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- $Title{Ovarian Cancer and Marital Problems}
- $Subject{cancers sex surgery Genitourinary System Ovarian Cancer Marital
- neoplasm neoplasms lifestyle lifestyles Sexual dysfunction intercourse vagina
- lubricant KY jelly vaginal dilator lubricants jellies dilators ovary ovaries}
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- Diseases of the Female Reproductive System*0009001.scf
- Ovarian Cancer*0010301.scf}
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- Ovarian Cancer and Marital Problems
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- QUESTION: After an operation and treatment for ovarian cancer, I have
- problems with my marital life. What should I do?
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- ANSWER: The best gauge to success of cancer therapy is how well you're able
- to resume your normal activities, and that includes your sex life. Sexual
- dysfunction is the term used for sexual activity that has been impaired by
- physical or mental problems. Some sexual dysfunction is caused by the various
- cancer treatments used and some are due to the disease itself.
- A common problem among women who have had pelvic surgery--such as for
- ovarian cancer--is pain during intercourse. Painful intercourse leads of
- avoidance of sex, which hurts a marriage. The shape or size of the vagina may
- have been changed or the removal of the ovaries causes vaginal dryness.
- Unfortunately, many women are not warned this may happen and then never
- mention their sexual problem to their physicians.
- Vaginal dryness can be relieved easily by using a lubricant such as KY
- jelly or other products specially made for use during sex. Your doctor may
- also prescribe creams that contain estrogen that will help keep the vagina
- moist. Sometimes changing sexual positions helps, also. Narrowing or
- shortening of the vagina after surgery can sometimes be avoided by having sex
- regularly or by using a vaginal dilator. Your physician will instruct you on
- how to use a dilator. Using a dilator is medically necessary, so don't be
- embarrassed either about using it or asking your doctor questions.
- Cancer and cancer therapy can also change your own self-esteem or how you
- see yourself, which can impair the sex drive. Many people feel stigmatized by
- having had cancer. Some people act as if cancer were contagious. Cancer is a
- disease, not a punishment. Losing your breast, or your ovaries, or your hair,
- or whatever, does not make you any less a woman.
- Having had cancer may also change the way your husband treats you.
- Sometimes, a husband may avoid having sex because he is afraid of hurting his
- "fragile" wife, but the wife sees this as rejection on his part. Many men
- have never learned how to discuss their feelings or how to react when someone
- they love is ill. They may act gruff or distraught when comforting was
- needed.
- Discuss your problems openly with your physician. He or she can offer
- advice about both the physical and psychological problems you're having. In
- some cases, you and your husband can benefit by having specialized marital
- counseling.
- You have fought hard for your victory over your disease. It may now take
- only a few words of discussion, consultation, and conversation to give you
- back the full life you wish and deserve.
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- The material contained here is "FOR INFORMATION ONLY" and should not replace
- the counsel and advice of your personal physician. Promptly consulting your
- doctor is the best path to a quick and successful resolution of any medical
- problem.
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