User's Guide To Out And About

Well girls I decided to write this little article for all of you out there who have that dreaded fear of going out dressed in public during the day. Many time I've read about girls who get really scared when they venture forth in public. They are nervous, afraid of being read, and most of all have created the dreaded fear that if they are read, something horrible will happen to them.

Well I'm here to try and dispel those notions.

To begin with, what is the worst thing that realistically could happen to you if you are read? Well unless it is against the law in your area to crossdress, the worst thing is humiliation. Will you be arrested if you have not broken any laws? Will your wife or girl friend be told? Will your boss be told? After all, if someone becomes vindictive, they could be liable for slander.

The answer to these questions are: most likely not. To play it safe, "don't go out dressed in your own back yard unless the neighbors are TG friendly". If the police get involved, don't try to hide your true identity. Always carry a form of identity. I carry my guy wallet and my girl wallet in my purse. The guy wallet stays out of sight unless I have a real need. Now days most people tend to keep out of others business.

With that aside, the one thing I can't stress enough is self confidence. If you look the part, act the part, you will be accepted most of the time. And looking the part means blending in, NOT standing out. You don't want to look like your fantasy girl when shopping at the local mall. One of the biggest self confidence builders in my opinion, is to be "mam'ed". When people address you as a woman, then you know you have the right formula. To me this is the ultimate complement.

Case in Point

This past weekend I needed to do some shopping for my wife and myself. I decided to do it dressed. Since it was a week end, I chose to wear blue jeans, a white blouse, and open toe sandals with one inch heels withbare feet. My toe nails were painted to match my finger nails in my newly discovered color, "Moonbeam". My make up was day wear; foundation, pale pink lipstick, brown eyeliner on the upper lid only, and a hint of pale pink blush. Hoop earrings, a thin chain necklace and pendant, small gold bracelet and watch, plus the wedding and engagement ring finished off the jewelry.

My first stop was a newly discovered thrift store where I found a lot of great cloths for summer occasions. Then on to look for potting soil, a banner holder, and a gym bag for when I work out. No girls, I'm not trying to become beefy, just stay in shape so I can carry more packages when I'm shopping.

At each store I was greeted by both men and women as " mam". Each time this was said, my confidence increased. Now my voice does not have the best feminine sound, but in all cases no signs were given to make me think they were not addressing a woman. They were polite and in some cases carried on a conversation with me. When I was shopping I acted as every other woman was, calmly looking at the merchandise, selecting, looking over and sizing clothes against myself. While I do keep an eye out for people who may be staring at me, a sign I've been read, at no time did anyone stare. I, in turn, do not make it a point of staring at others as a courtesy.

I simply go about my business and treat other women with courtesy. A smile when eye contact is made with another woman, is always required . This should be automatic. When I'm dressed, I feel and act, as best I can, as a woman. I radiate an air of self confidence. I also avoid situations that could create being read. I don't talk a lot, nor create a commotion. I try to use male checkout people over women. I speak softly when spoken too. I dress conservatively and try to blend in.

Well girls, that my approach. I know that everyone has their own way of coping with the public issue. Some of us will never go out during the day in public because of our fears. To that I say, go for it girl, enjoy your femme self, be one of the girls. What is the worst that will happen? As long as you don't do something foolish, you will be fine. Until the next time, this is Diane Kaye saying "shop 'til you drop".