ocr: STEFAN'S HISTORY TEFAN was a young refugee when he married Flaine, and they now have two grown-up children. "Ihad a very precarious beginning in my new country, 33 he explained. "I arrived at the age C of10 with parents who had - nothing. But in spite of doing well - first in school, then with my career: Istill felt insecure until I met Flaine. She gave me an almost physical sense ofrelief. With her, my fears vaporized. Now, it feels as though she's part of: me. Ilove her and I'1l try anything to make our marriage last. But in the last few years our sex life has declined and it's harder and ha ...