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Topics: How I picked my name. Would you come out if the social restrictions where gone? Many others...

I currently use Stephanie simply because it's the femme equivalent of my male name. However, when I retire in a few years and go full-time, it will be as Karen in honor of 3 Karen's whom I love and/or admire: my younger sister, who died at birth; a GG at work who has been very supportive; and last, but certainly not least, Karen (Kerri) Edwards, whose site has provided me with much entertainment, information, and wisdom.

steph843@erols.com

My first name is a softer variant of dancer/actress Cyd Charysse's last name. My last name is the name of both a street and hotel in Chicago. Originally, "Cherysse St. Claire" was a character in one of my earlier short stories. There was something about the name, the SOUND of the name, that struck a resonant chord in my mind. After I had finished the story, I decided the name was just too good to retire to some desk drawer, to be forgotten.

Cherysse St. Claire

It's actually a variation of my real name (RICK). I also happen to like the name. All of my girlfriends think it is a nice name too. LUV....

RIKKI

It took me five years to settle on my femme name. I had experimented with a variety of others, Kathy, Sharon, Gina, and so on. A few months ago I considered taking the name Catherine for keeps, simply just to pick a name and stick with it. But I thought the spelling was so ordinary and too long anyhow. But then something wonderful happened. Star Trek: Voyager and Capt. Kathryn Janeway made their debuts (I'm a Trekkie also!). I thought she was so cool that I decided to make her first name mine as well! The middle and last names just came to me out of the blue though. Go figure!

Kathryn Elizabeth James

Who is out in the heart-felt forsty land.

john

Hi. That was my secret name for the gurl I loved for years. Now it's mine. I am extremely shy and gentle now and i literally changed overnite. Not a problem with the transition. I really wonder how many of us found the feminine thingy after living hard lives? Understanding that is my only question. My ex-military, punk and biker buddies just say I'm easier to get along with and family says the same thing. So I am really ME now. She is sweet and I love her. This is a very good question. Funny thing, as a guy I was totally overlooked now I get hit on, but I have lost all aggression. Guess I have to learn all over again. It's flattering, but being told yu have beautiful eyes eyes and having your ID questioned at a bank while trying to get get a card is sooo strange (specially by a woman). Seems all my experiences ar funny (yes hehehehe) like that. I'm getting afraid to go out! CrissaLyn

CrissaLyn

At first, I used the name LINDA, I had asked my mother one day what I would have been called if I had been born a girl, ( I think she thought it was for a school project ). Sapphire, came from playing the AD&D Role Playing game. I created female personas about half of the time. Sapphire, the Druid was one of my favorate! WHen I went on-line many years ago, I was asked by a gaming friend to use the Sapphire charactor in an on-line game, he said he did'nt have enought girls! SURE! I said...if that's what you want ( he had NO idea!)...so the on-line sapphire was born! Today, my wife would rather I use Sapphire for my Femne name, because she says that LINDA is "too real"...go figure!

Sapphire

As this is the first time I have seen these pages please let me answer two questions.As a youth of about 8 I had been trying on my sister's clothes in secret for some time when I fell asleep in my bed with her slip , bra , and panties on. Next thing I knew I was getting "the lecture" from my father. Oh how I wanted to say YES! when he asked if he should buy me clothes like these to wear to school.My name I choose after my wife found out and I finally felt the need to give a real part of me her own identity.Rachel is not just what I do but who I am.Thanks for listening and: Be Well Rachel L.

Rachel L.

When I dress I transform myself into a beautiful and elegant woman. I wanted a name that was also elegant.

Victoria

Question? I NEED TO SEARCH FOR AN OLD FRIEND-NEED TO KNOW WHERE TO GO FOR INFO

jerilin@

yMy full name is Natalie Attired Which Comes From "Car Talk" the PBS Radio program

Natalie

I had a girl friend by that name and one day I decided I'd rather BE her than date her ! LOL Terricina

Terricina

Well for years I used modified forms of my birth name, but I never felt right about the results. Then I was asked if my wife and I had a baby girl what would we call Her? Well I had that name figured out a long time ago and since my wife wanted to include part of her mom's name for our virtual daughter, I decided that I was being born as a woman so I should have the name I chose for my baby girl. It is a long and Hyphenated affair but it makes me feel right. Plus there are a lot of nick names I like that can be derived. My name is Anne-Christine Elise, but just call me anne. Bye for now; love, Anne

Anne

I have a cousin by the same name, and have always thought it was a pretty name. I have used it now for a little less than 2 years, and I think it fits my fem-self very well.

Pamala

Salli is my Fem name after the girl in a Lou Reed Song. I don't remember the title but the line was "Sally can't dance no more She can't even get up off the floor she as eyebrows painted on her knees Sally can't dance know more" I can't remember the rest of it. Salli sounded wild and crazy and very lower east side. I was much more wild and crazy then. I have thought about changing it often to somthing with more flare but every one knows me as Sally and it seems to work There are not alot of Sallys out there. Oh Sally can still dance and doesn't get on the floor very often Happy New Year Salli

Sally S

I have used many femme. One of the earliest was Lisa which is still the name I call my inner child. Later on I called myself Marie after the first person I truly opened up to (after I had an idea of what was going on). Some people recommended that I keep the same initials as my given name so I started calling myself Susan. (Probably after Susan Olsen of the Brady Bunch.) Susan had already beeen taken so I switched to Suzanna after a girl I met in college and made me an honorary little sister at her sorority. I current have a cheerleading uniform with the name Susan on it. Ever since I was little I wanted to be a cheeleader, now I have a few years to use it before I get too old. To sum up, many names, same person, wonderful actress.

Suzanna

I started using Christy because of an online nicname I was using ChrisT. Then a member of the St. Louis Gender Foundation told me that Christy really fit me, so I kept it.

Christy Kay

I chose my name because it makes me feel everything "en femme". There aren't words that can describe how wonderful I feel when "dressed" & knowing I AM Brenda Suzanne. Well, ladies, I'm trying to find a place today that can give me a complete make-over & provide a photography session too! Wish me luck! Hugs & Kisses, Brenda Suzanne

Brenda Suzanne

I picked the name Yvonne because it sounds French and elegantly feminine and personally don't know anyone named Yvonne so I didn't have a preconceived idea what Yvonne would be like. The last name is also my male last initial. Best New Year to all, Yvonne Kaye

Yvonne Kaye

actually, Alexa (or Alexandra)is my third name. As I was evolving at a young, stupid age, my first name was Zina. Later, as Desiree, I had my picture in an early issue of Ladylike. But one day I heard someone call- ing: "Lexi?! Lexi?!" and I remembered that the person's name was Alexandra, or Alexa/Lexi. And I just loved the sound it made. And, when said very slowly and patiently...it sounded like someone talking to a scatter brain, which was a darling sound, like "Luceeee?" Now, every one who knows the way my brain works calls me Lexi!

Alexa

It was easy for me. My given name was Charles Edward so I thought and came up with Charlene Ann. Now my nickname is Annie instead of Chucky. Annie? So why Ann? Who knows the Why, it was the right time for When.

Charlene Grieves

Before I was Born, the Doctors told my parents that I was a girl. My folks named me Ann Elizabeth. At first I wanted to be AnnE. Anne sounds more innocent than I really am so, Anna, because sometimes I'm a nuaghty girl.

Anna20632

My name was never a choice. That may sound strange but, really when I was 12 Cynthia Jean Roberts was how I thought of my internal playmate. When I started going out in public, before I understood the "dangers" and the difference I was frequenting a country dance club in Tampa, Florida and one of my dance partners started calling me "CJ" short for Cynthia Jean. It stuck! Now over 30 years later, I would not change my name or nickname for anything.

Cynthia

I wish I had the nerve to wear what feels comfortable to me anytime of the day or night. I am so scared my wife will find out, and she is not at all understanding. Right now she is out and I am sitting here in my favorite thong panties, garter belt and hose. I would love to be wearing my favorite dress and shoes, but my wife will be home soon. I wish I could get a baby doll outfit or nice pair of panties from her for Xmas, as you say, it would be a symbol of acceptance.

Renee

Helen was a cousin who was a part of my early years. She was pert, vivacious, definitely one of the most feminine girls I've ever known. The female side of me back then was envious of how much fun she had in being a girl. The male side of me was just happy to be around her. I wondered then (at 5 or 6) why I couldn't have been a girl like her. Her name brings back warm memories.

Helen

My sister said that I looked like Amanda Woodward from Melrose Place. I chose Theresa as my middle name because my Aunt has that name, and I like it. My femme name also has the same initials as my legal name.

Amanda

Katrin is the name of a girl I knew in 2nd or 3rd grade. She was a lot of fun to be with, but the boy/girl division got in the way of a close friendship. Or maybe it was just shyness. Also, the name goes well with my last. Love, Katrin

Katrin G.

Hi everyone. I chose my name because I am very much a plain Jane. When I got on the IRC chat I found that Jane was always being used as a nickname, so I added the Y. I am so glad now because I have developed in the last year of being on the net and now I feel like "Janey" A very happy Christmas to all you "girls" and to everyone at TG Forum. Janey.

Janey.

My big sister dressed me like a doll. One of my first memories is of her saying, "Aren't you a pretty dolly." Does anyone know a good qualified gender counselor in the Houston area? Dolly

Dolly

If I thought I could like the lady in the Santa outfit, I'd be "out" now. Who is she? She's so gorgeous. I'm not a subscriber. Is she hiding in teh subcribers' pages?

Peter (yes, Peter!)

Note to Peter (above): her name is Camille (it's mentioned in the note next to the picture) and she is a subscriber and has appeared in her own Pictorial here.

Cindy Martin

Although I really do not remember how I first came up with Abigail, I do know tht I later ran acroos it in a ' meaning of names dictionary, and I felt it really did fit my goals. (The dictionary listing or Abigail is: a lady's maid) The name Stahr developed from a dtrag show hostess who called me "Star" although I wasn't. Later at a lingerie botique, that accepts Abby, the clerk asked me how to spell my last name and suggested Stahr. I liked it - it stuck!

Abigail (Abby) Stahr

I can remember when I was about 10 trying on my mothers Bra and stuffing it with her panties. What a thrill that was.Im 47 years old now and have been dressing all my life,I havent had a pair of mens underware on in ten years. In the last year I have been out 3 times and absolutly adored my time as a woman out for a day of shopping. Im getting ready to go out again soon but I would like to go out with another enfemme for a day of shopping.Having someone along to share with would be fun.I live in the Bing. NY area. Can anyone out there tell me if there are TG freindly stores in the Binghamton area.To all the ladies in here have a merry x-mas, you have all been a real source of enlightenment and inspiration for me. I love feeling like a lady and being dressed to the nines,but I never accepting of myself untill I found this forum. God bless you all!!!

Gail

Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year to everybody!

Katrina

Im a closet Mexican TV, looking for others like me. I choose the name Susana because mekes me feel sexy and femme :) PD. Maritza reply to may email

Susana

Here's an interesting development. . . I posed as "Alysha" in a gay chat room and got picked up and seduced by more than a few lesbians. (I like women. . .) The cybersex was wonderful and being seduced as a woman was wonderful. So, I ended up getting really emotionally attached to one woman and finally disclosed my trans sexual nature. She says I am "the most sensitive, caring, and intimate person" she has met. She also is entirely lesbian and cannot imagine sex with a man. . . Well. . . now she's in love with my online character. "Sex is 90% mental," she says. . . and she fell in love with me. . . not my gender dsyfunctional body! Merry Christmas!

Alysha

Gift. . . ? I wanna be unmistakably feminine in a pair of bib overalls!

Candice Caine

Ok, mine's kinda weird, right? Here's the story: I was on a TG bbs called Cross Connection and was prompted to pick a handle. I had a Lita Ford song in my head that went, "Ruby lips, Revlon kiss," so I picked "Revlon Kiss" as my handle, there and on AOL. People took to calling me "Revy" despite the names I'd given them -- Debbie (which was an ex-girlfriend) and Katrina (which was the name that emerged after a past-life regression). Although I sometimes go by "Revanna," Revy just stuck. What do ya think? :)

Revy

My wife was the first to dress me. She always thought I'd make a pretty girl, so one day during our first year of marriage, she asked if she could dress me up. She had bought a complete outfit for me, shoes, dress, wig, makeup. The transformation was so amazing, we both loved it, and its been a big part of our life ever since. She was the one who named me Janet, and she really decides when Janet comes out. She'll surprise me by buying a new outfit for Janet, thats how I know. Then we get dressed together, as girl friends, and we'll go out to a club. Being out with my wife, while I'm Janet, is a special sharing for us.

Janet

My name was a gift from the most amazing person I have ever met, my wife. As I became more "real" it was obvious that I needed a real name. I had never had a name before because a sureptitious little hiding creature of the night didn't need one. Only a real person needs name. After trying on several that I had suggested she suggested "Elizabeth". I had worked with a woman named Liz who was an out and confident lesbian and I had always admired her character. I value the name and make sure that it is used well since it was a gift from the heart of a special person. Big Holiday Hugs to All!

Elizabeth P.

My first femme name was Tammy. It was a takeoff of my name I was called by when I was growing up. I used that name for several years until the first opportunity I had to go out all dolled up. This was on Halloween and I went as a nurse. To help me get all dolled up, my wife hired a makeup artist to come to the motel room where we were. The young lady did a marvelous job for me and was so pretty herself. Her name was Shelley. Now I use that name instead. See ya girls. Love,

Shelley

I WAS GIVEN THIS NAME AT BIRTH, (MIDDLE NAME) AND FOUND THAT I AND OTHERS ENJOY USING IT WHEN I'M DRESSED

ALLISON

I THINK I'VE LET MY SECRET OUT TO SOMEONE ITHOUGHT I COULD TRUST. SORRY ABOUT THE CAPITALS.

ROXANNE

I have a very good friend by the name of Ashley and I decided that why not take up her name for she is a very beautiful person.

Ashley C

Natasha! Matins. I don't want my name to be confused with a male name.For friends I wanted a name as different from James as much as the exotic far east differs Kansas. As far as strangers, my therapist Millie Brown suggested " Abandon fear and be free", so I watch carefully with as much humour and self-confidence my emergence into my true self as a Female and more importantly a compassionate human being. Thank you Millie for inspiring me!!

Natasha! Matins

I picked my name in memory of a high school friend who sensed that I was different in many ways, and encourage me to be myself regardless of what others thought. I only wished she could of shared all of my secrets.

Josie

I was on line, my first night on the net, and was preparing my first EMail to a support group, having discovered that there were others like me out there, and I thought I just had to have a femme name. I was at a loss, hating the femme contraction of my normal male name. I had a CD of Gordon Lightfoot on the stereo, and the song "Carefree Highway" came on. In that song, there is a line that says "Her name was Anne, and I'll be damned if I recall her face, she left me not knowing what to do" I didn't know what to do, but I was doing it anyway, and Anne preserved my natural initials. It fit and still does. I have since learned that Mr. Lightfoot was referring to the Canadian folksinger Anne Murray, who I like, too, even better.

Anne C.

About five years ago I was dared to go to a 50th birthday party wearing, of all things, a black dress to keep in the theme of things. I took the dare and showed up not only in dress but fully accessorised, makeup, heels, the works. The hostess dubbed me Larissa and sat me by the door, intoducing everyone who came in to Larissa. It actually tok some of them a while to realize who I was. It was my first time out en femme. Part way through the party someone asked if I wasn't uncomfortable and didn't I bring a change of clothes. As a matter of fact I never thought of bringing a change because I was perfectly comfortable. I kept the name and found many more "parties" to go to.

Larissa

One time many, many years ago, my younger brother was being a smart-ass at the dinner table and asked my mother what my name would have been if I had been born a girl. Mother responded "Mary Elizabeth" after my grandmother. I got all embarrassed about it at the time, but always was secretly pleased that it would have been my name. I took the last name Cooper because it was Mother's maiden name. (Oh by the way, my smart-ass brother's name would have been Cindy!) Mary Beth

Mary Beth Cooper

My 2 best friends in the 3rd grade were both named Sandy, one of which was short for Alexandra, this is how I chose my new name. I hope to make it my legal name in March along with an F on my California drivers license. Sandi...

Sandi

When I was four I lived with my Aunt Margaret. She was very beautiful with dark hair that came to her waist and she was a wonderful person. Even then I wanted to grow up to be just like her. She's not alive now but her memory is still very much in my heart. Margie

Margie

i CAN'T LET THIS OPPORTUNITY GO BY WITHOUT WISHING ALL OF YOU OUT THERE THE MERRIEST OF CHRISTMASES AND THE MOST JOYOUS OF NEW YEARS. KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS HAPPY AND MAY YOU GET WHAT YOU MOST WANT FOR CHRISTMAS. IF YOU DON'T...WELL GO OUT ON CHRISTMAS DAY AND BUY IT FOR 50% (OR MORE) OFF. LOVE TO ALL! DAWNROD

DAWNROD@AOL.COM

I chose my name after two of the sweetest women in my life, my mother and my only neice. Nicole Louise

Nicole Louise

I chose Terri because it is similar in sound to my male name but more important, it sounds like the beautiful girl that I wish I was. I added the anne part because Terri was already taken on the net. I am so glad that I did now because Terrianne is who I am! HUGS to all Happy Holidays.

Terrianne

Cheryl is the name my parents would have called me had I been born a girl. For this reason I've always wished I had been called Cheryl. I like the name anyway, I do so wish it was my name.

Cheryl UK

I named myself after my cousin Jamie, with whom I always had a good time. I chose Marie after my mom's middle name.

Jamie Marie

I'm Irish, and my legal initials were S.M. I thought if I kept my initials the same, it would be easier to change over documents. I have mailings and accounts in both names When I have fully transitioned, and change my name legally, I think It will be easier to get my accounts, mortgage and such, changed. I think Sean Michael is a great name. Thanks for listening

Sean

Will be in San Francisco, Jan 22-25,97. Would like to know some TG friendly places to go or at least meet some CDs/TVs while I'm in town. Have never gone out in public much. Any meetings or support groups in SF during that time? Thanks Diane

Diane Morgan

My wish tonight is to find a support group. I would appreciate knowing about any group in the northwest ND, northeast MT or southern Sask. area. If I could give any gift it would be a peaceful and fulfilled life to all T* people.

Larissa

The greatest gift would be something feminine, a blouse, a negligee or a dress from my ladyfriend. It would have the special meaning that she is accepting my crossdressing. She has come a long way - we went as two girls to a broadway show recently - but she still won't initiate any dressing activities and much as I would like to do it she won't go to bed with me if I'm 'en femme' (not even to sleep!) All the best for the holiday season.

Linda Jensen

I've always had a fetish for seamed tights. I started when I was about seven when I wore my sister's school uniform jumper over a pair of seamed green tights and a green long sleeved leotarde. I also loved wearing a cardigan sweater with linked-stitched shoulders.When I got oler I would go outside at night dressed like a little girl in my dress and tights. Now that I'm 44, I go out dressed in my tights and leotard with a dress or skirt and sweater and walk around large store parking lots as a girl.

Regina

A real gg to accept and support me in CDing.

Cybelle

I am waiting for the answer about the Diva garment as eagerly as you , Sandii Lee. I would also like to know if anybody of you has got an experience with 'Veronicas' ? I think it would be very useful for all of us if we shared our experience and feelings about things we have purchased from on-line shopping malls for TV-s. I think we all are waitnig for helpful hints and kind advices, aren't we?

Katrina

I live in the Portland Oregon area. Can any one help me with finding T* friendly clothing stores? Thanks ;)

Heidi_J

The greatest gift I would want for myself this season is just to be able to stop pretending and experience the joy of being a woman totally.

Vicki

The greatest of these is the gift of giving. The greatest thing I was wish to give is to wish to all my Trans Sister & Brothers wherever they maybe on the continuum. That they have Peace in their Hearts and Souls. They they allow themselves to exist fully. I have received this gift and a gift it is. I am on my journey! As for receiving, I would like a Gift Certificate for my SRS to be redeemed once I have sucessfully lived full time over one year. Happy Holidays to All my Family of Choice!

Renee

To become the woman that I know and feel within. To feel the gentle touch of my lovers arms (m or f) holding me close. The feel of their warm breath on my neck as they whisper my name, "Becky". The look in their eyes that I see and feel is of love and caring. Yes, it could be a wonderful life. Merry Christmas to All an may we all get our wish. Rebecca Richardson

Rebecca

Unconditional love, not just to our sisters and our families, but to EVERYONE, no matter what. Its something everyone can give. Oh, and for Christmas, I'd like to have Pamela Anderson's body. It should have been mine in the first place!

Revy

Around MONTREAL I haven't found any TV, TS,TG or CD organisation. Could any onre refer me to such an organisation?- I'm so fed up of having the feeling of "ME AGAINST THE WORLD" or "THE HOME A LONE" feeling- and Anther thing I'd like to see a TV, TS,TG or CD city just for us girls & our freinds.

Camillia

Dear Sara Clause: I know you are real busy getting ready to bring all the good girls and boys their presents. I hope you can find the time to read my letter. I've been a real good girl this all year, except when I punched Billie in the arm. I'm really sorry. He was teasing me with a worm. I don't want too much and hope there is room in the sleigh. I want you to give my friends and sisters all the happiness their hearts desire. To fill everybody with the gift of understanding and acceptance. To fill their lives with joy. I want a really good friend that likes "me". I want some Sailor Moon stuff. I want a really cute red dress and shoes. I promise to be even better next year. OK. I won't even hit Billie anymore. I hope the reindeer are OK. Give them my love. Wishes Jan

Jan

Doreen

Going to the mall and meeting one of the gorgeous women who do makeovers at the mall. She'd tell me how cute I am and ask me if she could make me pretty. She'd do my face like a model, beautiful eyes , creamy lips with a cute page boy wig. When she was done I'd flip my hair back and put on my earings!! I'm already excited!! Then she'd say wait here for a few minutes while she went shopping to suprise me with something soooo feminine. She'd come back ,tell me how beautiful I am and then make love!!!

Kimmy

what i would like for christmas is the courage to continue to follow the path i am on to the garden of myself and the wisdom to look for approval from myself and not from others. i wish all my sisters a liberating new year -- share yourself with others and let everyone benefit from your expression. i love you, i forgive you, i release you... jane

jane elise

The greatest gift would be for the rest of our society to understand the tremendous value of each and every one of our gender gifted souls. We are all such special people who have so much to give if people would just take the time to truely understand us. Some of our Blossoms have been caught by early frosts but I very much feel that our time is here! Bless you all! Big Hugs,

Elizabeth P.

ACCEPTANCE! Espcially from my wife of 28 years who has threatened to finally file for divorce and end our family relationship. I just want her to aloolw me to dress and go out once in a while and to keep my feminine attire in my dresser or chest rather than hidden away in boxes and out of sight. I just want to be more free and less closeted and sneaky.

Barbara

Hi all, I'm a married (to female) closet CD looking to make and meet new friends in Rhode Island and South Eastern New England. Would love to start working on becoming passable so I can start enjoying the Femminine side of me. Any advise or helpful hints greatly appriciated and needed. love you all

Jennifer Owen

I give my complete love and support to all my T* sisters, and thank them for the support they have given me for the past year. It has been a wonderful year. I want to especially thank all my sisters at the Queen Mary in Studio City, CA. Happy holidays dears. With happy hugs and love: Marianne Rivers

Marianne

For Christmas I would like a french maid's frock, red with pink petticoats, red frilly panties, a pink garter belt and red stockings. For the night. a see through pink nylon baby doll nightie

That is a hard question. I'm not sure what the greatest gift for me would be. Unconditional love comes to mind. The wish to be a girl is always up there but is never seems to be number 1. More feasably, I'd like to make another movie, one where I can finally face the public.

Suzanna

Just had my best Christmas present. My SO and I are in the process of getting a divorce. I just told my daughter and her responce was "I've know for years, now I know what to get you for Christmas, makeup". I didn't know what her reaction would be so I was relieved. Going to have a Merry Christmas after all. Merry Christmas from sothern california. HUGS KImberly1

As Christy Kay says, the best gift would be to wake up as a real girl. If not, the second best for me would be to be rid of these desires. I was out a couple of weeks ago. The first day it went great. If you pick the right places, nobody seems to notice or care. Then I had my picture done at Glamour Shots. I will never look like the gorgous girls in the Elegance Pictorial. I am really depressed at how obvious I was. I had also made the mistake of going to a suburban shopping center for the pictures. Everybody seemed to stare and point. People are just more tolerant in the city.

Stephanie Ann

My wish is to complete my life as the woman I see locked in this tortured male soul. A beautiful loving female in need of someone to love her and give her love back. A being that wants all his world to pass on and allow his feminine spirits to grow at last. Able to be free yet not hurt my most understanding, terminally ill wife...the pain at times go beyond any I have know as a man.....sometimes I feel like walking thru the looking glass never to return...the pain TO BE someone else for the remainder of my life, a man and not "Patricia", is AWFUL and hurts!

Patricia Ann McCurdy

The greatest gift I could receive would be for my wife to present me with some nice feminine things and then tell me that she has known for a while that I had been dressing in feminine clothes. Then to have her hold me close and tell me that she loves all of me and that she wants to get to know the other side of me. I know I would break into tears and have to search for the strength to be Jynell in front of her. As I think about it I can imagine the enormous weight lifted from my bosom...

Jynell

MY wish is for total and unconditional acceptance. I really can't stand having to crossdress as a man. For my sisters and family, my support and love. Love to all, Anne Marie

Anne Marie

I already got it. I recently outed myself to my senior employees and my best friends, and my senior employees are still my senior employees; my best friends are still my best friends. I still can't face my parents with this, and that'd be a good second gift, but I can deal with the present situation. It's been really cool to be able to tell my staff what I really did over the weekend, and to get beauty secrets from some fine people. Really, give yourselves the gift of some careful outing, you really will get more support and less criticism than you expect. Anne C.

Anne C.

A nice pair of panties from the immediate family - or ANYTHING feminine ! Not the gift itself - but the "acceptance" of 'who' I am ( or want to be ). That would be the greatest gift of all. Love to everyone - and happy holidays to all of our sisters.

Debbie Allen

I feel that the greatest gift for all to receive would be that everyone be treated and treat each other as Jesus would have done! No bias, just love and respect for one another. Not the prejudgement that is so common in todays busy world!

Donna (TX

Honesty! Sometimes, it is difficult to be honest with others about ourselves. With a spouse it is very difficult to "read" if they will be accepting of us in our femme role. If you feel you cannot be totaly honest about it, at least start slowly. Allow part of your feminine feelings to control your interaction with your SO, this in and of itself will help in the long run to get acceptance. When I mean be honest do, be truthful, with YOURSELF. You are a special and lucky person able to see both sides (though with rose colored glasses) of the gender spectrum. Be true to yourself, accept the fact you are different, accept yourself and have fun with the situation. It will not go away, there is no known cure ( would you take it anyway?) so get over the purges and the pity me attitude! When you are finally honest with yourself and accepting of yourself (self-esteem) you are on the way to being the total person you want to be. Man when you need to fix the car woman when you need to buy clothing and interact with your SO.

Cynthia Roberts

That's easy! (Unconditional) Friendship. To me it's the greatest gift to both give and receive. If you have tasted it's fruit you know what I mean. Remember that happiness is only the bi-product of giving. Try it! Let's be friends!

Dianna

The best gift I could receive is the confidence to continue to express my self and to continue to grow. On the lighter side, I'd really like the Donna Karan little black cocktail dress (size 20 1/2 please) :) Mary Beth

Mary Beth Cooper

The greatest gift I could get this holiday season would be total acceptance by my family and friends. Nothing would be more wonderful than to not have to take off my dress and nail polish when someone is coming over. Acceptance is the greatest gift anyone can give. Happy Holidays everyone! Bobbie Lee

Bobbie Lee

Greastes gift I could get would bo to wake up on Christymas morning as a real girl. Greatest gift I could give would be the same to anyone who asked.

Christy Kay

The best gift I or anyone could get is understanding and acceptance. Some of us are comfortable with who we are we just need others to accept and not to judge. The gift I could give is to allow others their feelings and not to judge them we T*s sometimes are hard on others we use it as a defence at times. If we could all learn to live together "life would be Good" as the commercial states. Some nice lacy things would be nice too!!! HUGS all

Phyllis

The greatest gift to receive....total acceptance and support from my wife. When she found out it was pure hell. She called me every name in the book, wanted nothing to do with me, etc. I have been seeing a Pysch for a year and she has helped me alot, but the icing on the cake, the last page to the chapter would be total support from my wife. I would love to have her help me with all aspects of being a lady. It would also be heavenly to look in my closet and see pretty dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Well Santa, you have a very big opportunity ahead of you. Happy Holidays to all. Be safe, enjoy and wear those holiday outfits with pride. Hugs.

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Closet Door lookput!!!! I would be out so fast the door could not open befor I would be on my way , Paula

Paula

A utopian dream that will likely be reality for us a few years henceforth. How do GG's dress, anyway? They can wear makeup or not, wear grungy jeans and sweatshirts or fancy dresses, wear a little jewelry or a lot. Answer; I'd wear whatever was right at the time, whatever I felt like. I might wear a nice dress, heels, and makeup to work one day, and wear jeans and no makeup the next. You wouldn't do yardwork in a DKNY dress, right? One thing for sure, I'd never wear a tie again! And, you'd rarely see me without at least a little makeup on. Anne C., Louisville, KY.

Anne C.

It would be Great ! I would love to go out to a nightclub dressed to the nines. Being able to go out dressed whenever I want with out the fear I have now would be fun. Just think of it.. going to a mall to go shopping... trying on dresses shoes..... That would be fantastic !

Alaina

If there were no social barriers, I would definitely dress outside of my home. I enjoy being a blend of both masculine, and feminine, so I wouldn't dress every day. There are days though, when I'd love to go out as a woman, and be treated as one. I have a lot of T* customers at my place of employment, and I sometimes wish that I had their courage. The social barriers are my only excuse. How many times have we wondered why women can wear a mans suit, but we can't wear a dress without ridicule?

Heidi

Well I'm really stepping out. After a successful Halloween outing I have begun to experiment with more public appearances. At this moment I am sitting at an internet terminal at the local University wearing slacks, hose, heels, a tunic sweater, stuffed bra and full makeup. My nails are painted and I'm wearing pierced earrings. I even curled my hair. No one is paying even the slightest attention to me so I must be passing. I wish I could dress like this ALL the time. One of these days I'll get brave and leave an e-mail address so I could begin to correspond with others. I'm strictly hetero and would LOVE to contact an understanding female that I could go out to dinner or shopping with. Perhaps some day (Is it REALLY secure?).

Jane

I guess the answer would be YES!!! At least a lot of the problems would be gone. There would still be other barriers. Mostly based on the fear that oneself has over how society or family will see them.. I just want to ask Melissa a question. What do you do if your family has already disowned you? I would really like to know

Janice Lynn

love u all, kisses&hugs!!!

lisa chantelle

Most definetly!!! I would love to publicly dress and behave the way that I feel. Only once in my 40+ yrs. have I EVER really felt free. And right now I'm having one very tough time deal ling with my true feelings. I truly regret not doing something when I was younger. Thank You for letting me be able to put this in print "Becky Richardson'

Hi girls, I¥m a twenty something Mexican girl. I¥m new surfing on the web and it¥s cool to see that there are sites like this one. Reading about social barriers, here in Mexico are stronger that USA, Canada or Europe, because of the typical Mexican macho!!,and it¥s so bad for me because I¥m still not found other girls like me in Mexico and still in the closet. As I¥m writing this, I¥m wearing as an executive girl, bra, panties, stockings, miniskirt,blouse, earrings, etc. It¥s so cool being a girl!!!. I started when I was about 5 years old when playing with some cousins.They were playing with this famous dolls Barbie and Ken, suddenly they weare Ken with Baribie clothes, (bra, dress) and it cause me a strange sensation and thought, "If Ken can dress all those clothes, why I can not", so at the end of that day I went to my mother¥s room and found a bra and panties, I put them on and liked the feeling.

Maritza

Absolutely!! How I long to wear a women's business suit with a skirt and pumps to work.

Keshia

I would absolutely 'come out of the closet'. I already live part-time; at work on the weekends, and clubbing, socializing. Only my family and colleagues at school see me as a male. I am transitioning, and I am telling my close friends one by one. But if the 'social barriers' fell, I'd go full-time immediately. At 24, I can't wait another day to live as a woman. I encourage everyone WHO CAN to make the changes in their life so they can live comfortably, and to seek help from the TG community, or their friends; but don't wait for society to say it's okay. (i am still working on the school aspect of my life, and I will be full-time as of July 1, 97. :):)

Elayne-k

As is usually the case, the problems surrounding the transgendered community is not solely the result of being transgendered or of society's attitude but a combination of the two. The analogy that comes to mind is that of the ice cube that is placed into a pan of hot grease.

By itself, a pan of hot grease is very useful, if you like deep fried food. An ice cube is good for keeping beverages cold. But placing an ice cube in hot grease causes a violent reaction. Dropping the social barriers to crossdressing is akin to cooling off the grease before you put the ice cube in. There may never be a perfect blending of the two, but the absence of a hostile reaction is a very good thing.

Were this to be the case, I would not hesitate to be even more open about my dressing. I might even considering dressing full-time.

Ericha

Yes I uould be out in a min. But as things are today that is an impossibility But it is good food for thought

Pattie

The barriers are down but lost in a flux of when and where. However to the question, I would love to doll myself up to go out when I wanted. I do like to get dressed as a man as well. Men have some very cool clothes. Sexy and the like. It's not all too bad just to feel a pair of stockings with my hands on a woman's legs. You know the sweet smells. Although I understand the liberation of a night genderbending, what it taught me most is, Been there, Done that. Maybe do it again too.

GeODyssey

If the social barrier was more socially accepted I for one would come out much more than I do now. With the social acceptance this day and age here where I live it is still kind of I guess they say kinky or outrageous. There is a little ways to go before our kind will be socially accepted.

Daisy

I really don't know how quickly I'd come out. At the moment I'm still petrified of shopping, etc. I have not even met any other cross dressers, except for MArdi Gras, and even then, I didn't let on. Maybe one day ...

Susan

I am the significant other of Rachel Alyce of La Grande, Oregon. If the social barriers were to fall.....if only! Yes my Rachel would be conducting business "enfemme" and would probably have a great deal less trivial worries in life! Rachel is pretty open in dressing, and is more than likely to be found in a dress or skirt at home. It would be wonderful if the barriers fell, and people could live their lives as they choose especially since Clothes only seem to "hurt" the repressed crossdresser! Rita K., Castle Rock, Washington

Rita K.

For as long as I can remember I have felt that we should not only be able to dress as we feel, but that it should not be a cause for comment. Imagine the freedom to be dressed to suit the mood or the occasion. The cupboard would certainly be empty.

Madeleine

I'm a partial crossdresser. By that I mean that I love wearing women's clothing and makeup, but I'm not passable. What I usually do is wear pantyhose and high heels with jeans in public, usually with makeup, I feel that I'm portraying just a guy that likes women's things and not necessarily a female impersonator. I have a wife that doesn't approve so I have to do everything on the sly. I really don't care what the rest of society thinks, but I'm careful not to see anyone we know so that it doesn't get back to my wife. You see, as much as I love crossdressing, I love my wife more and don't wan't want to lose her. If we were apart I would dress how I like whether "social barriers" were dropped or not. I love the look, the feel, and the way it makes me feel. I must admit that I don't really care about being seen by men, I'd much prefer to be around women when dressed up. I only have one complaint about women's clothing; IT TAKES SO LONG TO GO TO THE RESTROOM...smiles!!

Patrick

Last night I spent time reading my print out of the forum to my significant other Rachel, it was fun for her to compare her experience, and outlook with that of others that share her "obsessive hobby". She needs to get her computer fixed so she can speak for herself! Much happiness to everyone, Be yourself, if you don't, who else will?! *LOL*

Rita K.

I've just spent the past two hours pouring over the contents of this astounding Transgender Forum. Since my earliest days, I have wrestled with the fact that I was born male but inside I was female. I honestly thought I was essentially alone with all this. I have fought it, thought I had it subdued, and every time I've been alone, it's always been a reappearing part of me. Your forum has helped me, in two hours come to grips with who I truly am. For the first time in my life I am at peace with the woman who lives within me. I am not crazy. I am not strange. I'm only myself. Thanks to each of you who have spoken so openly about a natural occurrence in life that I thought was a sometimes unendurable problem. I am free! Love, Helen

helen

I would think much more seriously about it, in the company of other cd/tv's

jamie

Hi! My names Diane, and I live in the Central Valley, Calif. Looking for other "girls" who want to have fun. Know of any TG/TS friendly places around? Hard to find in the small towns. Drop me a line if you know of any. Hugs Diane

Diane

I would be out so fast my RAM would be looking at my dust!!!!!!!!!! Love to you all and Happy Holidays from Brattleboro Vermont, Elizabeth

Elizabeth Zalneraitis

This is ironic. In the last TGF I explored my own unwillingness to come out to a colleague, despite his being gay and the subject being in discussion. In effect, I said I'm not helping the barriers to fall, at least this time. But the other point that I made is also true. Barriers don't fall. Somebody pushes them. I've already benefited in quite another way from somebody else's courage, because my interracial marriage would have been where I live when I was growing up. Think of it this way, though. We have our m2f heroines and our f2m heroes. We also have a community, and that's a big difference from being isolated individuals, lost in our own forbidden desires. Each of us has to say "I will go so far and no farther." But how far a person will go can change and the community we now recognize has made it possible for all of us to go a lot farther than any of us probably ever thought we would.

Emily Alford

Absolutely! Even now I wear stockings or pantyhose and panties daily. I long to be able be able to wear a dress or skirt, with heels, to work and be accepted, or actually to have it be an unremarkable situation. I find feminine under and outerwear, as I'm sure most of you do, to be enticing and exciting. Oh to be able to freely wear these things along with makeup and jewelry on a daily basis. I will say that crossdessing is something that I have done for years and, as time goes on, I find myself being less concerned with the public acceptance of my "hobby". Dawnrod

Dawnrod@AOL.COM

Being essentially already out of the closet I can simply say that it would make life a lot easier and lower the public stress level significantly. After years dressing, passing and living, I would love it if, just once I could enter the Ladies room and feel totally comfortable. Even now I have that secret nag that says I am not really accepted in spite of being "passable".

Leslee

Yes!!

Andrea

First, if there were no social barriers I would start blending my masculine and feminine sides on a daily basis more. Right now I enjoy curling my lashes and wearing a little makeup as a male. Just enough as to not raise too many eyebrows. To be able to wear skirts, dresses, pantyhose and whatever else I fancied as a male or female would be a perfect world. Yes!Yes!Yes! Let the barriers fall! Jynell

Jynell

Thank those who have helped with my quest to find more about the old 82 club in NYC. There really were some great performers there. One that is well remembered was KIM AUGUST, she also ventured into some Hollywood movie roles would love to see a pictorial about this on the Forum.

fchmaid

If there were no social barriers--really no social barriers. Then I would quit the masquerading as a man. . . that's what we're all doing outside the closet, isn't it? Masquerading as men? I'm going to see another shrink about the mood swings. I get disability for mood disorders, and I am after some 30 years only now coming to terms with the idea that the anxiety and depression are caused by "gender dysphoria." My body is so stressed out by the gender mix-up that it has become unbalanced tying to manage. Hello, manic/depression.

giorgio

I'm interested in any clubs in the metropolitan NYC area (Manhattan preferred) that are exclusively open to TV/TS and those who enjoy their company.

Tina Marie

I work for a human rights organisation in nsw, australia. Legislation to protect transgenders from discrimination has just been introduced. I would like to know, whether there are any transgenders in australia who have married as a member of the sex with which they identify, ie: mtf who has married as a woman. You can e-mail back to me at paul.winn@hunterlink.net.au. Thanks! Nicki

Nicki

Yes, I have always wanted to have the freedom to be myself. Barriers are keeping alot of us in the closet. My panties are off to you for providing this opportunity to express myself. Now, I'd like my beauiful panties back, they are the only ones I have,that match my favorite bra! Thanks TGF......Lacey

Lacey Kelly

If social barriers really and truly fell, sure I would. The problem is there are many other social barrier issues that supposedly have fallen, but still maintain an undertoe of resentment and ridicule. Being snickered at behind my back is not my idea of a social barrier that no longer exists. Even if my coming out of the closet was acceptable, I still would probably lose a lot of friends. The thought of coming out of the closet does really thrill me though. On a recent shopping expedition, I found myself daydreaming about wearing the outfits that the women were wearing shopping next to me. Just once I'd love to put on a miniskirt, tights and heels, then head out for an enjoyable day of shopping. Until this IS acceptable, I'm glad that I have all of you!!

Veronica

If social barriers fell I would not only come out of the closet, but more than likely would be living full time as a woman. These barriers are the only thing preventing me from seeking employment, raising a family and living my life to the fullest---as a female. Debbie

Can anybody tell me of tg friendly stores in the Washington, DC area that will help me me to get a proper breast form, body shapers, etc.?

Sandra

The fall of social barriers would be a mixed blessing for me. It would be a great relief to be able to share my great secret with others who know me so they could better understand why I am often going out of town and otherwise passing up opportunities to be with them. However, a large part of the thrill for me is in getting away, in 'passing' and in doing the unconventional. If dressing were no longer an issue maybe I'd say 'What's the point?' I would also miss the special bond that we seem to form at events like the 'Poconos' and in clubs like the Queen Mary. We're not Beta Sigma Phi but I enjoy our informal sorority.

Linda Jensen

I'm scared to come out of the closet. What would I do if my family disowned me?

Melissa

Social barriers held me back for 25 years; I am now out; but it isn't always easy, and I would obviously feel more free had those barriers never existed in the first place. On another note; however, those barriers are coming down now. I am relatively young, and from what I've heard, people who are in their 40s now couldn't even think about coming out when they were younger. It is exciting to see that happening. Theresa

Theresa Carow

I started to wear my mother's girdle and bra when i was 11. I have always tried on my girlfriend's underwear and felt so free and wonderful. I am still locked in a marriage and wouldn't know where to begin, but I am so relieved that I can share in other people's expereinces. I would love to change my life and be a female and serve others.

alicia

Sorry forgot the ".com" at the end of the email address for blueicez. So, I'll repeat: send questions or replies to: blueicez@pipeline.com

Suzanne

Hi, I have recently formed a group - TransAct in New York City. We meet at the Lesbian and Gay Community Center in Manhattan. Our mission is threefold: to advocate, educate, and provide support and resources. We are non-violent and will seek change, generally, through use of the media a la GLAAD and other groups. We also are addressing the depathologizing of trans people (re: DSM IV). We know this is controversial, but believe it is in our best interests. If you are interested in attending a meeting (for the near future they will be ad hoc) please email me. We are new, and need help. This has been done because of the lack of like organizations in NY. YES, it's true! There are a dearth of political advocacy groups in the area. PLEASE write even if you disagree with some of our agenda but do agree that we should be more involved in our lives here in NYC. Thanks very much. Suzanne PS: I also can be reached on/at aol: TransActNY@aol.com

Suzanne

Yes! I wouldn't have to worry about being seen by anyone that I haven't told yet. I would go to work as Stephanie and would live as Stephanie 24/7. Hugs, Stephanie Lynn

Stephanie Lynn

If they seem intelligent, I try to discuss it with them. If not, I let them go on as I go on about my business. I enjoy being Kay and I'm not going to let anyone spoil that. Talk about your first time, I was supposed to be a girl, so all the baby clothes, etc., were pink. I was even given a girl's name until I was born.

Kay

I am in total agreement with the opinions expressed by anne and Dove. what a wonderful world it would be if coming out were a moot question! Without the prevailing social attitudes I'd be in dresses all the time.

Dyann

If the social barriers were gone I for one would out immediatly. I am trying to get out now in small town northern Ontario. I have been lucky enough to find a lady friend to guide in proper make-up, dressing and attitude. Best of the Season April Dawn

April Dawn

If the social barriers were gone, there would be no closet to come out of. I mean, that's the whole point, isn't it? We're in the closet because of fear of public rejection, concern over negative effects on loved ones, and many other reasons but all of these fears are the result of social barriers. Without the social barriers, we'd never have to be in the closet in the first place.

Dove

YES, YES, YES! To be able to be enfemme all the time would be the answer to a lifetime prayer. My greatest wish is for the barriers to fall. Marci

Marci

Absolutly! I have always wished for a society where I could waer a skirt and pumps to work just as freely as the genetic ladies can wear a three peice suit. It would be a different world if the socilal bariers were non-existant. The question of coming out would be moot. I meean, if there were no social stigmas then we would have been raised to believe that expression of self through appearance is just the way it is and that gender is a complex issue which is not determined nessecarilly by the physical confirmation of the flesh but more by the soul that lives within.. Forgive me as I wax philosophic but this is world that I have dreamt of all my life. If it ever comes to pass Iit will be a triumph for humanity. Luv Anne

anne

No, social barriers have not held my outing in check. My love for, responsibilities to and repect for my family and intimate friends has been the prime factor in determining the ocassion and extent to which I dress. The sole physical consideration is my beard and when electrolysis is complete (in say fortyfive or so hours) I'm out for life!

Stacy

Yes, I am trying to come out of the closet as it is.

Suzanna

Some of us are already out but if social barriers did not exist it would make life a lot simpiler for many of our sisters and friends. We as a society need to learn tolerance and understanding. toward everyone. HUGS :)

Phyllis

I'd be out of the closet so fast my shadow would be wondering where I went! That's a dream for me, to gain social acceptance for Transgendered Folk so we can dress and present as we wish. Hopefully it'll happen before I get too old to enjoy it. On the other hand, as I get older, I realize how little others prejudices really matter and might jump out on my own.

Christy Kay

Social barriers are just part of my problem...it is my wife and her acceptance or lack of my desire to wearing female cloths. If personal relationship barriers are not removed, it does not matter at all what the people outside of my home think. But having no social barriers would offer me the opportunity to further explore my femme side when I'm by myself or out of town on business.

Whitney Lynn

If barriers fell... In a heartbeat!! I am already partially out of the closet, I shop and occasionally go out dressed, but I don't interact socially as a woman, nor do I go to work "dressed". Currently, I am not so worried about what the general public thinks about my appearance, but I am concerned that my employers may take a dim view. I am a pharmacist in a small western town. I work both at the local hospital, and in the retail setting at a local clinic. While I doubt the hospital would have grounds to fire me based on my appearance, the clinic could definitely claim that I am "bad for business". So for now, I just keep 'em guessin'. Hugs Dani.

Danielle

I'm at my wits end. Men just won't hit on me. After I've spent a fortune on new teeth,a face lift, silicone implants, a die-for wardrobe and hours of tedious makeup application. I shave my face and other places so carefully. I spend several hours puting on my sexiest clothes,jewelry, and wig. I literally sparkle and yet when I go to a club not one of those sissys will approach me. I need other "girls" opinions. I've been passing for a long time in the most intmate situations. Have men forgotten how to do it? Ms Arby

Arby

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Sandii Lee

Very simple reply! None of your business! One thing that I have learned in my life is that I don't have to prove anything to anybody. That go's for gender identity, why I do what I do, or why I live the way I Live! Very Simple, Debra

Debra

The one comment that I would like to make if I were questioned while dressing in public is that my personal preference is to dress as a female and that I see no reason to hassle me for doing so. It is my life my body and I shall live it and dress it as I please. Thank you very much

Ericha

Well, It's finaly going to happen. This weekend, I am going in to have my Sex change operation. My family still doesn't approve, and that really hurts. My boyfriend, thankfully is really excited about it. 25 years of being a guy will finally be over, and my dream of becoming a woman will finally come true. I only wish I could have had this done when I was 10. Wish me luck. Hugs and kisses, Conchita

Conchita Esperanza Solis

What I would like to say is a big thank you to the many who probably read me but make no big deal about it when they see me in a mall or wherever. I know I look good but I am taller than average, as a male or as a female. I have asked some giggling teens what it was that gave me away - more giggles. However, I think crossdressers are most likely to be read by other crossdressers, so if a person makes a reasonably friendly approach I would hope to be able to strike up a conversation. One never knows when one might find a new 'dressing friend'. As as anyone who might hassle me, I'd be only "showing them my heels."

Linda Jensen

I met someone online who is entering a PhD program in psychology, and was pretty horrified to find that her new online romance like to wear nighties to bed and panties all the time. These revelations unglued the relationship. . . she quit emailing me. Well, I asked her to take a look at TG Forum to get a better idea what I was about. She did, she spent most of here day having revelations, and she cried endlessly for us in our dysphoric prisons. . . Because of TG Forum she understand now, no longer online lovers. . . but really close "girlfriends." Thanks all of you for sharing our feelings. We changed one person, and it's a start on the whole world! ciao,

giorgio

First, I think I would be scared to death; but I would try to stay cool and explain why I crossdress. I think I'd feel more confident then.

Dana Brooks

First recollections have to be around Kindergarten age. I remember my sister and other girls in the neighborhood dressing in things I wanted to dress in. I remember not liking the looks of my penis. I'd wrap towels around me getting out of the shower as a "skirt." I have dreamed endlessly about being a girl, since very early childhood. Damn! I've been repressing these memories! Thanks for asking. Biggest concern about being read. . . I don't do drag in public, but have. I would say: "I'm not sick, or confused, or dangerous! I wish you could be as comfortable with me as I am with myself!" These feelings and memories are making me cry. Thanks for being here! ciao,

giorgio

I work as a girl on weekends, and I go out on dates to 'straight' places, where TG's usually aren't seen. I seem to pass 95% of the time, but at work, or at the store, I tell them I'm a TG and PROUD of it. To some I tell them I am transitioning, and others that I live most of the time as a woman. Honesty is always best, and I find that people are accepting, as well as curious. I always encourage people to stay or become open-minded. It works

Elayne

Well, I was 5 or 6 when my half-sister dragged me out of bed one morning and dressed me in one of her dresses, a wig, and other stuff. My half-brother dressed my little sister like him in boy stuff. They started taking pictures and I knew enough to know that I was supposed to pretend not to like it. The truth was that I loved it! Something clicked in my brain, like a past-life regression saying, "You're a girl, remember?" The rest is history.

Revy

I can remember trying to put on my mother's tights aged 6! I have CDed regular- ly since puberty. I'm 33 now and do blonde wig, highheels, makeup, the lot-good clothes from Thrift stores, mostly. My fave dress-up is as a sexy secretary in a smart, short-skirted black suit. I really look the part! I have NEVER told anyone about my CD-ing, not even my current girlfriend, but she may be the first of my partners I tell. I'm otherwise very hetero, and love my male side. I am fascinated and in love with women. I really don't know where to put my CD- ing. It's the central mystery of my life (apart from `existing` of course).

Susan Stapledon

My first item of female clothing was a pair of my mother's scarlet nylon panties which were ribbed around the legs; Oh how I wish I could buy such panties now. As I write this I am wearing a simple black bra, a pair of black nylon panties, a plain pink garter belt, black stockings and a full length pink nylon slip. If I go out I will waer either a brown dress with pleated skirt or a waist slip, pink nylon blouse and brown skirt. I bed I wear a full length pink nylon nightgown with high neck and long sleeves elasticated at the cuffs - heaven

Doreen

1/ Who wants to know? 2/ Depending on the place and time. This happened to me, I was standing in a bank waiting for a friend. Two women were watching me, nudging and all that sort of thing. I got nervous, wondering if I could escape inconspicuously etc. The i got angry, I was dressed appropriately, minding my own business. I decided to stare back, give them a taste of their own medicine along with a sweet smile. It worked! They dived back in to whatever it was they were doing.

Claire Stafford

The nightclub "Tracks / El Goya" of Ybor City / Tampa Florida is now closed and will reopen on Dec 23rd as " The Pleasure Dome ". The club is now gutted completely and will be beautiful when it opens up - complete with new restaurant and ' all new drag shows '. As always - queens are welcome and will have a great time. Pleasure Dome operated several nightclubs in the Buffalo Ny / Niagara Falls area which I am told are now closed. Can ANYONE tell me what kind of clubs they were and were they "gay friendly / drag queens welcome etc ?. Thanks Debbie

Debbie Allen

I ask guys if they like to look at sexy Playboy type lingerie pictorials and when they say "yes" - I tell them " Can you imagine how much fun it is to wear all that stuff " ! If it's a girl and she is being critical I tell her " Eat your heart out - BITCH " ! Generally I try to be pleasant ( and a lady ) - but if ANYONE gives me a bad time I " read them right back ". I take no **** from anyone. I am proud of how I look and of ALL my sisters out there who 'do the best they can with what they have'. When I see the girls of TGF I feel so proud to be part of our TS group - most of us look better than MOST of the real women out there.

Debbie Allen

I'm about to undertake my first "en femme" daytime shopping trip, and I while i'm going to be careful and stick to places I've been told are OK, I know this is a definite risk. I think I'll just take great care in getting ready, and if read, I'll just say "I'm just out having fun. Are you?" The difficult question will be if it's someone I know or do business with. That would be more difficult, but I guess it's the price paid for getting out, being yourself. A small one to pay for the fun of being out of that lousy closet!

Anne C

When I was younger, I got "read" a good bit more than I do now. If the person who did it seemed approachable, I would go to him/her and say something like, "hi, as you've guessed, I'm a crossdresser and I would appreciate it if you would tell me what gave me away." I learned quite a lot by doing that and it would often start a good conversation. I once got a 10 minute lesson in the middle of a shopping mall on how to walk like a lady! It's amazing how accepting most people are if we don't give the impression that we feel guilty about doing something wrong.

Kerri Edwards

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