing in Psychotherapy
- Publisher: Vicking, 1995
- Comments: I think I liked this, but I cannot remember what it was all about.
-
- Author: Thomas Maeder
- Title: Children of Psychiatrists and Other Psychotherapists
- Publisher: Harper and Row, 1989
- Comments: This book is probably only of interest to
- psychiatrists/psychotherapists and their children. It is heavily weighted
- to what I think a typical New York City psychotherapist might be like. I
- only found one section of it that I thought fit with my father (a
- psychiatrist) and my family. Several years after my father's death I found
- this book in his study. Now what do you suppose THAT means?
-
- Author: Susanna Kaysen
- Title: Girl, Interrupted
- Publisher: Turtle Bay Books, Random House, 1993
- Comments: Very good personal story. Short and easy to read. About the
- author's 2 year stay in a famous mental hospital as an 18 year old in the
- 60's. It is punctuated by actual documents from her medical files. The
- book is actually named after a painting called "Girl Interrupted at Her
- Music" by the Dutch painter Jan Vermeer [1632-1675]. The painting is
- located at The Frick Collection in New York City
- (http://www.frick.org/html/pntg44f.htm). A couple of years ago I happened
- to be in New York City and we went to see it.
-
- Author: Sheldon B. Kopp
- Title: If You Meet the Buddha on the Road, Kill Him!
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1972
- Comments: I liked this perspective on psychotherapy. The therapist as a
- fellow traveler, who must ultimately be left in the dust on the road, since
- only you can really walk your own path, and know and live your own life.
-
- Author: Barbara Lazear Ascher
- Title: Landscape Without Gravity, A Memoir of Grief
- Publisher: Penguin Books, 1993
- Comments: A woman comes to terms with the grief she feels after the death
- of her brother from AIDS. There are probably a lot of similar books given
- the number of young men and women who have died of AIDS. I have not read
- any others. However, I did not find this too specific to AIDS, nor to
- brothers. I really like the title too.
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- Author: Natalie Goldberg
- Title: Long Quiet Highway, Waking up in America
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1993
- Comments: A good read for me, because I like Zen, and I lived in
- Minneapolis and Denver. Not much here to do with depression per say, but
- rather just another personal story of getting from here to there.
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- Author: Stephanie Ericson
- Title: Companion Through Darkness, Inner Dialogues on Grief
- Publisher: Harper Collins, 1993
- Comments: Her husband dies suddenly before she gives birth to their first
- child. Very short chapters, each in two parts. One part sort of
- theoretically related to grief, the other more personal.
-
- Author: Roger Kamenetz
- Title: The Jew in the Lotus
- Publisher: Harper Collins, 1994
- Comments: A small delegation of Jews bring a Torah to the Dali Lama who is
- living in northern India, in exile from Tibet. The Dali Lama is interested
- to know how a people/culture/religion can survive in exile as the Jews have
- for over 2000 years. Since the Jews are no longer in forced exile, this
- raises the question of how they will continue to survive now that they can
- "come home".
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- Author: Viktor E. Frankl
- Title: Man's Search for Meaning, An Introduction to Logotherapy
- Publisher: Simon and Schuster, 1959
- Comments: The first half of the book is autobiographical in nature, about
- the author's experience as a young therapist trying to find meaning for
- himself and others as they struggle to stay alive in Nazi concentration
- camps. The second half is thicker on theory. Logotherapy is "meaning
- based" therapy, and has a decided existential tone to it.
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- Author: Hermann Hess
- Title: Siddhartha
- Publisher: New Directions, 1961
- Comments: The quintessential book about searching. The story of a young
- man and his friend as they attempt to find meaning in their lives. I liked
- it when I was in High School, and I liked it again at 40.
-
- Author: Hermann Hess
- Title: Journey to the East
- Publisher: Bantam Books, 1961
- Comments: Also a good book about searching. Perhaps a tale about how even
- the most unlikely of characters can be the fulcrum of one's life. Another
- book that I liked when I was in High School and liked again at 40.
-
- Author: Erich Fromm
- Title: The Art of Loving
- Publisher: Perennial Library, 1956
- Comments: Hard to read, but lots of good-for-me insights.
-
- Author: Robin Maugham
- Title: The Servant
- Publisher: Harcourt Brace and Co., 1949
- Comments: This is a very obscure, very short, and very odd little book.
- But it affected me in my teens when I read it, and it was still a good read
- recently. It is about a "perfect" servant who attends to the needs of his
- "masters" so well, that he actually has full control over them. The
- servant is the ultimate opiate, and the ultimate in manipulation by
- presumed passivity.
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