OK here goes. I'm 26, 5'10" tall and around 18 stone.
Mostly because of my size and as I'm into a lot of outdoor
sports I tend to attract guys who are generally looking for
a mother figure or just companionship and not sex (and they
are ususally a lot smaller than myself anyway.
Basically, can anyone give me an idea of somewhere in the
world I can go where I might be found attractive despite my
size.
I know this letter is going to get the usual snide comments
but all I'm looking for are travel destainations to go to
for two weeks where I can renew my faith in my own
femininity.
One other thing - I've always had a dream of learning to
surf. Can anyone give me any ideas of how long I'd need to
take lessons or do I just get a board and practice myself?
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Anne,I suggest you go to Tonga in the Polinesia, Pacific
Islands. I heard that they are the biggest people in the
world. Maybe they have good surfing as well.
Many of the African nations would be to your liking.
Try a country like Ghana in the west, for instance.
I'm quite a big girl and I was quite popular in east and
southern Africa!! The men in Africa generally think that a
skinny woman is a sick woman. They like big bums too.
A friend of mine also felt 'desired' in Turkey ... and
that's a great country to visit.
And yeah, I also agree with Pepa - most of those islands in
the Pacific would be a good choice for you, esp. Tonga,
Fiji, Samoa ....
Good luck!
I spent Christmas in the jungles of Peninsular Malaysia
together with several Europeans and Amrricans and the guys
who lead and taught us survival skills treated us fairly as
students although one of the women was a tall almost 6
footer Dutch woman. She had problems in the jungles but the
guides were extremely very patient and kind enough to lend
their moral support to this gangling woman. I think it's
important that people accept and treat us fairly whether
we're blonde...pretty...short.. fat or tall which these guys
are noted for! I am a blonde and consider to be good
loking but this didnt stop the guides from telling me off
not to change my smelly clothes behind the bush! May I
suggest that you get in touch with these wonderful but
respectful men of the Utanbara team at ubat@putra.net.my
Their homepage is very impressive www.putra.net.my
men here tend to be pretty tall, too, and you would be be
oh-so popular in surfing communities in Southrn California,
Hawaii, or the Mid-Atlantic region
Oh..Yea...Definetely Turkey...
Where ever you go don't go to Thailand. I am big to and at
home thats no issue at all but during my month of holiday in
Thailand I was laught at, touched, ignored and the Thai made
fun of me everywhere. Even children were afraid of me and
people diidn't want to sit next to me. In the beginning I
could understand the fun of it but after 3 weeks of
harasment it wasn't funny anymore. I have never had such a
experience anywhere else.
Joan
...and sometimes it really gets to me. Like in South America, where "gorda" (fatso) is the term you hear everywhere, from friends and strangers alike. It's not driven by pure dislike (though it can be an insult), but there's a lot of piss-taking and it's very wearing after a while. It dogs you everywhere and defines your relationships with everyone. Many South American women (city women anyway) are fed the western supermodel concept of beauty and starve themselves like Europeans or North Americans are apt to do.
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Eastern Europe is another place to think about avoiding as the women are tall, leggy, glamorous and unless you are, there's something wrong with you (unless you're over thirty, in which case it is normal as you're no longer attractive to men anyway as you should be married long ago. Sad, isn't it?)
...head to denmark...or the netherlands...it may be cold
right now...but geesh--i am 6 foot (although i have no idea
what a stone is but i imaginie that it is something to do
with your weight!?) and always have that guy problem--
I was just amazed when i spent a few months in europe--the
average height of men in the NL is 6'4"! And in denmark i
was just amazed at how many tall great looking men there
were! Check it out if you are interested in a bit of a
colder climate right now!
have fun and more power to us tall women!! :)
that you consider the British Virgin Islands. If you're looking to affirm your attractiveness to men, this place should do it! However, and without spoiling the show, I must caution you against being swept off your feet (both
figuratively and literally - unless that's what you're
looking for, of course).
Now, having seen many of your posts, you strike me as a person of some refinement and my one concern is that you
might find certain comments crass, to say the least. In my experience, the Caribbean men will make the most OUTRAGEOUS
comments to women, and not give a second thought as to their appropriateness. Here in the U.S., such comments would constitute grounds for a sexual harrassment suit!
It seems to be all in fun, though, so try not to be too offended. The conversations make for good stories later on, anyway.
I assume you're the Anne of "rubbish" fame. If not, my
recommendation still applies.
Anne, Hi
To start with ..believe in yourself ..men like confident
females.. its the personality that counts in longer term
relationships.. and the temprament even for short term fun.
In the west the media conditions men to like slender women
while naturally women are not ( you could read Naomi
Wolfe's The Beauty Myth ).In India for example men like
fuller women.
Please dont go looking for men as a project ..you will find
one when you least expect one.
If you ever come to India..and want to be shown around
Delhi-the capital city- I would be happy to do so.
take care :)
I traveled in Turkey with a very heeavy friend and she got
tons of attention and a proposal of marriage. She ended up
having an affair with a really cute younger guy.
5 feet 10, how tall is that? I mean, I think I'm about the
same height (176 cm), travelled a lot and never had any
problems. Okey, I do get attention in Malaysia, but that is
partly because of my medium blonde hair, white skin that
turns red under the sun amd eyes that aren't blue. People
have been touching my skin because they can't belive it is
real, but these have been people I'm on friendly terms with.
Anyway, i'm Norwegian and some of the guys here are really
nice. But as ( I hope) it isn't just the body that counts,
you must have a bit of personality as well. Northern Europe
is great, at least is everybody so polite that you won't
hear any comments on your body.
In Greece (and some what in parts of Italy) it is OK to
"buy" love from a male companion. These men do it
politely; they are caring, fun, know all the places to go
for entertainment. The money is also done politely. You
don't just hand them cash. You buy them things, like a
meal and a bottle of wine, a taxi ride, a new hat. Most of
us deep down would find it unique and exciting to spend
money on a man. These are generally handsome men. Many
women come from Britain with the full intention of spending
the week with a man. There's no embarrassment. I hear that
most of the woman are just a bit unattractive /or/at least
very lonely.
Wow, thanks for all the info and advice.
Tonga has been mentioned quite and sounds great, though it's
a long way from Ireland so I've a bit of saving to do before
I can ever hope to visit the island.
As for 'buying' a chap in greece.....
I just like the idea of going somewhere and being chatted up
by a guy who's not falling down drunk. That's the
unfortunate thing of the pub and club culture here and in
England.
I just hope I haven't come across as a tart!
Thanks again,
Anne
My sister (who's not as large as you but definitely larger
than the average western woman) went to Kenya and Tanzania
and was swamped with men who thought she was gorgeous, sexy,
healthy and fantastic. Her skinny girlfriend who went with
her was considered puny, sickly and unattractive.My sister
has a photo of one of the sexiest black men I've ever seen,
her keepsake for a relationship that lasted over a year when
letter writing is included. NB Be VERY careful of AIDS in
Africa!!!!!
Go to Skandinavia in summer, as this is not too far from
Ireland!! Norwegian men are very cute if you like fair-
haired men, they love outdoor activities, and they are
called the Italians of the North! Yes, they have to drink
to get a bit out of their shell, but don't the Irish have
to do this, too???
Being of a fairly average European size (1m70), I felt like
a dwarf between all these friendly giants.
Talking to people (men and women), I often realised I was
talking to their knees, and had to look far up to see their
faces, no it was not that bad ... (joke).
And after all, just love yourself the way you are, it's
this which will make you find a guy who is worth being
loved/laid/married or whatever you're after!
Have fun!
I lived in Holland (the Netherlands) a while back and I am
REALLY short (4'7"). I don't think they'd ever seen anyone
that short before (I think they're born taller than that).
I was actually complimented by someone there on my bravery
for coming to a place where everyone was so much taller
than I was.
..
I'm a large woman from the US and I have felt very
appreciated by the Cook Islander men (Rarotonga, Aitutaki).
Here in the US, African-American men and some Central
American men (Panamanian,Nicaraguan,Salvadorean) are often
into larger women.
Happy explorations!
... if you want men who are tall and gorgeous and friendly
into the bargain. I was quite surprised when I went ther to
see that many men are well over 6ft, because it's unusual
for southern Europeans to be so tall. The same is true for
the other partsof former Yugoslavia, but you might be
alittle cautious about going there at the moment. Hungarian
men are also very sexy and well-built even if not quite so
statuesque as the Croats.
I also agree with the above posts about there being lots of
very tall, very attractive men in Holland. I was there some
years ago and although I'm not especially short (about 5ft
3) I was always being told how tiny I was there. Men in
Denmark are also tall, as above posts have said, though I
didn't consider them as good-looking as the Dutch, and
certainly not a patch on the Croats!
I hope it's not too late!
I visited Turkey and the men really seemed to love the big
me! I stayed there for a week and got two married proposals
and had 4 "boyfrieds" who "fought" for me. So, I ended up
loosing my heart to a man, who was married... Better luck
to you!!!
Wow, I can't believe that this thread is still going.
Thanks for the advice about Turkey, I've travelled a bit
around it before, and spent some time around Istanbul and
you're right about all the passes. But while the guys
there are cute all right, I was towering above them all. I
reckon that I could count on one hand the number of guys I
met who were over 6'2"!!
Croatia sounds fantastic, not somewhere that I'd even
considered visiting before and I presume that it's not
exactly a tourist trap either.
As for the South Sea Islands - they sound fantastic.
thanks again, Anne
I'm a perfectly proportioned 6'1", 312 pound black woman.
I'm extremely confident and while not conceited, I believe
that some people are exceptionally beautiful but none more
beautiful than me. I went to South Beach in April totally
expecting to be looked at (because of my size) but not
talked to (because of my size)....But I was like "Screw it,
I'm here to have fun and I'm one of the beautiful people
too"...Let me just say that gorgeous Cuban men, Black men
and even a couple of White men chased me all around the
island! For me being tall AND BIG is the best thing that
ever happened to me. It's really very unique for a woman.
I feel that I get more respect from men, heads turn when I
enter a room wearing something stunning (when the same
outfit on a petite woman would cause no commotion at all), I
feel safer being bigger and taller than most men. Overall,
being big forces me not to be "girly" and wimpy and whiny.
I went to Thailand too and I got a lot of attention. People
pointed me out to their children, people waved to me on the
street, men asked to be with me...I think I had a different
experience than the other woman because I didn't give a
flying fuck. I smiled at them, took pictures of them, and
looked at them right back. It's all about the attitude...if
you have it, men will come.