Body Language

Picking off The Signs

How A Woman Signals You

You're in a crowded bar, coffee house, or restaurant. You spy the woman of your dreams. You want to talk to her, but how can you tell if she's interested in you? After all, deep down, we all have that fear that the woman we are about to approach is going to laugh us back into the stone age.
It would be nice if she would approach you, but in our society, it's just not socially acceptable for a woman to approach a man. But most, if not all women will give off all kinds of clues if they're interested. It's to our advantage to learn these subtle hints.
The first thing to look for is the eyes. If a woman is interested, her eyes will sometimes become larger and her pupils dialated.

Those Windows To The Soul. What Are They Saying?

If you make eye contact that lasts longer than a furtive glance, it could be a positive signal.
If, after making this extended eye contact, she quickly darts her eyes downward, this could also be a sign.
Does she blink at you? This too, could be a signal.

The next indicator is a smile, although just because a woman doesn't smile at you, it doesn't necessarily mean she isn't interested. Remember, she is probably just as nervous as you. Maybe more so.

Smile Clues To Look For

Relaxed, comfortable smile.
Does the smile brighten up the face or is it forced?

Head Movement

Does she cock her head when she first notices you?
Tossing her head back or quicking moving her head from side to side so that her hair suddenly flicks back and forth is an indicator.

How Does She Sit?

Does she straighten up after first noticing you?
If she has jeans on, are her legs slightly open toward you in a non-sexual manner?
Does she slowly stroke her thighs? Again, in a non-sexual manner.
Does she dangle her shoe or kick it off and put it back on several times.
Does she lean in your direction?

How Does She Cross Her Legs?

Crossing one leg over the other slowly and then back again while rubbing the thighs could be a postive sign.
Look for a crossing of her legs with her foot pointed at you.
If her legs are crossed and she is rocking the top leg back and forth with it pointed at you, this could be an affirmative signal.

What About Her Wrists And Hands?

Some Signs To Look For

Running her fingernails along the top of her blouse.
Opening her wrists to you in some manner.
Rubbing her wrists slightly up and down.
Slowly stroking her wrists.
Constantly stroking or playing with her hair.
Twirling her hair around her finger as she looks at you.
Touching her ears or earrings.
Fluffing her hair, especially from behind her head.
Slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and forefinger.

Lips And Mouths

What to look for

Licking or biting her lips
Touching the front of her teeth with her tongue.

The Negative Signals

What Are They?

Losing eye contact.
Folding her arms across her chest.
Double crossing her legs at the ankles.
Placing her fingernail between her teeth.
Touching her nose.
Turning away from you.

If you notice these signs, stop whatever it is your doing. At this point, it might be a good idea to pull the beer bottle out of your nose and put your clothes back on.
If you're talking to a woman, one of the strongest indicators can be touch. An accidental touch is a dead give away. In fact, an accidental touch is rarely a true accident. Many times, a woman will resort to this if none of her other clues seem to be working. You, on the other hand, should refrain from touching a woman you have just met unless you receive several clear and open signals.
The final clue to look for is if she mirrors your body language, especially eye contact.
Remember, all of these signs taken by themselves may or may not be indicators. It's the old I before E except after C rule. Sometimes it applies, sometimes it doesn't. You have to be aware of the signs and look for combinations of them. The main thing is to practice recognizing them so that you can tune in to the signals a woman is sending.
Very rarely will a woman we approach laugh us back into the stone ages. On the contrary, she'll probably be quite flattered, as long as you don't come on too strong. If she does laugh you to way back when...well, what have you lost? Better to know now that you won't be spending you life with this insensitive person.
Finally, reading body language is just one more tool we can employ to find that perfect soulmate. The more tools we have, the better equipped we'll be for this endeavor. And remember:

Faint Hearts Never Capture Fair Maidens.
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