Twenty Ways To Look More Beautiful

MEN AND WOMEN

Have you ever heard women comment that men just donít listen? Have you ever wondered why?

The answer is simple. Men tend to be physical. Women tend to be more sensual and emotional. This is not, as some feminists might suggest, merely a stereotype. Nor is it the result of women being nurtured a particular way.

Science has recently discovered that women have a gene on their X-chromosome that makes them more social and more adaptable, socially, than men. Transgendered women may not have this gene, but we can learn to benefit from the role it plays it the lives of biological women.

WHAT MAKES A WOMAN BEAUTIFUL?

We can naturally ascribe a certain amount of beauty to hair, fashion, and makeup. However, must of us understand that our physical health is equally as important. Itís difficult to look or feel pretty, if oneís good health has failed. There is, however, another -- equally important -- component to a womanís beauty: a womanís emotional well being.

Women take time to nurture their emotional well being because they understand that it affects how they will look. The weekend cross dresser might know the best beauty tips and makeup secrets, but sheís not going to be able to project that beauty, if sheís harboring negative feelings and emotions. If the inner beauty is absent, then the outer beauty will not have its special glow.

Iíve compiled 20 simple rituals we can add to our daily lives to nurture our inner beauty. Men might not feel these things are important, but every beautiful woman relies on them as much as her favorite tube of lips stick or favorite eye makeup.

You need not incorporate all 20 routines into your daily life. You should, however, incorporate as many as possible. You should also feel encouraged to improvise and be creative.

As transgendered women we learn to compensate for many of the things we did not receive at birth. Now, letís see how we can compensate for that missing gene as well.

TWENTY WAYS TO LOOK MORE BEAUTIFUL

1. Find the time to spend an hour on the deck or patio, listening to soothing music while sipping herbal tea. Look at your environment and feel how wonderful it is merely to be alive.

2. Do something nice for someone. Even if itís just to say hello to an elderly neighbor who might not receive very many visitors. Youíll feel better too.

3. Talk to your children about the things that interest them. Their innocence and naivetÈ can refresh your own outlook on life. It also tells them that you care about them as human being, and not just the subjects of your will and guidance.

4. If you canít dress en femme, at least find something thatís unisex in nature that allows you feel pretty inside where it matters most. If you havenít anything thatís unisex, then browse through a catalog for something to buy. Some ladyís fashions are asexual enough to be worn by a man and still provide just a hint of femininity.

5. Take a walk, If itís a beautiful day, youíll benefit as much from the exercise as you will from taking in the sights at less than 35 miles per hour. Youíll be surprised at how much you miss just driving by each day.

6. Do something special for a co-worker. Offer to help on an important project. He or she might not accept your offer, but the gesture will be appreciated.

7. Take time to reflect on some of what youíve experience -- as a woman, as a lover, as a teacher or as a worker.

8. Start a diary. And select a half hour each day to sit in your favorite chair and record the dayís events.

9. Put something colorful together, whether itís a floral arrangement, or the clothes in your wardrobe.

10. Look in the mirror and smile. Now, thereís a nice lady!

11. Take a nice long bubble bath in warm sudsy water. Light candles and play relaxing music. Drift away.

12. Wear something silky. Anything silky makes me feel pretty.

13. Pamper your face. A moisturizing mask or a clay mask -- depending on your skin type. Donít just do it before putting on makeup. Do it because you love your face and want it to reflect the love you feel inside.

14. Go cycling. Riding a bike is wonderful exercise.

15. Now, whereís that novel you purchased but never had time to read. Devote so much time each day to read it.

16. Browse through a book of inspirational verses. The verses themselves are not always profound, but they can ignite your imagination and help you learn to be a more creative woman.

17. Arrange your panties on a white bed sheet and take photos. See how creative you can be with your panty portraits. Other women will love it.

18. Deep condition your hair. When was the last time you used anything other than an instant conditioner?

19. Practice smiling while you speak. It will change your vocal inflections and make them more feminine. Women sometimes will even try to smile while providing an account of an unpleasant experience. You need to smile more too.

20. Be yourself. Be true to yourself. And be happy being who you are.

Love & Peace

Roberta Angela Dee

RADANGLE@aol.com

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