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Dear Rachael:

I'm 40ish and although I've always considered myself a girl/woman I've had to live my life as a male with my true desire hidden under my clothes. Recently I've thrown in the towel, started dressing and going out as my true self, and have started taking hormones. I've been married and divorced twice. I married because I thought it was the proper thing to do in society, and so people wouldn't think I was gay. All the wrong reasons but both women knew about me early on. Question, am I gay, because I've married and dated women and only thought about going with a man? Would I be normal if I dated men? I am planning to have surgery to get my body in line with my mind. I hope this letter dosn't sound corny.
Bye,
Vanna

Dear Vanna:

You are not alone... whether or not you are gay remains to be seen. Are you corny? No, not at all. I would recommend that you move forward to bring your body and mind in sync. I boldly make this recommendation, as I know that you will have to go through three months of psychotherapy and live as a woman for at least a year before all this can happen. It will cost you around $15K(+)(-) for the surgery alone... even if your psychiatrist okays it.

You may find, during therapy that you really are not TS, but TG, or even TV and that is okay; at least you will know and that is what it is all about.

CAUTION, Caution!! Do not date men if they believe that you are a real woman when you are not. Wait 'til after surgery. To date under a false pretense is asking for trouble... it may even be fatal. The tabloids are full of murders of pre-op TS's who fooled their dates and were killed. So, you say that before it becomes "hot and heavy" you will tell? That does not cut it. The chances that you will find a male who understands and will "wait" are slim to never.

Even after SRS, I advise the new-women to tell their serious dates soon in the relationship. Honesty wins always.

Rachael

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