120 Miles From My Pants Stephanie K decides to go away for a wonderfully feminine three day weekend. But this time she wants it to be a wonderfully natural time with nothing of her male self to hide behind. If you've been thinking about getting out take some courage from Stephanie's experience. It really is like this.
Ain't That Somethin? When the moment for disclosure comes how will they react? As Stephanie K discovered if things go right they may act just like Marlon Brando did in one of his films.
Can Crossdressing Be a Public Service? Stephanie K. pose the question and thinks it can be. Three weeks in California with several outings among straight colleagues have lead her to the opinion that seeing a crossdresser at ease and mingling at her femme best can only be good for people... and lots of fun for the crossdresser.
Circles and Secrets Stephanie K talks about secrets in this month's column. Being a closet crossdresser for almost 40 years gave her more than a passing familiarity with the effects caused by keeping the big secret. So far she had told her family and her far away friends. Now she's set to tell her close circle of friends. Could you do that? Read Stephanie's column and find out how it goes for her.
Feminine Feelings? A visit to a wig shop and having her ears pierced creates new feelings in Stephanie K. Are they simply an awakening of new ones or are they same kind of sensations women feel when things are going right?
Holding A Position We're not in the 70's so why waste energy worrying about the tons of various gender labels that we assign to ourselves and each other.
Abandoned When a wife does everything a TG could ask when she accepts allows her spouse to go out do all the dressing she wants and then is presented with an announcement that "I'm a transexual" is it any wonder that there is sense of betrayal. Julie Freeman's commentary hits right in the gut and is important reading for EVERYONE in a committed relationship.
Accomodation Julie Freeman explains that many a crossdresser enjoys his male side as he enjoys his femme side. That is the nature of the phenomena. Wives and significant others who understand this are on their way to making crossdressing a positive in their relation
Admiration Julie Freeman discusses the strengths and troubles of women whose husbands live full-time as women. It isn't an easy thing for many people.
Advantages of NOT Knowing Julie Freeman sees that there were advantages to learning about her husband's crossdressing after 20 years of marriage. With the children older and a little more money around things may have been easier than knowing early on. Interesting perspective.
Always Asked : Almost every wife wonders "Is he gay?" and "Does he want a sex change?" Julie Freeman ponders the answers.
Appearance We genetic women have to quit worrying about whether we measure up when we see our husbands looking better than we do when they crossdress. Crossdressers have to remember this also and not worry so much about becoming the perfect woman but just enjoy crossdressing. A deeply insightful yet fun to read column by Julie Freeman.
Artificial Barriers Julie Freemen observes how easily people in the transgender community mingle with each other despite class race and other differences. Whither the greater society?
Being Human by Julie Freeman. Ups & Downs. It's OK if your support wavers.
Clothes Fantasies Julie Freeman gives some insight on why crossdressers love to wear fancy flashy clothes: They've got the bodies for it!
Commitment to Others Julie Freeman notices something we often don't like to talk about but know it is true: Failure to follow-up on our promises and commitments to do what we promise for the community.
Comparing Notes Just as TGs compare notes when they meet so do spouses and significant others. And guess what they find out? Julie Freeman describes nine typical behaviors that wives notice when their cross-dressing husbands are still in the closet. Our favorite: unexplained expenditures.
Couples: Getting Complacent Weird things can start to happen after a couple has "resolved" the transgender question. Imperceptibly at first the envelope starts getting pushed. Once a week with the girls becomes twice. The occasional shopping trip gets common. Hormones start creeping into the conversation. An important column by Julie Freeman.
Couples: Meanness Why do some women really like cross-dressers? Maybe it's because they look like women but don't take on the worst aspect of being a female: meanness. Julie Freeman believes that this may be one of the overlooked positives about transgenders...
Couples: Mistaking Support for Uncritical Acceptance For many women there appears to be a belief that they attend support groups they will somehow be FORCED to accept their husband's or partner's crossdressing. They believe that only supportive wives attend support group meetings and that the agenda is to make them accede to their husband's demands whatever they might be. They are afraid that they might get in deeper than they want. By Julie Freeman.
Difficult Times Sometimes it takes a real tragedy to put cross-dressing in it's perspective in a marriage. There are other far worse things that happen to people. By Julie Freeman
Discovery by Julie Freeman. Discovering her man is transgender.
Discretion A phone call comes in from someone you don't know. They ask for "Charlene" and your nine-year-old has picked up the phone. Julie Freeman talks about the lack of discretion some people exhibit in the community.
Do clothes make the (Wo)man? Been pilfering your wife's clothes on the sneak? Think she notices? Julie Freeman talks about sharing the booty in her usual concise and pleasant way. And you learn sumthin' too!
Hate Is it really as safe out there for our spouses as they tell us it is? The rage and hate seem everywhere. How are we going to stop the killings and beatings resulting from homophobia racism stalking anger etc. Thoughtful column by Julie Freeman
Interesting Conversation Male crossdressers may have a real advantage over other men because of their ability to socialize and form groups. Most men are not very good at this. From a mental health standpoint this could be a major plus. By Julie Freeman.
Limits When significant others find out about their partners' crossdressing they are quite often bewildered shocked some even devastated. They question their own femininity; their self-esteem is lowered; and often they wonder if there are other secrets that they
Making the Other Significant Support groups have begun to be more welcoming to SO's but not every where. Julie Freeman takes up the issue.
Not A Clue If we aren't talking to each other a lot of problems can blindside us. By Julie Freeman.
Only In California Julie Freeman recounts the reality of ignorance about transgender people and how universal it really is.
Post Convention Letdown It isn't just the TGs who feel depressed after the convention is over. Significant others do too. Julie Freeman explains why and what you can do about it.
Questions and Answers Learn to look into yourself and everything is possible including a loving relationship with a transgender person. By Linda Kaye
Real Men Julie Freeman discusses how society's concept of what a "real man" is hurts men and not just psychologically.
Relationships Julie Freeman sees the break-ups and the nasty aftermaths but it doesn't have to be that way. Clear and clean writing from one of the community's top SO commentators.
Remember When It Was All New It's easy to forget all the questions and concerns you and your loved ones may have had when crossdressing became part of the relationship. But there are always new people who have those very same questions. By Julie Freeman
Secret: Once it's out so are you. What happened in one family who found about Dad.
Self Esteem The last thing on most crossdressers' minds is to make their partners feel worthless and insignificant. Rather they are trying to emulate their wives by being the best women they can be. Yet all kinds of misunderstandings can abound in such relationships
Sensitivity Sometimes it's okay with her other times she's cold as ice. A spouse's feelings about her cross-dressing husband can ebb and flow dramatically so it's important that both people stay alert to what they're doing and feeling. Solid writing on an important topic by Julie Freeman.
Sharing Julie Freeman blurts out to an old friend something about her husband being a crossdresser and gets a very surprising reaction. A very good quick read that says a great deal about where we are in the mix of things today.
Significant Differences Discovering one's transexualism is a major life experience...for both of you. Julie Freeman explains that significant others are hardly ever considered as full partners in treatment plans. Some may not like to hear any of this but sneaking around is hardl
The Fears It usually gets down to one thing: transexualism. That is the big fear that spouses have...and with reason. Julie Freeman hits the nail squarely in this column.
The Trust Issue This is a real big one. The lies the secret purchases all of it can be so damaging to a relationship. Julie Freeman's common sense advice and outlook on a key issue for those in and out of the closet.
The Way Women and Men Talk Women have a different way of talking things out then men do and if you are interested in emulating them or men this nicely done commentary by Julie Freeman will give you some excellent pointers.
Value of Education We have been led to believe that the sexes really are not different - that it is cultural conditioning that causes differences. Maybe not says Julie Freeman.
Value of Support Julie Freeman returns in "Couples" to talk about the importance of support groups for couples.
When is Enough Enough Julie Freeman tells it like it is. Are gender groups just an excuse for the boys to hang out? And what about the one who says "I'll never have a sex change honey"? Is he being truthful? Strong stuff...good stuff.
When Not To Tell Tacking a note on door and letting your wife know that way is probably not the best tactic. Julie Freeman discusses the question of informing a spouse and understanding what she might go through.
When To Tell You would have thought by now that everyone must be out - there have just been too many talk shows on gender and too many movies on crossdressing for anyone to be left in the dark. But they are. By Julie Freeman
Who To Tell So he has told you that he crossdresses and you know you need to talk to a friend about it. But which friends? Your very best friend? And what about that woman you share so much with at work? Julie Freeman discusses how she shared her husband's secret and with whom. Wise counsel.
Wives of TVs Vs. Wives of TSs It isn't something we like to talk about but just as there can be friction between TVs and TSs so too can there be between wives of each kind of transgender person. The reasons are different but as Julie Freeman writes in her "Couples" column the results are no better. Fascinating look at little discussed phenomenon.
You Don't Have To Stay Isolated Do couples outreach programs “glorify” being an accepting wife or partner of a crossdresser and ignore the sufferings of being partnered with a transgendered person? By Linda Kaye.
A Kinship With Women If you were disfigured would your spouse still love you? Yet this same person rejects your transgender revelations. Linda Kaye looks deep into the hearts of women who love and reject their TG partners. Moving well-written.
Celebration of Life "...All too often people allow their exterior life cycle to rule over and dominate the inner life cycle." begins Linda Kaye's story this month on couples issues. More thoughtful advice not only about dealing with issues in a transgendered relationship but it applies to life as well.
Class vs. Tastelessness Unsolicited sexual invitations by email and rude comments on a website guestbook are of privacy says Linda Kaye in this month's "Couples" comments. Okay sometimes the crude jokes are funny but more often the sender ends up leaving the impression that they have no class at all.
Confessions Of A Male Lesbian's Wife! Last month Vanessa Kaye admitted to being a male lesbian. Now it's her wife's turn to talk a bit about that. Linda Kaye describes how "lesbian" is a word that frightens many people just as the words "gay" and "homosexual" do. This seems especially true of partners of transgendered men. Fascinating reading.
Couples: Give and Take? Linda Kaye recounts two dramatic stories of families with a pair of very different kind transgenders in the spotlight: one who cares only for her own need no matter what the cost and the other who behaves in another sort of way. A fast emotional and powerful read from one of TGF's very best writers.
Couples: Spam Off Unsolicited eMail (fondly called "spam") finds everybody sooner or later assuming you have a computer an Internet connection and an eMail account. It's frustrating to sieve through all these get-rich-quick offers the latest you-gotta-see-this-incredible-deal or call-to-transgender-political-action! Really? Spam from by and about us? Linda Kaye explains
Couples: The Purge In a stunningly well written column Linda Kaye describes the remarkable story of how a transgender person who had been dressing for more than 30 years who was comfortable in public chucked it all one day after fearing that death was nearing. A must-read.
Ending the War Sometimes the only way to end a fight is to just stop fighting. Linda Kaye discusses how a major break with a couple who are major players in the Tri-ESS group is now healing thanks to willingness by both sides to take another chance on each other.
Enriching the Inner Self When you are free to be who you really are it becomes so much easier to give to others. You must first give to yourself learning who
Everything A Woman Should Be It is unfair for partners to put upon the other unrealistic expectations and unfair to join with them planning to change them into what they want them to be. Behavior can be changed but the fundamental person inside cannot. Linda Kaye explores the perceptions of what being a woman is and how fantasized ideals can cause such grief.
Female Partner of an FTM Linda Kaye discusses her relationship with a lesbian whose partner is transitioning to manhood. In this beautifully written column the universality of issues faced by partners comes through loud and clear.
Filled Completely There can be a love that comes along in life that so completely fills you that two lives are fused together and there is oneness. It can happen when you allow passion and enthusiasm to encompass your life along with maturity and compassion. By Linda Kaye
Friends Lovers & Borrowers There are some real perks to being married to a cross dresser particularly if you are a woman who doesn't mind having extra supplies of makeup and other fun goodies available.
Fun! Yes it is possible to have it in a transgendered relationship. A remarkable debut column by Linda Kaye explains how.
Hope Has A Place Femininity like beauty comes from within. Many of us do not understand this and perceive beauty as an outward thing. Yet womanhood and femininity are very personal inner expressions. An article every man should read and every woman will understand. Ex
I Like It Can a woman find sexual happiness with a transgender person? Oh yes. A wonderfully written informative and exciting column by one of the best. By Linda Kaye.
In The Mood Linda Kaye wonders how often women are not "in the mood:" for our partners to be dressed? Anger about him dressing or her resenting it is not the answer here; rather the ability to talk and the ability to listen. Underlying it all is the understanding that transgenders usually cannot stop their inner need to dress. The column for Couples.
Let's Get Physical One of the worst things that can happen in a relationship is when people stop touching each other. Not sexual touch just a warm hug or a hand on a shoulder. Brilliantly written with emotion and insight by Linda Kaye. Read it with a loved one.
Love Your TG Partner and YourSELF! In a wonderful letter to women who worry about their own desirability and sexuality because of their husbands' transgenderism Linda Kaye makes some practical and exciting suggestions that everyone can benefit from. This is one smart loving lady!
Love Yourself Love Your Partner How many of us have an unexpected love in our lives? How many of us have learned to love and appreciate ourselves? And more importantly how many of us recognize the importance of who lives inside the other person and what constitutes attractiveness? Beautifully written column by Linda Kaye
Now I Know How You Feel Crossdressers often rhapsodize about how wonderful clothing feels while women roll their eyes. That's how Linda Kaye used to feel. Things changed when she felt the wind up her skirt.
Proper Pronouns One area which seems to be particularly hard for spouses and girlfriends is how to address an en femme partner. If you are used to calling your partner by his given male name it is suddenly very difficult to have to start calling him by a femme name.
Reaction to Sex Column Linda Kaye's extraordinary column last month on sex with a transgender partner generating plenty of interest and a fascinating note from a spouse. Powerful writing on subject matter that impacts everyone in a loving relationship.
Sexual Issues Linda Kaye discusses one of the key issues that can create conflict and unhappiness in a relations. If you read nothing else this week read this article. As always clear-headed and compassionate writing from one of the community's best.
Spring Cleaning Take stock and don't be weighted down by the past. This is a time for renewal and re-commitment. Another wonderfully written column by Linda Kaye.
The Corset When Vanessa tells Linda Kaye the new corset will be for Vanessa Linda is a little sad. She wanted to be the femme fatale. No matter the new corset turns out to be exciting no matter whose body it's on! A wonderfully loving column.
The Fool and The Goddess Your womanhood and your sexuality is your own no one else's and if you are secure as a woman then his dressing his adventures into femininity are a journey you can help him explore. Potent writing on a subject central to relationships. By Linda Kaye
The Image We See In the Mirror Linda Kaye explains how in the transgendered community we are so often faced with the visual rather than the inner spirit. The outside can be spectacular to look at but if the inside of the person is warped by ego or anger or an uncaring heart then the ou
The Power of Being a Woman A woman who must deal with her partner's femme side is actually at an advantage says Linda Kaye. Not only does she finally know the truth she has the power to change her own way of thinking to be truly intimate with her man. But there is danger in this po
The Slot Machine Drop in the coin and the promis ise is you can win. It's addictive. A husband promises never ever to go out in public. The wife gambles he's telling the truth. That's also addictive and somebody is gonna lose. Is your relationship a Vegas slot machine? By
To Feel Like A Woman Ever wonder what it is that makes a woman FEEL like a woman? Linda Kaye got to thinking about this and decided to sit down and make a list of things she finds make her feel feminine. You'll love this list!
True Gifts Linda Kaye tells us what she found as the ultimate gift to give this holiday season. It isn't always a LBD sometimes when things look bleak you can find the joy of the season in simple but essential acceptance.
What Builds Intimacy What Builds Intimacy? Affection interest in your partner all these and more can build a solid relationship where many will not survive. Elegant writing by Linda Kaye.
What Is Love "To me true love is totally unbiased and unselfish; it is a complete giving and accepting of self without boundaries or conditions." Linda Kaye's extraordinary writing returns...
Crossdressed and Stranded People say life is more difficult for a woman. Perhaps they've never compared being a woman to being a cross-dresser. A woman can walk the street and not fear her identity and reputation being destroyed. This is certainly not true for the cross-dressed male. By Roberta Angela Dee.
Transgendered Men Transgendered Women Roberta Angela Dee wonders if those ladies at Woolworth's were perplexed by the little boy who came in to buy panties and bras? Her memories are those of a transgendered person and she resents anyone trying to say that being transgendered is the result of any "social construct" or environmental influence. Straight from the heart.
Blue Dress Roberta Angela Dee wonders what were we thinking while we were on 7 8 or 9 years old. the questions must have overwhelmed or at least left us feeling a bit different from everyone else. In a lovely article Roberta remembers those years and how a wonderful dress held such special meaning for her.
A Lady's Passion A woman is a lot more than the components of her body. A person could have all the right things in the right places and still not truly be a woman. It's a lesson Roberta Angela Dee recalls well in her erotic and other remembrances. The scene with the lady
Bourbon Stree to Boudoir Roberta Angela Dee meets up with an extraordinary woman who has some interesting opinions about tg people.
Eyes Speak to Eyes She's just 17 and a kindly lesbian woman in her neighborhood takes her in and teaches her a new way to make love. Roberta Angela Dee's true reminiscences are illuminating fascinating and erotic.
From Bourbon Street To the Boudoir (Part 2) Roberta Angela Dee's new friend can't keep her hands or other things to herself in this red hot erotic conclusion to this true story. Don't miss the ending.
It Ain't Necessarily So In her Memoirs of a Transgendered Lady she has shown us many kinds of people who have crossed her path and this week Roberta Angela Dee introduces us to someone who brings life to the famous song from Porgy & Bess.
Masculinization of Femininity Roberta Angela Dee has an encounter with a person who says they are feminine while their every comment and behavior says something else.
Memoirs Of A Transgendered Lady A sweetly told beautifully written true remembrance of a woman her fears and the joys of surrender to another. By Robera Angela Dee.
Mirrored Erotica Roberta works in a glass building on Long Island where an attractive gentleman has noticed her. A beautifully told true story in the life a most interesting person.
Pretty Volcano Exciting erotic true life experience in her "Memoirs of a Transgendered Lady" series. Roberta Angela Dee gets a new female roomate who is puzzled and then VERY fascinated by her. This one might give you the "vapors".
Secret Garden It is 1977 and a young Roberta Angela Dee has made the acquaintance of two other young women. Acceptance isn't automatic in the real world. It takes more than a dress and a pretty face to be part of the world of women.
To Tell or Not To Tell Should you tell a man upfront who you really are? In her "Memoirs of a Trangendered Lady" Roberta Angela Dee talks about her experiences dating men and her approach to this most delicate and exciting subject. If you've ever been in this spot or want to be
Two Wells Apperances can be dangerously deceiving a lesson Roberta Angela Dee learned the hard way as a youngster. Well written and if you know the times she recalls accurately drawn.
Women Are Like Rivers Roberta Angela Dee tells of the prejudices someone who chooses NOT to have surgery faces from other transsexuals in a of the early 1980s. A strong column with strong views honest emotion and excellent imagery. Fine read.
"What a Pretty Lady!" What would you have done? Your mother-in-law finds a picture of you "en femme." Is this the end of the world? Not for Emily Alford! The remark "What a Pretty Lady" brings out a philosophical revolution in her thinking about being out.
A GEM Can Be A Real Gem She lives in a Wyoming a state with a small population and one major newspaper. She is a doctor and a columnist for that newspaper and one day in front of the whole state she came out. By Marilyn Miracle/Dr. Joseph Murphy.
Airline Adventures It's time to fly en femme but what do you do when they've got your ticket and you look like Danielle but the name on it is David? A very well-done and easy to read yarn that just goes to show that it's the attitude that counts! By Danielle Cox.
Bethany is exhausted from her trip to Italy On the way home she daydreams about her crossdressing experiences in Tuscan (Italy) and Tucson (Arizona). Is it so bad for a Jewish American Princess to look like Joan Rivers? Hey it coulda been Totie Fields!
Cissy In Italy Our gal Cissy visits Florence with her all-too devoted wife but that doesn't mean she can't dream of adventures and fun in this most beautiful of cities.
First Date What's a girl's best accessory? Why a man of course! Going out on her first date with a guy was a moment that Diane Kaye had thought about a long time and the way she went about it may be just the thing for you.
Fore! We know there are a lot of golfers out there but how many of you have had the guts to play from the red (ladies) tee while dressed in the appropriate attire? Linda Jensen takes along on as she hits the links dressed in her pinks.
School Librarian Comes Out In a highly publicised move Minnesota school librarian Debra Davis came out on the job last week. The action was reported by major media in the region. Davis is well known in the Minneapolis TG community and has benefitted from a 1993 state law protectin
Terrible Towering Transvestite! When you're over six feet tall you can draw some attention but as Jessica Brandon tells it you can still do just fine. A delightfully written story by someone who has figured out how three-inch heels a 6-foot-two body and four inches of hair can add up t
Terror of I-275 It's the middle of the USA a place where one would think T-folks would have all kinds of trouble especially tall ones. But as Leah McLain discovered there is plenty of fun and adventure anywhere and if you can just put your fears aside and relax you may
3 a.m. Makeover A night on the town ends up with an early morning lesson in colors and looks. Cindy Jones describes how she found beautiful eyes in the pre-dawn hours.
A Lot About Living A Little About Love Can a transsexual really find love with another woman? How do you make a relationship like this work especially when you may also be attracted to men? Shannon Wade discusses her relationship and its complexities.
A New Start In a touching letter to friends and co-workers Patricia McCurdy tries to explain why she is going through the most momentous change she has ever experienced. Thoughtful and a fine template that others may find of value if they too must tell the world what they're going through.
A Real Life Test: Short but Sweet It was Andee's chance to do a mini-RLT retreat with "no going back" to male persona from Thursday through Sunday. Friends had really encouraged her to try "crossliving" for a continuous short period. And what better place to try things out than in a summer beach town? Now that's a test...
Acceptance Bobby G. isn't transgendered yet he finds our community to be a place where he wants to be. Can we accept those not like ourselves as we ask others to do for us? From the heart...
Anne's Man An exchange of phone numbers leads to a real date with a man. It's exciting and a little scary. Such a night!
Aspects of Transgenderism An outstanding document explaining the transgender community some of its history and includes overviews of major research. Even if you cannot read this all right away come back and spend some time with it. Well worth it. By Kristina Latham
Be All (You Can Be) 97 Report Dianne Sprague takes you to you the "Be All" 97 event in Chicago. This is one of the community's older conclaves and Dianne describes what it was like for a newbie. Good coverage of a good event.
Best Mates is Colleen's story of falling in love with a crossdresser meeting his femme side and not being able to cope with the "other woman." "Claire" very nearly came between these two nice people but Colleen made a decision to do what she had to to keep the finest love she had ever known. You may shed a tear but we know you'll smile when you read about these two lovely ladies from Down Under. This is one to print out for your significant other to read.
Between the Sheets When his mother ends up doing D'Lover's laundry including his most intimate garments it's time for mom and son to have a little talk. Sometimes disclosures don't turn out exactly the way we think they will...
Bi Women Are More Fun Diane Kaye and Anne Marie Pemberton accept an invitation to meet a bi-sexual women's group. It's an eyeopening encounter with folks who some of the same issues we have.
Bridal Mystique Why do so many crossdressers fantasize about becoming brides and go to all kinds of elaborate escapades to wear a wedding gown? Coreen Clark takes a close look at this very common phenomenon in the community
Brittany Goes Shopping Flush from her first time out in public Brittany Strojny girds herself for the next big step: shopping for her own things. Pleasant reading whether you're just starting or have been out for years.
Brittany: Close Encounters of the Support Group Kind Brittany Chambers goes to her first support group meeting. If you've never been check this story out. If you're an old-timer this will bring the memories of that exciting moment rushing back.
Brittany: Making of a Lady The end of this story must be read! Brittany Chambers readies herself to make the big move out into the world but first a shopping trip with a most interesting vignette at the jewelry counter. Good writing right on attitude...
Brittany's Halloween Adventure A wife decides to take her hubby on a transgender adventure to a bar and a shopping mall. Good clean fun in heels and hose.
Caught Again! It can be embarassing but getting caught can also turn out to be a positive thing in your life. Well it was for Susan Larson anyway!
Caught! A sailor tries out his new clothes out in the woods...but the base police spoil the fun. By Susan Larson
Cissy Gets Out In Toronto for work and fun Cissy gets into the night life and some of the characters she's met along the way. If you're curious about what getting out on the town is really like you'll enjoy this story. If it's old hat you'll enjoy the portraits of some of the people Cissy runs into along the way. They'll be familiar!
Cissy Gets Out Our heroine is the kind of gal who gets changed in her car. Sound familiar? A jaunty "go-out" adventure done in a breezy style that features Cissy's visits to the local wig shop encounters with a paranoid and a smartaleck in a chocolate shop.
Click. Hello? The trials and troubles of getting a name change on important documents. Provocative work by Riki Wilchins
Coming Out At Work Not everyone can do this not every employer is reasonable. But Anne decided that it was time to stop living with so many complications. This is the memo she sent to her co-workers. It says volumes about her and the quality of those she works with.
Coming Out To Dad Anne Marie's emotional and powerful description of telling her father that she is transgender. Wonderous and real.
Coming Out! An energetic and highly entertaining true life experience by Chemelle Kenai whose first time out is a gloriously fun adventure. Whether you're an old hand or just thinking about stepping out you'll find something in this that will be meaningful.
Coming to Terms With Myself Julia Ann Gilkey describes her path towards self-acceptance. Not an always smooth road but one in which the first step begins inside.
Consequences Things get extremely dicey for Barbara Allen as she and her wife come to loggerheads over crossdressing. Lines are drawn and things get tense. Compelling writing that comes straight from the heart.
Consequences: Part II Her spouse has issued an ultimatum and Barbara figures she has nothing to lose by sticking to her plan to attend a Christmas party. But she knows she'll have to face the music and comes up with a proposal to save her marriage. An honest look at a situati
Consumer Review: Glue For Attaching Breastforms Attaching breast forms to your chest is usually a very bad idea. But with lighter forms AND a very special type of medical glue that is designed for use on skin the problems get considerably smaller. Diane Kaye reviews this adhesive tells you where to get it and how to use it right. News you find nowhere else!
Courage and Commitment Is it brave or cowardly not to disclose who we are to others? Emily Alford's marvelously written article delves into this most tricky problem particularly in an era when activism is beginning to force the question.
Crystal Lake Way out there in the middle of the country people sometimes have a different way about things. Leah McLain takes you back home through the cornfields and small towns in this beautifully written story about an encounter in a most unlikely place. A joy.
Dani's Homecoming They say you can't go home again? Nonsense not when the big game is on the line. Danielle Cox meets up with Desiree and Michelle to root on Oklahoma in their big game against Texas.
Debut on the Queen Now this is what you call a big day. In the space of 24 hours a girl who hadn't shaved in 16 years much less dressed in public gets a makeover goes to a big party at the IFGE convention parties at a nightclub and then to top it off gets involved in wild s
De-Wigged! Imagine this: you're in a restaurant. It's crowded. Suddenly some cretin comes by and snatches you wig off your head! What would you do? Jayne Nicole was in such a situation. What happened was most interesting...
Diary of a Journey February 1997 Alaina Hardie a young TS begins a new life in the San Francisco Bay Area where she is swept up in to the local scene starts electrolysis and has a bad hair day at the ETVC Cotillion.
Diary of a Journey January 1997 Alaina Hardie begins her diary describing her transition and journey towards...we'll find out along the way. Well-written story by a fine young person.
Diary of a Journey: March 1997 Our young TS friend gets closer to letting them know what's up at work. A controversial idea for taking the edge off electrolysis pain and a tearful reunion.
Dublin Christmas Adventure Susan Sinclair has an enjoyable if somewhat nervewracking test of her passability during a memorable day in the Irish capital. Getting put through a sobriety checkpoint was not exactly the kind of challenge she was expecting.
Emasculation or Feminization? Vanessa Kaye turns her attention to a "training school" for TGs. Is it sending out the right message?
Eternal Damnation! Lorraine Hall talks a bit about how the bible beats us up. Burn baby
Fairest of Them All Humorist Allison Marsh discovers getting compliments on your shoes aren't quite what she had in mind during a meal at a diner. Sometimes try as we may it's still the women in our lives who get all the attention.
Field of Wildflowers We all dress to express an image or what we want people to see. And sometimes the conventional is unconventional. By Joel Greenberg
Flying En Femme Linda is in a pickle. She got on her plane en femme but will have to clear customs on arrival. Play a little game at the end of this interesting story to find out how she did it...
Funny Thing Happened: No More Unwanted Erections This is a good thing explains Jennifer Lynn. No longer no longer a "slave to the connection between my all seeing eyes and my ever erect penis" Jennifer finds that there is a lot more to life. Interesting perspective.
Gender Shock A new book finds that millions of federal dollars have been used in coercive programs for to locate diagnose and "treat" scores of children for being gender-variant. Provocative report by Riki Wilchins.
GID Debate: Will It Hurt or Help to Get Rid Of It? In an extraordinary debate two major figures in the community Riki Wilchins and JoAnn Roberts argue on opposite sides of the debate to remove Gender Identity Disorder from the psychiatric manuals. This is one of the great questions facing the community.
Girls Night Out A wonderful experience with the girls in public in a restaurant. You can do this too. Diane and Anne Marie found each other as friends and a group of others they could be with and...viola! A public adventure.
Going Out: The Desirable Addiction She's nervous and excited about a special time: going out at night on her own. Cindy Jones recalls a moment we all treasure (or desire desperately) and express forthrightly how so many of us feel.
Grieving for a Friend Who Hasn't Died The letter was devastating: a friend who Sheri Evans thought was fully supportive of her transition had dumped her. The friend needed time to grieve for the loss of the male that Sheri once was. Wives of many FTMs have reported similar feelings of grief a
Guide to Guys Mardi Clark describes the kind of men you're likely to encounter if you're on the prowl for romance...and whatever. You'll find yourself remembering her nicknames for these characters for a long time. This one is right on the money honey.
Hallowed Eve Life was looking an awful lot like a James Ensor painting to Leigh de Santa Fe this Halloween but with the right people...who knows? For the alienist in all of us. Special guest appearance by Holly Woodlawn.
Hayley Does Denver After years of being closeted Hayley Rogers decides to take up an invitation and heads off to Denver for three days of fun and adventure en femme. You can have fun and be yourself if you just put your fear away.
Heart of A New Woman As a transgendered woman who is Lesbian identified Toni Evola has found a double struggle: to be accepted as a woman and to overcome the body that hides the woman inside. There is a point of view in this article that may not match yours but is certainly one that bears airing.
Help From A Big Sister Desiree Corley believes that TGs just like girls have to go through a childhood and an adolescence befor they can become women or at least understand the depth of what being a woman means. Wise words from a young newlywed GG.
Hijras India's transgenders have a place in the society. Sometimes looked down upon sometimes treasured the Hijras have their own complex communities and role to play in this diverse and huge nation.
Home School Mailing List Considering home schooling or already doing so? This is a mailing list for TGs and others who want to network on this subject.
Hong Kong Tailor -- Part II . Rachel picks out her femme clothing and endures two fittings but she gets what she wants.
Hong Kong Tailor Shop HK resident Rachael can't dress at home and can't dress in public. But an overseas trip is coming up and a great chance to be herself. Problem: not enough clothes. Answer: Having something made for her at tailor shop. This takes guts!
I Need A Role Model Leslee Anthony finds that a good role model is very useful in pulling one's style together. Trouble is there isn't much out there today...unless you count Jamie Lee Curtis Susan Lucci Cher...
I Remember The St. Charles Back before Stonewall before gay life become open in Toronto one of the hottest places in town was a hotel that had a place where Linda Jensen made her first contacts and we mean contacts with the drag world. This is quite a rememberance.
I Remember The St. Charles Back before Stonewall before gay life become open in Toronto one of the hottest places in town was a hotel that had a place where Linda Jensen made her first contacts and we mean contacts with the drag world. This is quite a rememberance.
Into The Journey Anne Marie Pemberton recounts the early stages of HRT including her first hormone shot. Cross-dressing was never enough for her and she know that tough challenges lay ahead.
It's Great To Be A Transvestite! This is a must-read of Sabrina Marcus' rip-roaring keynote address to last week's Southern Comfort Conference. Finally some one has the guts to say what is really wonderful about being a "common everyday vacuum-the-carpet-in-high-heels do-the-laundry-in
Jeopardy En Femme (again) Our Linda Jensen gives the famous US game show another try en femme with interesting results that just go to show that with guts looks and attitude you can pretty much do what you like in the world.
Job Interview So you are really thinking about getting a job as your new self? It can be a large challenge as Stacy Clement found but it can be done. Learn more by reading this solid article.
Josie & John A sexy true life tale that again proves when loves come to town you got to jump that train...
Journal Having a log of your history during transition is a good way to remember the feelings and thoughts that were part of this memorable time. By Anne Marie Pemberton.
Krista's Mom: When A Son Becomes A Daughter How would your parents react if they discovered you were transgender? A mother's true tale of discovery and love that is stunningly emotional in its simple directness. A powerful work by Sandra W.
Letter For A Frightened Woman In a moving message to the spouse of a transgender person Evonne Alford explains how she came to reconcile her own husband's TG issues and stay in love. Moving and real. Show it to her.
Letter to a Friend This is much more than a coming out letter. Sallyanne Ofner lays out what many in the medical world now believe about the causes of transexualism and goes into their explanations in a clear easily understood manner. But this is also a letter straight from one person's heart. Well worth reading.
Letter To My Family Aleisha Michelle shares with us a very difficult and touching moment: telling her family she is transexual.
Letters Between Friends Allison Marsh shares a touching letter and her response. You may see a little of yourself in the exchange.
Lovers Story Rhian and Mariejozee share a wonderful love story that began with personal ads in TGForum and brought them to the start of a fantastic romance. Read with someone you care about.
Lydia's TG Float In SoCAL Parade Finally a float for our community appears in the Los Angeles Gay Pride Day Parade. It was sponsored by one of TGF's own advertisers: Lydias. Pictures and story.
Making Sense: Puzzlement & Peace After years of struggle Dr. Lee Etscovitz has finally begun to enjoy her gender change a major benefit of which has been a general feeling of inner peace. No longer fighting herself she has stopped apologizing for her existence. Transsexuals may find the
Meeting an Old Friend In a New Way Linda Jensen has been happily "schizophrenic" and kept her TG life and friends seperate from her "guy" life and friends. But lately she's discovered that a part of her wants friends to know her as a complete person and she arranges a meeting with an ex-gi
Meeting Claire Terrifically told story from the point of view of the person who learns "the secret" After she tells Trish a co-worker about herself Claire Stafford arranges to meet with her friend. It really does happen like this...
Men Who Love Us: Five Voices Men have been bashed a great deal in this community often unfairly and sometimes for good reason. The comments of five of these men may give some new perspective on the motives and attitudes of this part of our community. This is a follow up on the Blanch
My Beginning Diane Kaye has come quite a distance since from coming out last year. Her journey may sound familar or it may sound like what you've been longing for.
My Big Night Out She doesn't get the chance often so when her family went away for 24 hours Cissy takes advantage. A fun true life adventure by a person aching to get out of the closet.
My First Date You have to be careful about what you wish for...and in this marvelously told true tale of romance Sheri Gwen Evans tells of her first meeting with a gentleman who isn't like some who "admire" TGs. A classy story by a classy lady.
My Girl: An S.O.S Story Wendy the spouse of a newly out TG describes the fears and joys of discovery that the man she has been married to for 22 years is not the "lumberjack" she thought. A beatifully written true story that every couple should read. You can make it work...
My Girlfriend is Transgendered One man's story of his love for his girlfriend his TG girlfriend. We've heard from TG women who are meeting a man or a woman for the first time on a date. We've heard from women who are dating a TG for the first time. Now we hear from a man about his relationship with a TG lady. From meeting her on The Internet to meeting her for real the writer takes us through this journey with his true love.
My Italian Stallion Fantasy turns to reality for Debbie Allen when a handsome gentleman flys to America to be with her. Have a cool drink nearby.
My Queendom for A Diet Pepsi Stef Matthew's is a desperate addict scouring the food court for a soda but not just any soda. She's also overdressed and lost. Uh-oh.
My Sister's Secret: Part 4 The smash hit series continues as our heroine her sister and a friend share more touching moments. Elegant and tasteful one of the most popular series we've had to date.
My Sister's Secret: Part 5 The series concludes as our heroine her sister and a friend share more touching moments. Elegant and tasteful one of the most popular series we've had to date.
My Sister's Secrets Mary Leigh takes us on a beautifully written journey into the past. Moments you'll recognize and remember in this first in a series.
My Sister's Secrets: Part 2 Mary Leigh takes us on a beautifully written journey into the past. A Halloween night that turns out much different that a young lad expects--or is it?--when two girls decide to play.
My Sister's Secrets: Pt. 3 The transformation begins for Mary Leigh and maybe just maybe a the kind of relationship she's longed for. A sweet exciting tale of that special first time.
My Wedding: Janette Korrell A true wedding story as Janette relates preparations and her big day as she weds Eric in a fabulous traditional ceremony. Delightfully told.
No Conditions No Concerns. A Friend's a Friend Anne Marie Pemberton recounts a very interesting chat with a co-worker who found himself with buddies in a pool hall talking about TSs. An emotional uplifting true story.
No Control In a recounting of experience many have Jessica Brandon describes how crossdressing changed from an impulse to an out of control behavior to something very different. This is a very solid article for anyone wondering what "the next step" will be in their transgender life.
No Trick No Treat Can you pretend to be something when you're already there? Jennifer Lynn confronts a reality for a lot of transgenders that has taken a little of the zing out of Halloween.
No Trick No Treat Can you pretend to be something when you're already there? Jennifer Lynn confronts a reality for a lot of transgenders that has taken a little of the zing out of Halloween.
Not Read Recognized Why is it that some people seem to know who we really are before we say anything? Emily Alford shares experiences that many will go through as self-acceptance comes. Very smooth reading from a fine new writer here at TGF.
Of Muskies and Men Leah MacLean wanted to come out to her brother. But somehow the wires got a little crossed.
Olga and Her Wife What is acceptance? Sometimes it seems like this comes so easily to some of us. But as Olga and her wife tell it it is not so easy to put aside all of society's prohibitions when there is a crossdresser in the house. Must read for those in a committed rel
Our Commitment Ceremony Melody and Vanessa were married last October in a beautiful ceremony that proved their love. A touching story.
Our Time In Eden Flushed with success after 5 days dressed at Southern Comfort Anne Casebeer embarks on a trip into the real world and finds that you can do more than you might think when crossdressed if you behave like you belong.
Out and About The further adventures of Anne Marie and Diane Kay. Our two Washington D.C. gals enjoy a fun filled day. You can too. Two people neither of whom has been out very long make it happen...
Out at Work: the Reaction Anne Canfield told her co-workers about her plans to transition in early April. Then the other shoe dropped and they reacted.
Out To My Boss Anne Marie Pemberton makes the big move. In a letter to her employer which could be an excellent template for many of us she explains that she will be transitioning on the job. Well-done and effective.
Outted Big Time On the Job An evil co-worker passed out copies of Jayne Nicole's photos to employees in an apparent effort to discredit her. But Jayne found a way to turn this unexpected outting into something the birdbrain who started it all could not have expected. An inspiring true story.
Party at Tiffany's Diane Kaye invites you to join her as she recounts an interesting party at a friends.
Passing In The Real World: A New Approach Barbara Ellen Allen gets out again with higher goals than on her last adventure. Shopping passing and finally meeting someone from the community in a public place.
Passing in the Real World: Finding the Group Barbara Allen married to a woman who rejects her cross-dressing finally gets her big chance to go to a meeting when her wife is out of town. Then it gets complicated...
Passing In The Real World: Free At Last! Barbara Ellen Allen gets out again and this time there's no stopping her. With lots of time to do just what she wants she takes on downtown New Orleans!
Passing Lane: Diane Giles You don't have to be particularly small or an apple-cheeked kid to pass in this world. Diane Giles went from frightened and in the closet to going to work en femme in less than a year with only a change in attitude to make it happen. You can too
Passing Lane: Getting to the Support Group Barbara finally makes it to her support group meeting. If you've ever been too scared to finally get out the door and we all have you may find some solace in this totally true-to-life story. It is sugar and spice.
Passing Lane: Giving Up Fear You don't think you pass. You're too tall or weigh too much or have bad features. But you don't have to look like Gracy Kelly to connect with the real world you can do it. Barbara Allen's experiences can help you. This doesn't have to be a fantasy.
Passing Lane: Shopping with Anne Marie It's the little adventures that bring the great changes. Diane Kaye takes her new found friend Anne Marie on a shopping trip. If you've never been out and are thinking about it or you want to remember how those first times felt you'll enjoy this true stor
Passing: fooling or offending? Linda Jensen presents a reality check for passing. Most of us really don't but there is a lot of good news too. Well-written and useful.
Peripatetic TV What is it about donning ladies apparel that drives us so?
Potatoes & Crossdressing Stacey and Judi Clement find an interesting analogy that you may find useful in handling the pressures crossdressing can bring to a committed relationship.
Purges: Why? Stacy Clement discusses this most common phenomenon what causes it and where to take your clothes so the rest of us can buy them... that's a joke. Stacy's ideas on the subject aren't foolish however and she hits the nail squarely in this crisp article.
Read by a Toddler Yes it happens. Even people who pass all the time get read. What matters is how you handle the situation. Good cheer good read by Diane Kaye
Reconciliation with Dad My parents did not react well to the news when I called them in April 1996 to tell them I was transsexual... begins a touching heart-wrenching tale of how the author Marsha Rupe dealt with the loss of her parents when she began her transition and the story of her eventual reconciliation with her father.
Reluctant Traveler Ann Lynn the wife of transgender person describes the love the fear and the questions so many women have when they learn the truth about their mate.
Results of a Survey: A Comparision of TVs & Non-TVs Kristina L has produced a most interesting disturbing and fascinating survey that looked deeply into the motivations behind cross-dressing. You may not like the findings or you may believe they reflect the truth but whatever your feelings you well find th
Russia's Transexual Nation David Tuller takes you into the operating room at a Russian hospital where he witnesses Oksana's sex reconstruction surgery. Absolute screen-scroller of an excerpt from his new book "Inside The Iron Closet". Expertly written first of two parts.
Russia's Transexual Nation - The FTMs Russian FTMs take center stage in this second part of the excerpt from David Tuller's book on gays lesbians and transgender in Russia "Cracks In The Iron Closet" An FTM TS talks about his conquests of women and while another says straight men have no clue
S.P.IC.E.: Some Sugar Some Not So Nice TGF correspondent Dana B had a mixed view of the recent confab for spouses. Some women wanted all men banned and the internal politics weren't too cool. Spicy report.
Show Girl on the Dignity Cruise! How do you top this? A full week on a boat with 2000 passengers and 13 other crossdressers. Well how about doing a turn as Marilyn Monroe doing her big number "Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend" in front of a packed house? Entertainingly written by Jill R
Some Things Don't Run In The Family What if your son tells you he wants to be a girl? In this moving and extraordinarily well-written article Emily Alford remembers a moment when that question was put to her at a time when her marriage was in very difficult shape. Don't miss the ending.
Something's Not Right is a story that is too often true. Do you know people who have made the wrong choice or gone about their choice the wrong way. A gender transition is not a step to be taken lightly. Is the place you wish to transition to worth it? Read this true story and then decide.
Southern Comfort - Real Lives Now here is a fresh perspective on a convention: a single woman who comes to the event to see a friend and gets introduced to a whole new world. Very enjoyable well-written article by Sherri Shapiro.
SPICE '96: Another Perspective The pain and anger that women feel upon discovery of their husband's transgender life may have most to do with a feeling of loss of a "Life Dream" she had of their lives together. This story by Lori S. goes far beyond a simple review of the SPICE event an
Stevie was a friend who like Emily Alford wanted desperately to wear girls' clothes when they were little kids in a tiny New York village. A delightfully written remembrance.
Stop The Madness Internal bickering and bias is damaging this community badly. From TS-bashing to fights over "open" and "closed" groups the noise level is getting way too high Admitting that they have been party to some of these fights Vanessa and Linda Kaye make a well-
Support Groups: For Better or Worse An extremely well-done overview of what support groups are like including their shortcomings why they may or may not be for you and a good deal more. Kerri Edwards' story is not to be missed particularly if you are considering joining a group.
Talking To My Child In a wonderfully personal article Sallyanne Ofner introduces us to her son a second-grader who she has told about her coming transition. The first in an occasional series of articles on Ms. Ofner and her relationship with her boy.
Talking to My Daughter A father decides it is time to talk to his daughter about his transgender nature. A deeply personal work.
Telling A Friend isn't always the easiest or safest thing to do...but sometimes it is the right thing. Danielle Cox finds that when she comes out to a friend at work the shock and surprise can take a bit of time to subside and there are sometimes unknown consequences. A fun read.
Telling Mom is also a coming out story - one of the hardest ones of all. How do you say "Mom I'm a crossdresser?" Elizabeth Wright's mother was about to move into her house. Telling mom about her new daughter became a priority. A touching story.
Telling My Co-Workers Anne Marie Pemberton shares a letter to her co-workers. We thought that others who may be considering transitioning on the job might find it of some value.
Texas T Party is Over (sigh) Bobbi Williams and friends find a lot more to do at the Texas T party than one might think. Fun adventures out in the real world and it's all deep in the heart of you know where...
TG Nirvana Late in the summer of 1998 Coreen Clark had a rather sudden and significant change of attitude about her transgenderness. For the last few years she had been feeling like a TV/TS. But then a chance conversation triggered a series of new ideas and insights. If you are struggling over whether SRS may or may not be right for you this story may be of some value.
TG Scholars Seek To Be Heard On Campus Before he delivers a lecture on gender identity to his philosophy class this semester Michael A. Gilbert must decide what to wear. Most likely he will put on a knee-length skirt a long-sleeved blouse and low pumps. A well-done story by the Chronicle For Higher Education.
The Dangers of Virtual Flirting An innocent e-mail flirtation gets a lot more complicated. Straight from the heart Olga V. Cambasini explains how she handled a truly tricky situation.
The Other Side: Changes... A young boy knows he is a young girl and with his mother's help makes the dramatic change. In this true-life series Kim Seabury will take us through and beyond transition into life on "The Other Side" as a wife and a mother.
The Other Side: In the Beginning So much of what we hear and read about transexuals is about transitioning towards a new life. In this series Kim Seabury will take us through and beyond transition into life on "The Other Side" as a wife and a mother.
The Real Me Susan Larson comes out to her boss and friends. A powerful and memorable moment in a young person's life.
The Relationship: Trust and Vulnerability In all types of relationships managing our vulnerability in life is more than an exercise in good judgement it is essential to our survival. There is no excuse for ignoring risks and exposing our vulnerability in situations where harm might come to the crossdresser or his family. By Alycia Ellison
The Road To Freedom Jennifer Petersen takes you on an enthralling voyage of discovery fear and liberation as she faces two of our greatest challenges. Exposing herself to her spouse and her boss. Stunning story.
The Wedding Dress Jennifer Blake takes you inside her visit to a bridal shop! This is one confident girl and you have to got to love it...wonderful details romantic. What more could you want?
The Woman Within Is it just about make up hair and clothes? Vanessa Kaye takes a penetrating look at superficiality and the nature of transgender behavior in a concise well-written column.
Thirty Year Reunion Phyllis Frye attends her 30th high school reunion and is greeted by an extremely interesting reaction from her old schoolmates. Made me feel a lot better about everything...
This is Our Way Susan and Stefi have their own way of doing things. Is it real or fantasy? They say it's all true.
Transgender People of Color A report from a recent ICTLEP features presentations by TG people of color who discuss the issues and questions that come with inclusion or lack of it into community groups and events. If you are at all interested in making the right things happen you may find this of value.
Transgender Primer: Student Talk (part 1) In an extraordinarily insightful talk Allison Marsh lays out a great deal of the new theories and ideas surrounding transgender people. This is an excellent read for those who want more basic explanatory information.
Transgender Primer: Student Talk (part 2) In an extraordinarily insightful talk Allison Marsh lays out a great deal of the new theories and ideas surrounding transgender people. This is an excellent read for those who want more basic explanatory information.
Transgenderality & Class Struggle A Great Reply to the book "Gender Slumming" this Holbrook/Fowler analysis takes on an author who used stereotypes of TG people to attack the community.
Transition: The Pain and The Discovery The truth of transition from Kelly Ann's perspective. Heartbreaking uplifting she speaks for a lot of people and straight her heart.
Trans-Marriage in the Mid-West In a very unusual set of circumstances two people who married nearly 30 years ago review their vows but this time as transsexuals who have reversed roles. An intriguing story by Stef Matthews.
TS Divorce Case Poses Major Questions An important custody battle is shaping up in St. Louis between a TS and her former wife. The case could have wide implications.
Valentine's Day It's not all candy hearts and roses... Especially when you're married with children.
Vanessa Kaye: A Special Gift Transgendered people sometimes live their entire life with conflict and guilt that few other people can ever understand
Vanessa Kaye: Prisoner or Guard? A long weekend dressed raises questions about whether we cage ourselves in our own fears and doubts. TGF columnist Vanessa Kaye brings her solid insight to an interesting question.
Vanessa Kaye: Telling Children This is a deeply personal position one that no one can decide for you but if you think you may want to talk to the kids it is probably a good idea to consider how you've raised them to accept all kinds of other people and ideas. Compelling column.
Venturing Out Fiona Scott's visit to her therapist becomes a turning point in her life. If you have ever considered going out in public this is a story for you.
Wall Street Journal Mocks TGs Sallyanne Ofner reports on a nasty comment made in the Wall Street Journal about transgenders that was connected to the CHE (see above) story. We are according to WSJ a "nightmarish permutation" of humanity.
Wedding Dress and Honeymoon Night Lingerie Her wedding day nears so Jennifer Blake has to take care of some major essentials including a last fitting at a crowded bridal salon and shopping trip to the lingerie counter!
What to Do? All too often we confine our activities to clubs meetings and shopping. Jayne Nicole finds that stretching a bit and trying something new - in her case working as a volunteer at an event - can be a lot of fun and a great way to show the flag.
Whatever Happened to Kay? Ours is a community long had a reputation as one in which you're "best friend" suddenly dropped from view. That's what happened to Linda Jensen who met and parties with "Kay" one of the most famous TVs of the 1970s and 80s. A fascinating true tale.
When A Famous Person Comes Out In a remarkable tale of courage and optimism one of Australia's most famous personalities published a book with his brother and revealed to millions that he is a crossdresser. Peta Wilson describes the aftermath of that disclosure in a fascinating beautifully-paced article. Must read.
Why Do So Many Become TG After 40? Is it coincidental that so many TGs realize who they are at an older age? Can it just be that families and careers are settled? Or is there something deeper? Terrianne Summers has an interesting speculation on what could be going on.
Woman's View: Don't BS Me Sometimes straight talk is the only talk. Kristy's wife lays it out plain and simple. Being a crossdresser's wife may not be easy but don't make it harder with deceptions. Well done and sound advice.
Xmas Party Diane Kaye and Anne Marie go to a fun Xmas party in Washington. The encounter with the police is interesting too!
Young Married to a TG and Loving It! Desiree Corley tells of the joys of being a young newlywed with a spouse who is transgender. A wonderful article that says mountains about how much the world has changed and how much stays the same...particularly where love is involved. A joy.
First Time: Ariana Darci McCarnen A boy finds that the friend he thought was asleep was more awake that one would expect...charming true story.
First Time: Bonnie Herin When just a teen-ager Bonnie Herin gets talked into having her long hair styled by one her girlfriend's but it doesn't stop there! This is a great great "First Time" story particularly when Bonnie and her girlfriends run into someone at a shopping mall who is very very important in Bonnie's male life. Truth really is stranger than fiction...
First Time: Cheryl The big day had finally come. Cheryl was going to spend a whole week as the lady she always dreamed she was. And dreams can come true.
First Time: Christine #6 "There were no divisions between the possible and the impossible the real and the imaginary. Cats could fly and dogs could dance. I lived out an unending series of fantasies. Edited by Cynthia Smith
First Time: Claire Stafford In a very interesting "First Time" story Claire Stafford recalls how she made her first venture out of her house. It's an exciting time. The late '60s. Skirts up to here. Wolves who aren't the least bit shy about their intentions. And Belfast before the
First Time: Cyndi Here's a hot true story about a boy who found that his only way to satisfy his desire to cross-dress was to pilfer things. We don't recommend you do this at home...
First Time: Deborah #5 Purging surreptious purchases disclosure. It's all here. Edited by Cynthia Smith
First Time: DeeDee Crossmore First Time takes to the friendly skies with the story of Dee Dee's first airplane ride enfemme. But this is a little different: DeeDee made sure everyone knew who she was BEFORE she got on the aircraft. If you are contemplating a flight in women's clothing Dee Dee has been there and you might find her technique a good one. You may not want to show that much leg on your first flight but hey! Read First Time this month and find out for yourself.
First Time: Finding Friends A great true story about finding a group and getting up the gumption to go and meet them...in public. If you've been waiting and wondering scared and suspicious you may find out what you need to know in this nicely written article by D'Lover. "Old-timers"
First Time: Finding Stephanie Finally she was experiencing something she had been yearning for her whole life: She was finally allowing herself to love a part of her that had always been denied. A delightfully energetic remembrance of a big moment last year.
First Time: Hannah A very well-written true story about a day spent building up confidence and testing the waters. Very enjoyable.
First Time: Hannah Leigh As a child she watched her mother make up other ladies and longed for the experience. She gets it. This is a fun exciting true story by a long-time TGF reader. Edited by the talented Cynthia Smith.
First Time: Hayley Rogers A young college girl takes her big step out of the closet at a fancy-schmancy hotel that is hosting a Star Trek convention. Our heroine gets a little taste of celebrity too!
First Time: Heidi Lower It was on a beautiful sunny day in California that Heidi got into a red Mazda with her sister and the two took off for an adventure that she treasures to this day. Shopping and fun in the day dancing and a brush with a romantic figure in the night. Now t
First Time: Jennifer Christine A hot little story about a boy who becomes infatuated with his babysitter's exciting swimsuit. We don't advise you doing this at home...
First Time: Julie Steps Out She had come out to her wife but she hadn't really come out to herself and now finally it was time for Julie to step out into the real world. If you're new to the community or just trying to decide if you want to finally get out you'll find much to help you in this nicely written coming out story.
First Time: Krystal She began by playing dress-up with her brother and sister. Down through years there were purges and joys that continue to grow. Heartfelt story edited by Cynthia Smith.
First Time: Krystal Someone said "let's play house!" and that was the start for a youngster who somehow ended up in a dress...
First Time: Leah McLain Alone in a dimly lit room I pause for a moment and try to relax just a little. I don't believe I'm actually doing this..." And so starts a tale familiar to all of us. Read how Leah MacLean survives her First Steps.
First Time: Linda Rossi A family where the word "love" was not heard much though they loved each other. A Dad with an explosive temper towards the boy who sneaked around to wear girls' clothes. A Mom who didn't learn how to hug until late in life. Sound familiar? A story you'l
First Time: Marinja Prior Marinja Prior shares what she had to do to face her worst nightmare...experience the dream of her life. Could it be that simple? Read through her rememberances and find out.
First Time: No More Hiding In My Room Livia had reached a time in my life when she was getting tired of dressing up in a room only to look in the mirror. She needed needed something more. This is a great story by a person who despite great looks was scared to make that first step out. Very enjoyable.
First Time: Pandora's Box A wonderfully exciting romantic story about how an old male friend became something much more on a magical New Year's Eve. Alaina Brooks' story proves that the best tales are the true ones. Keep a cool glass of water nearby for the ending!
First Time: Paula A monthlong adventure ten years of longing and the surprise of a lifetime. Fun exciting "First Time" yarn. Edited by Cynthia Smith.
First Time: Pauline A fascination with raincoats anchors this true story of a transgender person who expresses her feelings in her own special way.
First Time: Revana Rose Two little kids are awakened by their older siblings and the fun begins from there! A true story by a truly lovely and kind person. She's gorgeous too. A great fun read.
First Time: Robin Adams In a very funny re-telling of a most memorable "First Time" Robin Adams takes us back in time to 1988 a year when most of us were probably still hiding in the closet Robin was just coming out. Unfortunately it was in a wedding dress so horrid that it's b
First Time: Roxane Talk about "first times!" Our heroine describes her first time dressed first time with a man and her first time out on the town. This is an exciting fun true story that's a quick read and action packed!
First Time: Roxanne It's her first time out and Roxanne will soon discover that getting out in the world can get very pricey. If you're just starting out you may want to pay attention...
First Time: Susan Susan from the UK tells us about her first time out in the public -- and the pub! When this girl goes out she goes out!
First Time: Tina A saucy relationship with a neighbor as a teen-ager doesn't prepare Tina for married life in this exciting and achingly described biography of a person who now struggles to resolve conflict between marriage and cross-dressing.
First Time: Trisha Trisha was a little nervous but she was determined to take her first steps out of the closet and meet other people. You can do this too!
First Time: Visiting Two Special Places D'Lover overcomes her anxieties and spends a day in two very special new places. A fun read for those who are just starting and those who still remember...
First Time:Jennifer "To thine own self be true" and as Jennifer finds when you live that way great things can happen to you. Edited by Cynthia Smith
First Times: Pam & Erin For Pam it all started when dreams turned to reality while for Erin it was finally time to put aside the fears and get into the world. Two "first time" stories that are different from most.
My First Convention With Southern Comfort beginning this week we thought you'd enjoy this article recounting the experience of a major TG convention. Leigh Anne Richards writes an excellent highly readable account of her time at the 1998 Texas T Party. She really takes you there...
My Best & Worst Outing In a delightfully fun story Elizabeth Parker describes the story of one day when she finally got to out dressed. This is a real pleasure to read and Parker knows how to take you right there. Even if going "out" is no big deal for you our guess is that this story will still bring a smile of recognition.
My Story: A Vacation Turns Into a Life Change A young person and her girlfriend go on a trip that would make a dramatic difference in their lives. It's a true story dream vacation in more than one way. Edited by Cynthia Smith
My Story: Anne Marie A chance encounter in a bar changes her whole perspective in this very moving true life story. Long long ago when they were kids she had a friend...
My Story: Beth Burton Getting ready to celebrate fourteen years of marriage that is lucky to have lasted into double digits gives Beth Burton something to reflect on. A great story about how when things look darkest it's just before the light is turned on.
My Story: Chris and Samantha. Life doesn't always deal you a good hand but when it does play it out gracefully. Here's a story about boy meets girl boy finds out girl is a TS and well... You're just going to have to read the rest for yourself. No its' not a happy ending but it's not
My Story: Danielle In her true story Danielle's fascination with women's clothes leads to an exciting adventure after she's caught by her 14 year old cousin. It turns into a magic time.
My Story: Diane Coming out to everyone. When you leave the closet you might be surprised at just what living in the light can be like.
My Story: Donna A young person's experiences lead her to a new life and a few adventures. Edited by Cynthia Smith.
My Story: Ellen Talk about having a dream come true! In this terrific true tale a man who has had TG feelings all his life meets a special person who introduces him to our world. The ending is wonderful
My Story: Fiona Scott Thirty-one years into a deeply loving marriage a transexual has to break the news. But her spouse has just gone through a terrible time. What will she do?
My Story: Hard Lesson We hear so many stories about how great this relationship or how that spouse is so understanding. It isn't always like that. Jessica's story is not so uncommon and while painful she has an important message about honesty that all of us need to remember.
My Story: Heather A very exciting true story that will get your pulse pounding. Heather has a way with words men and women in this fun-filled tale of how she learned who she is.
My Story: Heidi Lower Heidi Lower had kept her secret for years from her wife: "This was just killing me I shared everything with her and I didn't want to keep such a wonderful part of my life away from her any longer. I had to find a way." Find out how in this fun interesting article.
My Story: Jayne Nicole & The Girls Day Out Now this is fun: newbie public cross-dresser Jayne and her wife go to the shopping mall for the first time together. The wife is uncertain at first but eventually even advises Jayne to try on differents things in the dressing rooms. Nicely written.
My Story: Joani A refreshing wonderfully uplifting true story about a person who finds herself love and joy in being transgender. The ending is marvelous
My Story: Joy of Belonging When you are a TS friendships relationships the ability to get on with either one's own apparent gender or the other can become non-existent. And you just learn to live with it. It is not that society ostracises TS's its just that they never seem to fit in anywhere. Yet as Alison finds this isn't how it has to be. You can belong...
My Story: Julie H. Over the last year and a few months Julie H came out twice: once to herself and once to her wife. By far the greatest anguish was wrapped up in the first the greatest joy has come from the second.
My Story: Katia A very young person tells her story of rifling through mom's closet and finding treasures. Many of will relate to this Dutch girl's tale.
My Story: Krystle's Story A transvestite comes to the realization that it all means a lot more than clothes. Touching account edited by Cynthia Smith.
My Story: Laura It began at the age of 12 to 13. Just a simple sexual thrill at wearing womens underwear. Now at the age of 29 she has "the full fever for total female illusion but the sexual thrill is stronger than ever." True life true lives. Laura's story is an excit
My Story: Linda Walker Written with grace and perspective. Linda's story may illustrate the truth of this community: there are many many ways of being a fulfilled transgender person that are well short of SRS.
My Story: Marsha pushes her personal envelope and finds that getting out of the closet is not so bad after all. A great story for those of you getting ready for the big step and those of you who still remember that exciting time. Edited by Cynthia Smith
My Story: Paige & How I Got Here An extraordinarily well-written and emotionally powerful true story about a person who hid it all for 24 years of marriage and then finally had to tell the truth. Simple potent and true.
My Story: Renee It began when she was three and through her life this cute Boise ID girl knew she wasn't quite what it said on the birth certificate.
My Story: Robin Pringle She grew up in Africa all-male. But eventually the recognition that she was very different became clear. A fascinating life.
My Story: Samantha Tragedy and triumph mark the life of this interesting person's account of herself. Edited by Cynthia Smith.
My Story: Shannon Mahoney In a very unusual article this lovely Texan recounts the questions people have asked her over the years and responds with wonderful insights and views about life direction and where she thinks it my journey will end. This "mock" interview format may give those of you like her more insight into what transition and the decisions that go into it can be like.
My Story: Sharon Jameson She was just a beginner but she was also getting very tired of hanging around inside motel rooms. Then one night Sharon decided to go outside...
My Story: Susan A UK person describes the trials of growing up and getting married all the while not quite fitting in. Real thoughts from a real person.
My Story: Susan Hall She battled and questioned herself for so long even praying that she would somehow changed. But then one day a disastrous visit to a mall changed the way she thought about herself and the world around her. A most inspirational and very authentic article.
My Story: Yvonne A stormy marriage ends but a new life begins when Yvonne discovers herself and a lovely new partner. Touching story by a person whose struggles will have resonance for many.