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Dear Rachael:
I have made one of the most difficult decisions in life, I plan to come out to my mother. Do you have any advice? I don't have to tell you that I am very scared.
I plan to hand her a letter and let her read it. I don't think I could get past the first line without breaking down so the letter will speak for me until she finishes. I have made a couple of drafts but maybe there are things that I should include in the letter. Would additional material for her to read later be good and if so what would you recommend. Would you suggest that I include some photos of myself dressed or would that be too much?
Needless to say, this decision was not an easy one for me to make and my whole future relationship with her will depend on how she receives it . . . so I need your help and advice.
Thank you for anything that you can assist me with.
Beverly
Dear Beverly:
The one question that begs to be answered is "how old are you?" If you are an adult and living on your own, your dilemma is not as significant. After all you can do as you please within certain parameters. Of course, you want to have your mother accept you as the good person that you are. I assume you were born male really feel that you are female, although visa versa may be the case. A letter is okay . . . I prefer the closeness of telling one in person. Let your feeling speak more than the intellect . . . crying is okay, hon! You may want to write down your feelings so that if the conversation goes to hell in a hand-basket, you can give her the material to read when she can better accept it. I'd hold off on the photos until (if) she warms up to the idea. Literature on the subject is fine, just don't overwhelm her all at once.
It is really hard to tell how she will react without some of you family background including whether your family is liberal in thought and open to diversity such as Gay, Lesbian, TS, TV, TG issues. If they, or your mom, is not, look out . . . it will not be fun. Even if it hurts a lot, in time you will find that you will be happier having been true to them and yourself.
If you are a minor the matter becomes more difficult. Sure, all the above issues come into play. However, you are under the control of your mom, who may decide to discipline you, forbid you to act on your thoughts and worse yet, try to have you cured. In this case I would recommend that you seek out a member of you church to confide in (or a school counselor), preferably one who knows you and your mom. Go from there.
Rachael
Dear Readers:
Another year comes to an end. While we scurry about to get all of our shopping done remember that there is more to Christmas than Santa Claus, though many become lost in that materialistic fantasy world. The act of giving is an act of love towards others. The celebration of Christmas is the celebration of the birth of the Christ child . . . it is a celebration of His love for us and our love for Him. Hanukah is about love as well.
I would like to express Seasons Greetings to all, love for all and thank you for allowing me to share your feelings, happiness, sorrows and thoughts during the year.
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achael,
