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Will This Dream Ever Come True?
By Desiree Corley
This morning, I awoke from a spectacular dream with a vision. In my dream, a feminist
TS sat down with a bawdy drag queen, and bonded. A guy in a skirt had no problem
talking with a transgenderist. It was like paradise, except with wigs. We had a
united community, where inner transphobia was non-existant. Alas, reality is far less
idyllic.
The TG community has the same dilemma as the women’s movement: we are a house
divided. We argue
about what labels to use for whom, who is TG and who isn’t, whether or not we should
even use the word transgendered. Transexuals look down upon crossdressers who look
down upon transvestites who look down upon drag queens. We fuss about who is ‘normal’
and who is ‘perverted’, whether someone is in touch with their feminine side, or just
a guy in a skirt. The truth of the matter is...who cares?
We are all different, but we have certain things in common. That’s what should
unite us. I’m a genetic
girl, but I can sympathize with the transsexual finally growing breasts. That TS can
share with a crossdresser the experience of the first time they ‘passed’. The
crossdresser can identify with the transvestite about the first time they tried on
some lacy panties and felt good about it. FTMs and MTFs can understand the desire to
be on the outside what they are on the inside, even though their respective insides
are different. It’s these shared emotions we have that allow us to empathize with
others, and to sympathize with those needs that are different than ours.
If we are ever going to get equality and acceptance from society at large, we’re
going to have to learn
these simple truths, and go beyond the differences. Bickering will get us nowhere,
and only prove to society that we are nothing but a petty subculture of deviants.
Maybe if you and I share our innermost selves with each other, and that CD over there
takes a TS to lunch, and some of us wives get to know our husband’s TG friends...who
knows? Maybe we’ll be a community in truth, not just in name.
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