ocr: PAGE 2 INDIVIDUALS ANALYSIS feel rewarded by someone who appreciates what we are doing. In this way, we grow to relax and to understand that perfection is not vital. More often than not, though, we will have unconsciously picked a partner who feeds these insecurities and plays on them, probably because they feel tamiliar - rather like that impossible parent we tried sO hard to please. COUNSELING AND ASSERTIVENESS Counseling helped Diana to understand how her present pattern ofl - behavior stemmed from her childhood. Simple assertiveness training also helped her to do what she really felt like ...