I was wondering if anyone has got pregnant while travelling
? by a partner, or someone you had met while on the road. I
got pregnant by a Brit bloke while he was travelling and he
just left me behind. Has anyone else been in a similar
situation ?
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I met an Austlian last year, and the same thing happened to
me. He's back home now. I never told him.
o my god! me too! i wonder if it is the same bloke?
what did you decide to do with the pregnancy?
Think before you act!
Yes I did take precautions, I was on the pill, but had been
ill and didn't take further precautions (silly I know).
Anyway this English bloke didn't seem to believe me when I
said that I was pregnant, said he was going off to do some
more travelling for a couple of weeks and would be back,
even left some clothes at my place, and I never saw him
again. I couldn't keep the baby, it just wasn't fair, but
was a very difficult decision.
horrible situation. i fell pregnant to an American - great
guy, but decided not to keep the baby. Still not sure if
that was the right decision [and sometimes wish that even
if it was, I had made the wrong one instead], but
unfortunatly it's one you have to make within a limited time
frame. The guy wanted absolutly no responsibility - which
was hard. We still keep in fairly regular correspondance and
I will be interested to see what my emotions are if I ever
do catch up with him.
Sometimes people make mistakes....and nothing is 100%
Maybe you should concider these things before you judge.
I'll second the above sentiment. I'm so cautious re.
avoiding pregnancy that I've never even had sex; however,
I'm not about to judge anyone else since I am not above
making mistakes myself (I am only human, maybe you aren't)
and I think your remark was needlessly cruel.
To those who've suffered while their men travelled
away, hands swinging, I have tremendous empathy for you. I
don't know what I'd do in such a situation, but you're
stronger for having lived through it.
Hey "mistakes"-
Has anyone ever taught you about the birds and the bees?
Just to clue you in, it takes 2 (two) people to make a
baby!! Yes, you heard me right! These women didn't get
themselves pregnant. Maybe you should get off your soapbox
and remember that not everyone is as morally perfect and
chaste as you are.
could you repost what you meant (above)? I re-read
'mistakes' message just to be sure that I have no idea what
you are on about. It seems to me mistakes was saying to
linda that she should be more tolerant of others and their
mistakes. Are you getting a different womens page than me ?
Because your post doesnt make any sense in regards to
'mistake', and it was rude as well. Good luck to anyone who
had this problem while travelling- I was lucky that I wasnt
but I had a bit of a panic for awhile. Also, a problem with
travel is that periods often become irregular making the
whole thing more complicated.
Hi this is mistakes...it seems you somehow read incorrectly
between the lines of my above post. I believe I was
stating that mistakes do happen..I should know, they
happened to me. I don't know what soap box you think that
I'm on. I'm going to assume your message was directed to
Linda.
isn't it? To get pregnant and abort....think before you act!
That's a life you made!
I agree with you, Kerry. Where is thinking, where lives resposibility? To make a new live needs two people (not more, not less)
And people! Don't write "mistake", even "abortion". Be resposible, write: "murder". And ask this miserable girl, how to help her.
This seems to have caused some agro ! I did consider this a
'mistake' though, as I was attempting to take precautions
and didn't actually want to become pregnant, as it was me
taking the responsibility I don't blame it on the bloke,
although I am fully aware it takes two to tango !. I don't
consider this murder ! Just imagine if I had had the child,
with no father. The child may have had terrible problems
due to the absent father who never wanted them, I may have
not been able to cope on my own. I know many people are in
single parent families and have totally balanced and normal
children. I don't think I could have done it, and ruined
another person's life, who I ultimately had responsibility
for in the process. If that makes sense. Its all very well
being anti-abortion, but there are already very many unhappy
people in the world and life is hard, I didn't want to make
another unhappy soul.
You know, there is nothing more annoying than the ignorance
of others. You don't know me, or my situation. I have
always found a sad sort of irony in the abortion debate.
Maybe you can help me out...these people who bomb
abortionists, do they not concider that murder? If you
look on anti-abortionist web sites, the give very graphic
details about how an abortion is done, I won't get into
detail because it's disgusting, and completely false.
I would love to take a poll of all these anti-ab people, to
see how many of them have actually been in a situation
where they have had that choice to make. While I don't
agree with using abortion as a form of birth control, I do
believe the service should be provide for woman who choose
this as an option, Do you people actually think that if
you bomb all the abortion clinics it will stop abortion?
Let's get real. All it would mean is that there would be a
lot more woman dying as a result of back street abortion,
like there used to be.
I'm very sentitive about this subject, in case you can't
tell. I find it so frustrating, escpecially when men have
an opinion about this..what's right and wrong. They have
never experienced having a child inside them, thus, have
never experienced the termoil of having to make this
decision, or the horror of having to carry it out. I'm
sure there are woman who use it as a form of birth control,
but I would say the majority who exercise this option do
so, becuase they have no other choice. Any of you people
who think it's an easy decision to make, you are so wrong.
For woman who have had babies and are against abortion,
imagine....remember how you felt when you discovered you
were pregnant? Remember that unbelievable truth that there
was another person growing inside you? Now image what it
would be like to have to make a decision to give the child
up? Not an easy one. Woman who make this choice do not
need the added pressure from anti-ab's. The whole thing is
hard enough. I've seen people go through it. I went
through it. I was on medication, it could have caused
birth defects. I did what I thought was best, and it was
the hardest thing I have ever done. I've never forgotten.
I remember with sadness every `would be' birthday, the day
of conception, the day of abortion. The repsulsion I felt
for myself in doing what I was doing.
Please anti-abs, this is such a personal thing, and a
personal choice. Don't think we enter into these decisions
lightly. Don't throw `murder' in our faces. We are only
human, we are not perfect.
I never thought I would have an ab., but I did what I
must. It's a person's choice. How can judge, when you've
not been there yourself?
What else would you call terminating a life? Would you have liked it if your mom terminated you? I think some of you on the road ladies are too easy with these on the road guys...like hell it's not his responsibility....what the heck does he care? I say this cos I have seen women who think they couldn't "do it" like you said, but they can. Is it the shame of carrying a child out of wedlock? And "doing it" out of wedlock is not shameful?
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought this site was
about women travellers seeking advice about planning a new
adventure!!!!
We are all "sisters".
It seems this particular section has turned into a values
and morality lecture!!!
The topic has strayed from a woman discussing her
experience of getting preganant while travelling to the
hottest women's controversy ever....
She needed a shoulder..instead she received little support
or comfort from her fellow "women".
Be kind to one another "ladies"
who do you think you are? You make me sick. Ignorance and
intolerance are the biggest enemies of wisdom and happines
and mixed with christian morality makes really a bomb of
fanatism (funny it sound almost like fascism)!!! Every
woman is responsible (even if she makes mistakes, she is
responsible for her mistakes) of her own body and there for
is the only one who can make any choices concerning to it
and to her health. Nobody can interfere in this kind of
decisions, but just by being a helping hand.
Hey who was that ever so harsh statement for???"You make me
sick????" What is that? Maybe you should address whom you
are attacking. So classy.
You reep what you soz
Go Soz Go!
Nat Cole
Just an FYI for the ignorant. There was never a moral issue
with abortion in the ENTIRE HISTORY OF TIME until medicine
became more popular, doctors (male) didn't like that
midwives (female) were getting all the business, and decided
it should be illegal. THEN it suddenly became this big moral
issue. It's not a life at the time of abortion - it is more
like a parasite by definition. If you don't believe me go
look at old newspapers (like from the 1800's) on microfilm,
etc. You'll see ads.
Please, forgive me!
I shoudln't. If you want talk - write. Microcheetah.
I will tell you I know things can happen that we don't plan
for it to happen, but it does. No, a man does not have to
worry about your body. You must take the first step in
taking care of you and what you need to prtect yourself.
Noone can do this for you. I got pregnant and gave it up
for an adoption to a good family. Why not have the children
and adopt them out to a good family. the family would love
him or her and the baby comes to no harm. My own family was
ashamed of me for having unprotected sex with a guy i
thought cared. i personally was ashamed of myself, but I
knew if I was woman enough to lay down on my back then I
was woman enough to have the baby and give it up for
adoption. I am not judging anyone seriously i am just
speaking from experience. Today I'm fine and the baby is
well off.
I wish I understood your post...