So You're A Lesbian

By Roberta Angela Dee





One of my best girl friends, Alicia, is a cross dresser. Sheís been cross dressing for years and has a wardrobe most women would die to own. Sheís thin, has a very feminine voice, and has taken female hormones enough to develop sizable breasts.

Simply put, sheís about as close to being transgendered as one can get without making a total commitment to live as a woman. Well, about a week ago, she came to me and confided that she was involved in a relationship with a bisexual woman.

Now, you have to fully appreciate that Alicia is attractive, and she attracts bisexual men like a moths are attracted to a camp fire. And, sheís always been with men. So, she wasnít completely comfortable with the thought of giving up all those men in order to be in a serious relationship with a woman.

She confided in me, saying, ìWith all the hunks out there, why the hell should I want to be with a lesbian?î

It was obvious to me that Alicia was as confused as those who believe that shaving their Adamís Apple will somehow transform them into the opposite sex. Sorry, but it doesnít work that way. They could shave their Adamís Apple and whatever else theyíd like to shave, and theyíd still be men.

Being a woman comes from within. Itís a consciousness no surgeon can give you. So, thatís why I told Alicia.

Being bisexual doesnít mean youíre a lesbian,î I explained. ìSorry, but it doesnít work that way. Bisexuality simply means that you are able to enjoy an intimate relationship with either gender. It doesnít mean you canít make a commitment. A lesbian can be committed to one woman simply because she only loves woman. The same is true for someone who is heterosexual. However, anyone who is truly bisexual is never going to be completely happy with one partner. Itís a fact of life. And itís why bisexuality means -- a love for both genders.

ìSo, Iím not a lesbian,î she inquired.

ìNo, youíre not a lesbian,î I answered. ìYouíre attracted to men and to women, and thereís nothing wrong with that. You just have to learn to be honest with both partners. And, if youíre with someone who canít accept your bisexuality, ten you have to be honest enough with that person and honest enough with yourself, to let that person go.î

Yea, but what if I want to get married someday?î she asked.

ìWell, it will be very hard for you to find a suitable mate,î I told her. ìMost people equate cross dressing with being homosexual. And the fact is that most cross dressers are heterosexual. Itís the same as most people assuming that you have to have a sex change in order to be a genuine transsexual. Talk shows, unfortunately, have done a good job of circulating ignorance throughout America.î

ìSo, what should I do?î Alicia asked.

ìDo whatever you want to do,î I answered. ìJust be honest. Donít invite some woman to be your life long mate, and have her think that youíre an average Joe America. Youíre not. But if she truly loves you, sheíll accept -- Victoriaís Secrets and all. But if she doesnít love you, youíll be better off without her. And sheíll be better off without you.î

The End

Roberta Angela Dee

RADANGLE@aol.com


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