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ear achael,
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Dear Rachael:
Hi I'm Stephanie in Oregon. It gets awfully lonesome
in my area. I'm 44, 6'0 200 lbs. and firm. Even if we never meet I'd
sure like a friend to talk with.
I'm married and have been mostly in the closet and
now my feelings are starting to rage! I especially like pretty panties
and under-things. I've never cheated on my wife in 22yrs, but I've had a
mild case of herpes simplex2 that gets active every 1-2 times a yr. It
scares possible lovers off.
Have you ever dealt with this.... Love and kisses
Stephanie
Dear Stephanie:
I have not dealt with herpes personally, but I do have a few questions for
you. Does you wife know . . . about your cross-dressing
. . . about your herpes? Do you not want to "scare lovers away?"
What does your wife think about that? Are you now considering cheating? What
kind of friend are you looking for? Your cross-dressing may not be the
time bomb that is "raging" depending on your answers to these questions. Tell
me more!
Rachael
Dear Rachael:
I don't want to be transgendered- how do I accept it? Is there a cure? I'm
still getting used to how this thing works. I don't mean to sound too
desperate; I am in a support group the Gemini Gender Group of Milwaukee. I
just feel that I need all the support I can get. Being TG is very stressful,
as you know.
Ajax
Dear Ajax:
Can you be cured of being transgendered? Most likely not . . . I know of one
therapist who is not all that sure that you cannot. I know of no one whom
has been "cured," however. I know of many that are in and out of the
transgendered world. This is to say that they very active in cross-dressing
for a while, withdraw and live without cross-dressing for quite some time and
then return to the fold. Sometimes the cycle can be several years in length,
sometimes months, sometime minutes! Smile!
However, you noticed I slipped from the transgender to the cross-dresser
expressing as though they are one in the same. They are not, as you may
know. I like to think of a transgendered (TG) male as somewhere between a
cross-dresser (TV) and a transsexual (TS). Where you fit in my paradigm I do
not know. And you need not be one to become another. Some people start out
as TS; some progress (or regress) from TV-TG-TS. Where ever you settle must
be right for you.
I do know this! One of the best ways to learn to accept it, to deal with it
and yes, even enjoy it is to seek professional help. Run, don't walk to a
therapist of your choosing.
The next best thing that you can do is to join a support group and you have
done this. Good for you! Fell free to tell me more about yourself.
Rachael
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