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Marriage Relationships
In marriage realtionships we expected to learn a number of
things including the comprimises couple must make with respect to
such things as careers, finances, and children. Our initial
impressions were that couples must be willing to make these
sacrifices in order to have a long and fulfilling relationship
with their spouse.
In our discussion on pre-marital sex we both agreed that it
was fine as long as it was done responsibly, meaning with the use
of contraceptives. We stressed contraceptives because we felt
that it was important not only to protect against pregnancy but
as well as sexually transmitted diseases. We did however
experience one conflict. Laura felt that love and serious
committment should play a major role in whether or not a couple
should have sex prior to marriage. I on the other hand was a
little "looser" on the subject. I felt that it should mean
something but that there was too much emphazes being placed on
serious committment.
On the subject of contraception anf family planning we had
no disagreements. We felt that before having children we must
first be able to establish ourselves financially. So once our
respective careers were settled upon we could then plan when we
would have children. However, until we did decide to have
children we agreed that contraception would be used.
The discussion we had on which topics which couples should
agree upon was filled with lots of disagreements. We agreed
that couples should agree on topics such as issues concerning the
children, and major career decisions. We began to disagree on
the issues of finances and the distribution of housework. I felt
that I should handle all the money as well as do my share of the
housework. Laura however, felt that she should be in charge of
the money and that I should do all the housework. In the end we
weren't able to settle on anything but we realized that it was
important for married couple to agree on these topics because
they are major decisions that affect both equally.
The time we spent together was on our lunches and we
discussed different aspects for marriage. We realized that
couples who were willing to comprimize on important issues were
the couple that would be sucessful. The ones that didn't discuss
the various problems which concerned them could never have
lasting relationships. This is why we felt that marriage
preparation courses are so important. People should not get
involved in something as important a marriage without knowing
what to expect of their partner and of what is expected of them.
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