hi. o.k., i have planned the trip. 6 months to go. all i
have to do is save some money and i am off. pretty simple?
not quite. When i sit in a corner by myself and listen to
what i really want - it always comes back to travel.
when i think of how much money i will be spending (i will
be blowing my entire savings) and then coming home broke,
my stomach churns. i know that this travelling experience
will be with me forever, and will be worth the amount of
money 10 times over, BUT i can't help feeling this way.
then there is the issue of my non-hippy parents whose dream
for me is to have a career and a house asap. they are not
the travelling type who just throws everything in the air
and follow their heart. they consider my decision to travel
half way around the world for 6 months to be totally
immature and irresposible. should i just say sorry and see-
ya and hope for the best. i have tried explaining but they
don't get it. what should i do.
p.s. i am not compromising my trip for them, i just want to
leave with them being really happy for me.
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Tell your parents that all the investment that they have made in rearing you has been well spent, for you have become, among other things, and explorer. Not just any old explorer, but a damned good one with passion and ethusiasm. What you will find as an explorer remains to be seen, but when ylu find it, they will be proud of you.
also a person who will come home with a view of the world first hand, through your own eyes not through the
media, the hype, or others who want you to believe their lies. You will come home with a better understanding of
yourself, you will be stronger, wiser, more confident, happier for following your dream. Imagine spending your life
pleasing your parents. Thats sounds like a recipe for disaster down the road of life!
Personally I have said "sorry seeya" to my parents a few times with different situations. They respect my
decisions tho don't understand them either. They might be unhappy that you are leaving but isn't that their
problem? You are an adult now. Time to leave and go your way. That's difficult for most parents no matter what
their kids are doing or where they are going, but every parent has to come to terms with it. Unburden yourself, tell
them you love them and go.
I am doing the same thing. Except I am going for an entire
year. My mom and dad are pretty supportive, although a bit
scared, too. They are the "get a career/house" type as well,
and that is what I did. College - Grad school - work and now
at 26, I'm saying "gotta go and live a bit!" It's not so
much that I DON'T care if they are happy for me, but I AM
HAPPY FOR ME, and that is what matters. They will get over
it and move on, but it is MY LIFE. :) I hope you can get
there too. Best, Karen
Hye Dear,
If you feel like that you are most welcome to be my guest in
uala Lumpur(Malaysia)Then we could travel to Bangkok and
Singapore together.I am a medical student from India.
I have one thing to say to you: FOLLOW YOUR BLISS.
If you do whatever will make you happy then everything else
will fall into place. Just go for it. You will never regret
it. Who knows, when you get back from holiday you may be
offered a good job or you may find something overseas or
whatever!?? Don't THINK TOO MUCH or you'll never do
anything. You'll be paralysed from moving forward and
experiencing the wonders of travel. Ya know, I thought just
the same as you (so I speak from experience) - disapproving
parents, money problems, 'what ifs' blah blah bloody blah.
Some people thought I was wasting my time gallavanting
around the globe ...("Gasp ... She's 25 and she still hasn't
had a 9-5 job", for eg!!) but I knew travelling made me
happy and it was something I *had* to do. And boy, am I
happy I chose to give in to the wanderlust. The job I have
now is the most wonderful travel-related job you could ever
imagine and one of the main reasons I have it (and earn OK
money) is because I FOLLOWED MY BLISS. Lucy, just go &
take a leap of faith and everything will work out as it
should. For godsake, don't be a slave to money or to your
parents/relatives/friends ..... it'll only cripple you. It's
YOUR life .. you only have ONE CHANCE to make it fantastic.
(And, for me, travelling has made my life so fabulous
and memorable so far) Have a wonderful trip.
now, but from my experience:
my parents never understood this traveling thing (I'm 29
now), but now I have the feeling they do. I'm living in
Colombia now, and I feel my mom understands why?
So if they don't want to understand, don't worry. They
obviously love you and if they're not complete dummies
they'll think a lot while you're away and they'll figure it
out more or less. Parents are usually not as stupid or
incapable of changing their ideas as we think (just my
experience).
And the money thing:
LIVE IS NOT ABOUT BANK ACCOUNTS!
Life is not about goddamn bank accounts! (and I ain't no
hippie, I'm a computergraphics specialist)
I often feel I should be having a nice, well paid job now
and then, and I will, in a year or so, but untill then I'm
having a great life! (after that as well, but the stuff I'm
doing now I won't be able to do with a heavy job)
Have fun!!!!!!!!!!
And anyway, they'll see you're happy so they'll be happy for
you, even though your mom will do some crying probably...
And just imagine: it's an adventure for them too! Just
imagine: which parent is lucky enough to get all those
emails or postcards from strange and weird countries? The
stories they'll tell their neighboors and family! The
attention they'll get! If they have any capacity for being
happy this will make them happy in the end too!
You can always sell your smelly white cunt when you return
or trade it for a square meal.
Lucy, try and ignore the comment above, I think it is a
great idea and when you are in your parents position you
will be able to say I did that and it was the best year/6
months of my life!!!
I am going in Sept on a RTW ticket - let me know where you
are planning to go and we could meet up.
GO FOR IT!!!
"You don't regret the things you do - only the things you
don't".
I have two months till I go on a trip that sends me far
away and for a long time. My whole family is Jehovah
Witnesses (JW) and they too are the non-travelling career
type. I can't make them understand. And being the religious
pair they are...they aren't maing it easy for me to live
there. I'm a black sheep because im not in the religion. I
have found it extremely stressful because they put all
their frustrations on me and so the whole family goes along
with it. I have 5 bros and sis, from 16 to 25. They don't
understand either. I've tried everything but this religion
thing.....i dont know....maybe it brainwashes them.
Because of this, it pushes me to travel. Its silly really.
It feels like im running away from the problem.