All of us, whether we are genetic women or crossdressers, have at one time
or another dreamed of being the perfect woman. The perfect figure, the
perfect hair, the perfect face - you know, don't you! And so FEW of us
ever achieve. We know we are born with certain characteristics - just
look at our parents! We cannot change our height, seem to have little
effect on our weight in spite of all our attempts, and are stuck with our
body structure unless we have access to some incredible plastic surgeon.
Some women and some crossdressers have with relative ease managed to make
themselves look wonderful. Some of this is hereditary; but they must also
be given credit with managing to learn whether from childhood or later how
to make themselves look good. Others of us, no matter how hard we try,
cannot get our hair to stay in place, cannot do much about our facial
structure; and certainly cannot change our body structure.
So it may become a bone of contention between couples when the
crossdresser with relative ease becomes a gorgeous woman and the wife, no
matter how hard she tries, cannot compare. We have to wonder, don't we,
just what is going on here.
It does appear that men's body structure lends itself many times to
appearing more svelte and trim in dresses than women, who unfortunately
have to deal with more body fat and this can present problems, as we women
know. I cannot help but wonder if there is not some kind of outfit that
would make women look as good as many men look in dresses.
And some crossdressers can do wonders with wigs. We have all seen female
impersonators who are almost undistinguishable from the original, whether
it be Marilyn Monroe, Cher, or Joan Rivers. They would be the first to
tell us it look hours and hours of practice to perfect their makeup, etc.
But the point of this is we have to get beyond physical appearance. The
playing field is not equal and we have to recognize this. The qualities
that are important - sincerity, honesty, fairness, tolerance,
responsibility, openmindedness have nothing to do with appearance. They
come from within, from the heart.
We genetic women have to remember this and quit worrying about whether we
measure up. Crossdressers have to remember this also and not worry so
much about becoming the perfect woman but just enjoy crossdressing.