Out of interest in the odds of my trip to NZ this week
being a hit or miss(in the romance department!)...may I
ask.. has anyone ever - well I guess this happens every
second of the day - Have you fell for a lovely man in a
foreign land and then torn yourself away to do a sensible
thing like return home for a few months and then yearned
for this man and set off on a wild chase to catch
him...then did it work, was it the same, was it the best
thing to do? do you regret it?. Help! I need some
encouragement here, my chase starts in 3 days and am I
scared or what!!!
best wishes
scared!
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if you must choose a place to follow a man to, i reacon NZ
is one of the best. I live here and love it and would never
live anywhere else. Good luck.
People mostly seem to think it's not a good idea, but I
don't know.
It depends so much on you and him and what makes the
relationship tick.
I am a single female, 40 now, and have loved travelling
alone all my life. I always love travelling this way, and
have been very lucky considering the remote places I've
travelled to. I enjoy photography, and always keep an
introspective travel journal.
In September, I was in Fez, Morocco. As I don't speak
Arabic, Berber or French, I found it nearly impossible to
converse with people (it is rare to find English speaking
people, let alone Americans off season). I met a wonderful
tall, blonde Frenchman 7 years my junior who was staying at
my hotel. He was in Morocco on business in the computer
hardware bussiness- then off to China for 3 months for an
installation. He was shy, and we had a wonderful few days
together. No, I did not chase him, but I dried the roses he
bought for me, and wrote a lengthy chapter in my diary.
It's for the best, I my family all lives in Massachusetts
and I would have missed them all terribly. My memories will
remain forever glorious!
have your eyes wide open, have a return ticket or money for
one. I also hope the guy is not a blonde guy called Carl
who lives in Auckland. If so, he's my flatmate and he is
well known amongst his friends for doing such things. Apart
from these things- go forth, have fun and keep safe.
Stacey...does Carl play rugby by any chance????
To Wendywoo....when I went to Australia I fell for my
bestfriend and it broke my heart to leave because he is the
greatest guy who ever lived...I swore that I would go back
after University and see him but he beat me to it....he is
coming here in four days....Go for it anf hope for the best
..if it was really that great that you can't forget him it
won't hurt to go either way....if it works out then you will
have an amazing relationship and if not at aleast you will
know that it wasn't what you thought and will be able to
move on after you deal with the pain!!GOOD LUCK!!I wish you
happy travels and have my fingers crossed for you
I feel encouraged if not still insane!
When I left NZ I planned that my experience with this chap
would just fizzle away and I'd get over him, I kick myself
sooo much for feeling the way I do about him now, I think
about all the horrible things he could be as a person that
I did not see, that he was just one of those guys out for a
good time with foreign girls who shoot through his town!
BUT.....then I could'nt imagine it! I'm not so naive as to
shack up with one of those losers.........but then if I am
so stupid and did not realise...well his past is coming
back to haunt him and he'll learn a lesson or two!
I can't wait for either situation, a kiss and make up or a
painful rejection........at least then I can move on!
a week from now I'll know and I'll perhaps post the turn
out on the end of this post!
cheers!
What part of NZ are you going to come to? I was thinking
that if you got stuck I might be able to help you out. I
live in Auckland (plus I need an extra female for our
indoor netball team for the next few weeks).
hey, I'm french and last summer, in the south of france, I
met this amazing aussie guy that I immediately fell in love
with. This summer I am going to Sydney to see him, I really
hope it will go well because he doesn't know I'm coming.
Good luck to you, I'm sure he will be very happy to see you
This guy does'nt know I'm coming back to NZ!
same situation as yourself!
He'll get the shock of his life...I can't wait...I'll be
the last person on earth he'll be exspecting to see!
good luck to you with your aussie guy!
byeeeeeeeee!
Just thought I would share my storie so you can still see
that your not alone out there!! We're all behind you
girlfriend!! :o)
I spent a year out west ( canadian rockies )alone.
I came back last august (98) for school, thinking HeY! I'm
single, I can do what I want when I want and the're ain't no
"Guy" in my life to distract me from school so I'll just
finish it reaaally fast and head back out there to travel
some more...but noooOOOoooooOOooo! the first week I come
back home ( MOntreal) I meet THE man of my dreams...the man
I was made for...the man who was made for me! And the minute
I meet him, we start talking about travelling and he says
he's leaving in 30 days; moving out WEST! "That's where I
just came from", I said.
So he left...moved to Vancouver...I'm 5000km from him...
we talk on the phone every night, send eachother letters
every week..
I seriously though that long distance love would not work
out..cause I'm a travelling bee , him too, but he's a guy
and guys have a tendency to fuck around :o) NOT ALL OF THEM,
but that's there nature! ( hunting the pussey!! ) ANYWAY!
My point is, it worked out. For now... :o)
In june I will meet him in Vancouver and we will start our
journey together..biking around the world!
good luck girlfriend!
Give us news!
niki
Short term fling-go for it! Long term committment, think carefully.
1. You're really gonna miss each other when you go home and it'll be a while till one or the other can come over. Can you handle the lonely nights?
2. A holiday romance and real life romance are very different. Sometimes the person you thought you knew is very different when it comes to day to day (REAL) life.
3. Who's gonna give up ties to home and move to the other's country? (Unless you're rich and can go back and forth).
Good luck
Thanx for the extra advice, I leave tomorrow.......you know
I would leave my home in England to live in NZ, no worries,
if you want to be with someone, distance ain't no object
and I agree guys do put it around to say, but so do girls!
I could never see the point of a long distance
relationship, a total nightmare! that's why I'm heading
back to NZ, if I want this guy I'll have to be with him all
the time - This is serious stuff, I'm in Nz for 6 months or
longer, I don't want a fling, I'm not really a 'fling'
person - it hurts the soul too much,
BUT hense fourth into battle!
Last point, 'holiday romances' - I ain't on a holiday, I'm
going to live in Nz as a temporary resident, I won't be
travelling around too much!
I did not even want to meet a guy when I met this guy in
NZ' I was quite happy on my own - it was a shock to the
system! It ain't even an intention to meet guys when
abroad, theres too much hurt and misunderstandings
involved; I guess I like to think I'm a free spirit,
independent and all that!
time to go!
cheerio
and best of luck to all gals in a similar situation!
wendywoo, I think by the time you read this, you'll already
have left for NZbut I just wanted to let you know how much
I understand where your coming from. I travelled for four
months before christmas and for a short time during that
trip, I met the man of my dreams. We had the most incredible
times together and promised that we would see each other
again. We've kept in touch up until a little while ago and
suddenly, nothing. I'm kind of worried because he was
travelling too, and another part of me is worried that I wa
s fooled into believing this was more than just a fling. I
hope not because I really fell for him and am willing to do
just about anything to hold down my end of our promise.
Anyways, let me know how it went, just for inspirations sake
or to give me something to think about. Thanks and best of
luck on your trip!!(In every aspect)
Holiday love may sound nice, and trying to make it last is
a valiant effort, but in the end, one party has GOT to make
the move. And both have to agree on who is going to do it.
Wendyoo, I am jealous of your fearlessness. I fell in love
with a European guy who came to the States on holiday. We
were both in the same tour group. We flew back and forth
between the US and Europe, trying to keep it alive. But
in the end, neither of us wanted to give up the life we
had in our respective countries. Three and a half years it
took for me to come to this conclusion (we had a lot of
disposable income at the time!).
I hope that things work out for you, since you have made
the leap of faith that I could never make.
Good luck!
Dot
Let us know how it turns out!
Hi there Wendywoo,
I met a guy on a Cruise Ship 2 years ago, and although we
are not together we are excellent friends. I often wonder
if there could be more but I am to gutless to do anything
about, but if you think this guy is the ONE just go for it.
otherwise you may regret it for the rest of your life.