Suppose we look at the kids who are odd or stuttering or afraid and instead of seeing these as developmental problems we see them as having some great thing inside them, some destiny that they're not yet able to handle. It's bigger than they are and their psyche knows that.
Winston Churchill, for example, when he was a schoolboy, had a lot of trouble with language and didn't speak well. Of course he had a problem! This little boy was a Nobel Prize winner in literature and had to save the Western world through his speech. Of course he had a speech defect as a child - it was too much to carry. Manolete, the great bullfighter, when he was nine-years-old, was supposedly a very frightened little skinny boy who hung around his mother in the kitchen Suppose you read a person's life backwards. Then you say, his psyche sensed at the age of nine that his fate was to meet thousand-pound black bulls with great horns. Of course he held onto his mother. Because he couldn't hold that capacity - at nine-years-old your fate is all there and you can't handle it. It's too big. It's not that he was inferior; he had a great destiny.
'The soul knows who we are from the beginning,' say the Platonic theories of childhood. But we're locked into our own special theory of childhood. According to us, a baby comes into the world with few innate mechanisms, but not a destiny.
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