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January-February 1997

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Topics: What is the friendliest city for TGs? What is the Worst? Dumbest or funniest thing you've done while cross-dressed? How Did You Pick Your Name?


New Orleans by far is the friendliest city for CD, TV, TS, and TG. New Orleans is a place to let the good times rool and everyone enjoys life. It deserve it's name, Big Easy!

BarbNAw@aol.com


Portland is a superfine city in the lower Pearl District--it's like it's actually a gender gifted neighborhood. Many T+people are out during the day either eating at the Roxy Restaurant on Stark Street, down along the riverfront at Saturday Market, in the eight or so area T+friendly bars and nightclubs--there's even a couple T+friendly hotels. Lots of cool clothing boutiques ran by T+people, thrift stores, record shops and lots of nightlife--all within easy walking distance from one another. There are people that come down from Seattle regularly and even up from the Bay Area because they like the convenience of all the T+friendly businesses all so close together. It's worth the 260 mile one way drive due west from where I'm at just to spend an evening in the midst of it all. Many of my Sisters there are securely employed in the gender of their choice, so opportunities exist there too. Lots of safe havens, but the streets are safe for T+people too. Boise and Spokane have "gender districts" of sorts, too. The wortst town(s)? I don't know any. I get along just fine in many of the Eastern Oregon towns, like Stanfield, The Dalles, La Grande, and Baker City. I hear a lot about Seattle and San Francisco too and the T+folks from those cities in particular proudly laud their hometowns. I also hear a lot of good things about Toronto, and Sydney, Austrailia.

Jenny T. (NE Oregon)


WOW!!!! I went out dressed last night for the first time. What a rush. I dressed in My suntan pantyhose, a pair of blue satin panties, a white satin half slip, a satin print blouse and skirt. I also wore my 3 inch whitw pumps. I drove around town about two hours. I also drove about twenty miles on the Interstate. I didn't stop amd get out of the car, I guess I am still a coward. Sorry to take up the space with this but I just had to tell someone.

charlotte


What about the best way to get connected in a new community. So often I have moved around the country only to have to try and seek out a group with common interest for both support, social interaction, and most of all companionship.

A1fenian@aol.com


just a line to say hi to all my sisters, i have been hideing in the closet for nearly 32 years trying to be what people wanted me to be a man but i am a woman and have know that for years if your friend has a problem like my do not turn your back on him(her) till you have walked in there shoes it is a hard life but after 3o + years i am heading in the direction i want to go in , toward becomeing a complete woman i hope that other will take this advandge of information and services that are advable and make the move for there self's cindy

cindy


Hello there. I am new to this stuff. I have been dressing in private at home in my wifes clothes. I have always had a hard on and can't seem to control it. I would love to go out and see what other people think about me, but I am too afraid to go out because of it. Is there anyone that can help me with thisproblem? Natasha

Natasha


<IMG SRC="http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Lofts/4838/sam2.gif" ALIGN=TOP>Hi, I am Sarah Wall, a TS from Seattle WA area, currently residing in the cultural wastelands of Northwestern PA. I think that Seattle is the best possible place a TS or any other T could possibly be.
Seattle is the only city in the USA to specificallyinclude T's of all ilks in its anti-discrimination ordinance, and enforces it! There is a very fine gender center, Ingersoll Gender Center, which has all manner of programs and services for transgendered clients. There is a support group just about every night of the week.
At the present time, I am one of the organizers of Gemini Club, and orgnization which draws from Estern Ohio, Northwest Pennsylvania, and Southwestern New York. We do not exclude anyone because of any reason. Our membership, while predominately transgenered, is both male and female. It is both hetero and homosexual. We DO have high standards by which we accept members. We have outreach programs. We are active and interactive. If you live in our area and are interested in being a member of a real community, then drop us a line at gemini28@juno.com, or call us at (814)374-4819. We would love to meet you and disscuss membership in Gemini.
Click here for informaton about Gemini.

Sammye


Hi, new to the internet. Can anyone suggest a website for cross=dressers and TV's in South Florida? Would appreciate any answers. Thanks, Sheila (Dan)

adam


Hi! This actually belongs under last week's category (silliest/dumbest thing, etc). I dress most of the time while at home, always got to bed/wake up "fem". Well, today I was supposed to play golf with my dad; he was to meet me at the house. Anyway, while still dressed as a "pretty girl" I heard a knock on the door early this AM (over 1 hr before he was supposed to arrive!) Thought it must be him but couldn't dare answer the door! Quickly jumped out of bed, removed my "makeup" into the shower and transformed myself in a new record!! 10 minutes later I went out to greet him - was sitting in the driveway. He thought he'd just show up early, he said - not knowing what he just put me through. Anyway, the "adrenalin" rush must hav ehelped - shot the 2nd best round of my entire life!!! Maybe next time I'll play while "fem - (I haven't done yet!). A close call for sure.....

Donna Tracey


Hi,I've been introduced to cross dressing by my girlfriend, She says she wants to get in touch with my fem.side. I love it.
No doubt about it San Francisco is the friendliest to TG's and Salt Lake City is the worst.

Ashley C


Hi everyone, I'm Julie. I'm a thirtysomething TV who's looking for some "sisters" to exchange e-mail and maybe a little cyberchat. I'm a great flirt and would love to hear some of your stories. Maybe we could trade fashion/makeup tips.....how knows? Got to run for now. E-mail me when you can or look for me late night on the chat lines. Hugs and Kisses.

Julie


I travel all over and the best is my home town of Tampa Florida USA. Lots of great ts friendly clubs and restaurants and tons of drag shows. We also have some of the best looking queens in the world here - a lot of major female impersonation pagaent winners. Chicago is also a great place. The worst place - got to be honest - NOWHERE !! Being a queen ANYWHERE is fantastic - I have never had a problem and had nothing but fun anywhere I have been. It's a lot like sex - even the worst is "great" !!!!!

Debbie Allen


Melbourne, Victoria, Australia. Never had a single problem in any shop or hotel or bar. Even the dreaded 'school girl' problem doesn't seem to exist. Sure I get the occasional double take but I've never had a single proplem here.

Claire Stafford


It just has to be Provincetown on Cape Cod, Massachusetts. While vacationing there last summer, I had the extreme pleasure to meet several of the locals and a few of the visitors. Everything is so open here...and acceptable. It would be too easy to transition in such a gender friendly city!!! Kristina Kaye

Kristina Kaye


In my opinion the most friendly city to the TG community and individuals is Kansas City, Missouri. The reasons are purely selfish in nature, I live here and am part of the community. Kansas City is presently going through a human rights movement, targeting the entire population of the area. The Transgendered community is working hard to educate the general public on our way of life and that we are no threat to them. We oly want the same right to free expression as the "straight" population enjoys and takes for granted. Since coming out, I have taken on part of the education process by becoming the Staff Photographer, Writer and Sales Mfanager for the oldest and most widely publishe Gay/Lesbian Transgendered magazine in the Kansas City are and now the region. We are on the internet at WWW.currentnews.com, check us out. There is no "bad" city for the TG community, just those not enlightned. Patience, patience, patience. Love to all CJ

Cynthia Roberts


Hi, My name is Sean. I have been trying to get to one of the chat areas for quite some time now. I am ftm, pre-everything. I am trying to branch out, and find others like myself to chat with. I would specifically like to find a buddy, with similar interests. I really love to talk to the ladies too. I live in Maine, and have noticed that Maine is not even represented in the personals. I am in a relationship, and am happy with it. I am not looking for a relationship. Email me, I would love to chat with you. Thanks for your time. Sean Oh, I don't know what city is friendlier for Trans folk. I have always passed pretty well, and have never really been bothered anywhere I went. Chow

Sean


Now here's a fun tip for all of the girls. Read Cindy's column this month and then send that big mouthed Dr. Laura some mail. Here's some mail I sent the lovely princess. Dear Dr. Laura, Here is part of a post about Dr. Laura. I had read this in a very popular web page that (I understand) has at least 70,000 readers per month. This is the script of the post. < A few days ago the conservative Dr. Laura, who has <a locally broadcast show on KGO Radio (kgo810@aol.com) <took a call from a cross-dresser who had been married <for 15 years and dressing secretly. He was guilty <about this and wanted to know whether <he should tell his wife. <Dr. Laura's answer was no. Okay, her <opinion, that's talk radio. <But the reason she said he shouldn't tell his <wife was because his behavior was "deviant". Basically, she told <this transgender that he was a pervert who <shouldn't burden his family with his dirty <secret. <This person's radio show reaches 15 <million people. If you'd like to reach her <you can do so by going to the <KGO Radio mail page. Just as an aside, <Schlessinger's press clippings call her: <"witty, opinionated, intelligent, <wise, hip, humorous and understanding". <But since they've added her to the local talk <show lineup in the last month I've got <another description for her: mean. Now here's my comment: Why don't you get off that soap-box for a while. Frankly, I tuned you out months ago after hearing you spout off about ethics and morality. I feel as if your obviously inflexible attitudes regarding morality, are at best, archaic. They seem to be based in part on the old (and by today’s standards) irrelevant Judaic-Christian principles. These older guidelines, as any "Modern" intelligent person could tell you, are taken lightly today. THANK GOD! It was particularly entertaining to hear you gush about the (what you apparently think is good) morality of the Roman Catholic Church. I have spent the last 50 years or so as a so-called; 'devoted' Roman Catholic. Recently however, from my life long historical studies and personal experiences, I have come to see that the 'Roman Catholic Church" was and still remains to be the 2'nd most devastating organization ever known to mankind. But don't take my word for it, heck it out for yourself. Read about the church's "Spanish Inquisition" or the burning of entire female populations because of suspected "witch-craft". Read about Joan of Arc, who saved her entire country and then was rewarded by being burned at the stake. The church's official reason for her execution, by the way, was that she dressed like a man. Of course, the church finally came around to recognize their mistake in 1932 when they made her a saint. Does that seem right to your sense of morality Laura? No? Well then you should read about Galileo or the 'Carthaginians' or the "Holy Wars", etc... etc.... Millions of lives. Destroyed because of a limited and guarded attitude regarding, (you guessed it) 'morality'. You know! Morality; where one person tells you how to live and then 'they can CONTROL' your life, or simply just burn you at the stake. "Keep those tithes comin on in. Thankee Jezus!" Of course, when you find out that the church's main thrust has been 'faith and morals', (and then read what they did with it for the past several thousand years) you begin to see why many theologians have refereed to the writings of St. John, who described the "church" as the (and I quote) "hoar on the back of the beast, drunk on the sins of man" It is easy to see and as self-evident as the nose on your face that "morality', as we have come to know it, has been developed by the church as a means of controlling the so-called "faithful" for the advancement of the 'Clergy's' political and financial agenda. Check it out! See for yourself that even today, the church still holds the old tenant that the pope can speak infallibly, (without error) about two items. You guessed it: "faith and morals". Yes sir, don't let em out of line one bit. Keep on controlling them. Forget reality as long as your keeping that control, hey Laura? Come up with something new, like infallibility. ( a late 1800s invention). And after all, you can always justify your own sins, right? I mean it's easy to dream up some huge problems with anybody who goes against the prevailing tide of fanaticism. Sort of like the control you display with your radio show. For example: I called your show once to try to talk to you and to express another point of view about a discussion you were having with someone on the air. The girl who controlled 'who gets to talk to you' asked me what my problem was and I told her I didn't want to discuss "My problems". I was more concerned in offering you another viewpoint about an issue with one of your on-air callers. The girl told me that Dr. Laura wouldn't be interested in my opinion and that Dr. Laura was only interested in talking to people with problems. This immediately reminded me of the "Roman Catholic Church's" attitudes. 'If you don't attest to what I want to talk about than your not getting on the air.' What I want to know is: "do you consider someone who thinks a little differently than you do as a potential threat to your show? Does someone with a simple comment threaten your ratings? Or is it that by controlling every caller, demanding that they talk about 'their problems' is the sure way to make yourself look pretty good on the air. You know what I mean don't you Laura! Sure, tell em it's gonna be your-way or no-way at all. You bet, control em Laura. That way you can twist and turn these people with their serious problems to your way of thinking. Sure, it's easier that way isn't it? Heck, you can give em the old "Judaic Christian" ethics and you just know, nobody could ever fault you for that, could they? But here's the good news. As Bishop Spong, a noted theologian, wrote about in one of his recent books: "The truth is starting to trickle down to the people in the pews". US statistics say that the average catholic attends Mass only once every 3 weeks despite the church's moral judgment about weekly attendance. (That’s actually a Jewish invention) [Keep those offerings coming in!] There are new organizations springing up everywhere that are tired of the church's abuse. Tired of the control. Tired of confessing what the other guy thinks of as sin. Yes, the day of "relative absolutism" has arrived. We the people hold the power. And we are expressing that power Laura. We are not attending the old shows quite as much as we used to. We the people have have had enough of that old saw. We are simply not tuning in anymore. Just a little click of the dial is all it takes! Turn it off. Tune it out. We the people, like Jesus, Mohammed, Buddha, Moses, before us know the simple truth that the controllers don't want us to know. Namely: "that all of us are special and important." Our comments are just an expression of our ideas. That's the most important part Laura. God has already blessed those who march to a different tune. Those of us who dare to be alive, who dare to think for ourselves. Yes Laura that is the "truth, the way and the life" Oh, by the way, I realize that this comment might have seemed a little unfair to you; you not being "Catholic" and all, but then again I only mentioned the "Roman Catholic Church" as the 2'nd most devastating organization known to man. I mean, where do you think the Catholics got it from? And that’s about 6,000 years of control and abuse! Why don't you take all that money you have made and do something that would please us all. Change the format of you show. Let it be an open forum where anyone can express their ideas. Why not be the channel for good instead of fostering what Dr. Laura thinks on us all the time. Let's hear what the other guy thinks. Or as I've heard muttered in the pews "God, why don't they give us a break. Why don't they uplift us instead of putting us down!" Amen sister..... We’ll all be seeing you on judgment day.....

Francoise Deveraux


The best time I have ever had was in the Boston area. With the folks at the Tiffany Club and at IFGE close by it is hard not to have a great time in the Boston area. Nights at the Queen Mary have always been fun so Studio City is right up there .So is San Francisco if you go when ETVC is having something going on. Let's see the worst, Gees I hope I never find out. Toronto has never been much fun for me but i think that is just because I don't know anyone there and don't know where they go. If there is a support group in a city I like to make contact with them and visit with them when I travel which is very often. That is whay can make it fun for me/ If I know people there and they know their way around the experience will be a lot more fun.

Lisa C


Montreal is a pretty friendly city as is Vancouver. Generally the bigger the come the easier they are; if you pick the right areas of the city any metropolis can be friendly. Met pretty intolerant group in Butte, Montana once. I think the attitude and appearance of the TG herself will go along way to creating a 'friendly city'. Edie going to Ottawa, e-mail me and I can give you some details of where you can go. They also have a super support group called Gender Mosaic. (You are talking about Ottawa Canada, aren't you?)

Linda Jensen


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kelly8@webtv.net


Hi, I'm new here, just found you all this evening. You all seem so nice and sincere! There is more here then I can explore in on nite. Just wanted to say hi!

LoisAnn


TRAVELING TO OTTAWA IN APRIL. NEVER DREESED IN PUBLIC . WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO DO SO. WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHERE TO GO FOR HELP AND ALSO WHERE TO MEET OTHERS. THANKS EDIE

EDIE


I'm considering a move, and quite a few other changes as well. I'd like to know what all of you consider the most TG friendly city/town in America? Votes please. Great board,'Thank you for your support'. Roxanne

roxanne


I know I'm very lucky ! For the past few years I have been able to go to Rio (Brazil) for Carnival. While there I don't go in drag, I go as a girl @ big difference. Many parties, some small some huge. It a place where only the(real) women who are with me know, it's really sweet. How i got there is a long story, but it's a very big part of my lfe, once each year. Take care, be kind, and keep your powder dry. Love Tonsi

Tonsi


The dumbest thing I have ever done, cross-dressed or not, is pretend to be something that I'm not. I have followed the dream of someday passing as a woman. I think now that this intent is as deceitful, as crippling, and as confining as denial of the dream itself. If I can never wholeheartedly be a man, I can never completely be a woman. Moreover, there is no good reason why I should be one to the exclusion of the other. Above the demand that I live publicly as a man, and beyond the hope that I might someday live a greater part of my life as a woman, is the human need to be a whole person -- i.e., to be truly alive.

Kate


It's so nice to read all the human sides to your stories and it's beautiful to see the sense of humor in most of your situations. I have suffered so many years and have finally decided do what I should have done 20 years ago. My wife of 22 years has been aware for years but after 4 years of psychiatrist, 3 hospitalizations and 2 suicide attempts I think she and my family believe in my determination to be the girl I am outside as well as inside. I have a psychiatrist and endocrinologist who understand and I couldn't be happier. I just wish I could have started earlier. I have so much to do and it's a little confusing. Hugs, Kelley

Kelley



Confusing developments! I have always acknowledged myself as a heterosexual transvestite until recently. At 30 yrs of age I have begun to feel a need to be physically reassigned to that of a woman and I have noticed an ever increasing urge to have intimate relations with a man. My wife has always accepted a certain degree of crossdressing to where I can go out enfemme alone at night and we even have sex while I am completely enfemme. In the past she has indicated this has made for better sex but she is also worried about where this is going. What do I do.now.


On a dayoff , with my wife at work, I decided to get dressed up and go to the mall. While there I got thirsty and stopped in a fast food restaurant to get a Coke. On the way out I spotted my wife and her co-workers sitting at a booth by the only exit. She was there having lunch. I had no choice but to walk by hopefully undetected. My heart was racing as I walked by her table. I was relieved as she didn't even glance my way. From then on I only go to the "drive through"!

Jennifer


I came by Vickie honestly. It's the femme equivalent of my middle name. When I was little, my (numerous) aunts all called my Vickie and made over me. Ah, to be young again. On a more serious note, have any of you had any experience with Thermolase (Laser) hair removal? FYI, you gotta let the ol' beard grow to about a half inch (Yuko!) then they wax it, rub on a black creme, and zap your folicles with a laser. Bitchin' thing is, it's like super fast and not that expensive (about $2k via Dr.). After a couple of visits for the dormant stuff - ta da - the new you! Anyway, am considering it, but would love some actual feedback first. I bet others out there would too. Whaddaya say girls?

Vickie


The dumbest thing that I have done, which wasn't en femme, was when I went shopping at the local mall one day. I went into Fredricks of Hollywood to buy a wonder-bra. I was really nervous, and had never shopped for Tiffany alone before. I knew a sales lady would approach me, which made me even more nervous. I kept telling myself to play it cool, and act like I knew what I was doing. Well, when she came over, I told her that I was looking for a wonder-bra. She then asked, "is it for you?" I froze. The only thing I could think of, was to tell her that it was a gag gift for my girl friend. I think, all along, she knew it was for me. But she didn't say anything, and I even got a free catalogue!

Tiffany


Recently on a day off, with my wife at work, I decided to get dressed up and go to the mall. I had fun trying on clothes.I got thirsty so I went into a fast food restaurant and got a diet coke. On the way out I spotted my wife with her co-workers sitting at the table by the exit. I had no choice but to walk by their table to exit the place. My heart was racing. I was relieved when i got out of there. Freom then on if I'm out as "Jennifer" and I get thirsty I'll go through the "drive through"!

Jennifer


Hi all. I am an aspiring transgenderist from San Diego, CA and want to know if there are any TG's in the area to help me get my wig, er, feet wet. Please help me!! Signed, Miss Stacy Lacy

Miss Stacy


Hi! I'll try to make this brief. I'm a (female) college student at a small college in Colorado. I recently wrote a play which is going to be produced here on campus in April. One of the characters is a cross-dresser. I wrote the character with the intention of breaking the stereotype that all cross-dressers are "flaming homosexuals." However, the guy playing the part refuses to break out of the stereotype. He can't understand why a "normal" (his word) guy would want to dress in drag. Any ideas-insights on what I can tell this guy? PLEASE! I'm losing it trying to deal with him!!

Karin


I really enjoy cross dressing and I want to tell my wife. I would love to go out with her while I'm dressed up. I dont want to scare her off. I'm straight and only want her. What can I do?

Kevin


Problem.. Married X 7yrs with 2 infant children. I am age 30. I've always identified myself as a heterosexual transvestite until recently. The urge to dress is stronger and a need to become physically changed is developing. My wife has been understanding to a degree and come a long way since we first met but she is getting concerned this is going too far. I want to be a woman and I believe she knows it deep inside. Is it possible I am just getting out of control with my sexual fetish or are my recent sexual urges towards men an indicator of a 'change' in me. Profoundly confused and not wanting to lose a wife that I love dearly....Lisa. men an i

Lisa


I have had several names in the past, such as Tina, and Alexis. I chose Tiffany because I think it's a very pretty name. "T" is also my first initial. Now if I can only think of a middle name that starts with "J". If anyone knows one that would really sound nice with Tiffany, please let me know. Maybe I will pick up a book of names this weekend and look through it. I guees for now Tiffany will have to do. I also want to wish everyone the Best of everything in '97. Let's all go out and have the time of our lives! Love,

Tiffany


Hi, I'm new here, just found you all this evening. You all seem so nice and sincere! There is more here then I can explore in on nite. Just wanted to say hi!

LoisAnn


Hi Girls! My name is Fifi for I am not a man nor yet a woman; this will change come a few years down the road.Now for the dumbest thing I have done while dressed is to try on a ballet outfit of my cousins while on vacation up north and being caught by my cousin herself in their house. Well at the time I was petrified but it soon became a habit that now is part of my normal offworking life. I can't wait to get rid of my male wardrode and live fulltime as a woman.

Love & Kisses

Fifi


I've had many funny things happen while crossdressed, but this one was potentially the worst. I was driving my '94 Taurus very fast on I75/71 near Covington, KY, when the engine cut out, heading for a support group meeting in Cincinnati. It was a warm day, and I was wearing a nice teal short sleeved dress, black pumps, had hair, nails, and makeup done right. I am a skillful mechanic, and I proceeded to get out, raise the hood, and look for the loose electrical harness that caused the problem. What was priceless was the look I got from the passenger of an 18-wheeler; he hung out of the cab gawking at me as he went by; you could see the change in expression on his face as he went from gawking at the pretty girl with car trouble to realizing that I wasn't quite what he thought I was originally. It was the same look that Freddie Krueger's victims had....

Anne Casebeer


I was shopping for hose but couldn't find what I wanted, the thigh high hose suitable for a garter belt. So, I asked a sales lady for help. She took me to the rack and pointed out the "stretch" hose. Then she asked what shade I wanted. She continued, we have black, white, natural and a "brave bitch", which do you want??" I was shocked and asked her to repeat what she said. Then I clearly heard, "Beige Bisque" and not "Brave Bitch". I said to her "You don't know me well enough to call me that, even if it is true." With that we both had a riot of laughter while other store customers wonder what in the world those two found so funny in the hoserie department. If they only knew!!

Leslee


The dumbest thing was to get arrested DWI en femme. rule don't Drink and drive!!!!!

Phyllis


Dear Desperate Mother, I suggest you check in your area to see if there is a good gender clinic. Your son may or may not be transgendered. A diagnosis should be peroformed by a (or a team of) competent professional(s). A source of such resoureces can be found in TG Forum's listing of support organizations or in "Transgendered" magazine, a publication devoted to the transgendered. Sallyanne Ofner

Sallyanne


I have this strange habit of using my boy name when using my male voice and it can lead to some very embarrassing moments. Like the time I went to the Cafe where the local T* community meets every Friday. I've been hanging out (in drab) with all these people for a couple of months when I finally got home early enough to go in femme. I arrive at the Cafe feeling quite pretty and feminine, locate my group of friends and sit down. There is a new person with us today and someone singing and playing guitar up on the little stage. Since my femme voice is still too soft to be heard in noisy places, I have to switch back to my male voice to introduce myself. Of course, the song ends and the Cafe hits that dead quiet spot before the applause starts just as I boom out "Hi I'm (my boy name)" for the entire place to hear. I needn't have worn any blusher that night I can tell you.

Marilyn Lee


Another dumb one when I was living in the UK. My SO and I used to play games, and I worked a late shift. I got changed in work. Put my make up on, and wore a really short mini skirt, suspender belt (Garter belt to you US people) and 4" heels.

I used to drive a late 1960's Triumph Herald. As I was driving home, one of the suspenders came off. I was trying to put it back on when I hit the curb, spun the car around and ended up pointing the wrong way. The engine was still running, So I tried to move the car. Nothing. I got out - a car and a motor cycle had stopped. One wheel was collapsed under the car! As soone as the witness' worked out I was OK - and what I was, there was no lift home available. I had to walk 4 miles home in 4" heels! My SO was frantic with worry.

Moral is - don't fix your suspenders when driving a car.

No - I'm not blonde

Siobhan


Well, where do I start? I guess you live and learn, the amazing thing is that I keep learning!

Recently, I was dressed en-femme in a local super market in Sydney, and two omen came in who know me really well. They used to be friends of mine, but I am mortal enemies with one of them now. We have lots of mutual friends - and most of them don't know about Siobhan (I'm trying to manage my coming out). She'd have loved to have an opportunity to embarass me. So there I was stood at the meat counter when I saw them. What was I supposed to do - just leaving and bolting wouldn't work as it would make me obvious. So I stood there - they walked straight past me - then I left. I went straight to the check out counter and was passing the food through when they came and stood at the end of MY queue. Argh - almost died! They never recognised me - thank god!

Siobhan


Hi ladies! Dawn here. Dumbest? Well early on in my femme life I was travelling and was in South Bend, IN overnight. I wanted to go out however I had a tight skirt and only a garter belt(with nylons) and fairly loose panties so that a "lump" kind of stood out in front. To solve that problem I took a nylon stocking, looped it over my penis, ran it through my legs and back around my waist and tied it in front of me. I then went out walking for about an hour. When I got back to my room I was extremely sore and raw from that stocking rubbing back and forth. Won't do that again. More recently, in trying to achieve cleavage, I pulled forward what little I have and used adhesive tape to hold my "breasts" together. I left the tape on for about four hours. When I removed it I felt tender but that didn't compare to what I felt when I showered and the water hit my raw skin. I still have the scars from that stupid human trick. I've learned a little over the years but you never do know what can happen next. Love and hugs, Dawn

Dawn R.


Upon returning from one of my very first excursions out en femme I stepped out of my car at our apartment complex spilling the entrie contents of my purse over the pavement. I quickly tried to gather everything back up before anyone noticed me or came to my aid. It's tough to retrieve your mascarea with any grace , which had rolled underneath another car, while in heels and a short skirt. I guess they put zippers and clasps on purses for a reason and I use mine now!

Doreen


I went out one evening a long time ago wearing a tight dress and accepted a dance with some guy. As he held me tighter all of a sudden one of my boobs "burst" with the water inside a 'balloon'. Here I am in front of a lot of people and water is dribbling down from under my dress. I quickly made an exit and never again used "water boobs".

Debbie Allen


I suppose the dumbest thing I ever done, being very new and inexperienced with the transgender world, Was when I was in my early Pre-teen years. I was driving the grain truck at harvest time. A very boring job for a young man of 10 or 11. I found an old pink nightgown in the truck, that somebody had been using for a rag. I decided to try it on. I thought I had time before the combine came up and dumped the load of grain into the truck. Which I would then drive to the grainery, and unload. I slipped out of my cloths, and naked, there in the wheat field, slipped into the night-gown. But the combine was closer than I thought, and before I knew it, the hired man was yelling at me to pull into the field to empty his hopper. I was tearing at the very pink ,long gown, in an attempt to get it off before the combine pulled up to the truck.

But I was not fast enough. He pulled up to the truck, and I was just getting the little girlie nighty off. He yelled at me a couple times, but I stay'd as much out of sight, till I could get my clothes back on. It isn't much of a story, but It has to qualify as one of the most frightening things that had ever happened to me. I vow'd never to be so dumb again. And to never,ever wear another piece of girl's cloths. But never say never Girls' Debbiee.


Hi all.. Anyone here from the SF Bay area? I'm a 'learning' crossdresser who needs more opportunities to dress. I'm looking for 'changeawy' places..where I can go and get the opportunity to dress, get help with make up etc. Any advice MUCH appreciated, please feel free to email me. Rachel

Rachel


Stupidest thing I've done is probably cake about 5 layers of blush on my cheeks before going out. My cheeks looked like cherries on a cheesecake.

Lisa

lisacd4fun


Dumbest thing? Mine may take the cake. Years ago, when my first marriage had failed and I was finally admitting that I could not deny myself, I was still wearing a beard. I started to acquire a wardrobe, and sometimes on winter nights i would go out, hiding my hairy face by wrapping a scarf around it.

Emily Alford


How about these dumb things: Walking in a park when a branch catches and holds my wig. or Neglecting to take off all my mascara and expecting my teenage stepdaughters to not notice. or In the early days leaving my hotel room en femme without the key only to hear the door lock behind me. or dressed en femme taking some clothes to try on only to find the room was a communal one. Oh well it was empty so I went ahead with the try on. One outfit wouldn't come off without dislodging my wig. Just as I was taking it off in walked two young ladies - I thought I was in deep doo doo, but they said nothing.

Linda Jensen


Several years ago I was at a birthday party en femme. It was the first time this group had seen Larissa and I was quite the topic of conversation. During the party someone suggested we all go to a local club to show off Larissa. I was soon convinced. Once there, the one who conviced me to go dragged me out on the dance floor. So there I was dancing with the reigning Miss North Dakota.

Larissa


Dumbest thing was trying to drive with high heels on the first time I went out to a support group meeting. I didn/t know what I was in for (driving with no shoes) and hadn/t taken shoes without a three inch heel. Haven't done that again <grin>.

Barbara


Hello to every one!!. I´m still not rejected because I´m still in the closet, but I believe if I tell to some one about Maritza, I´ll be rejected. If in USA, Canada or Europe some times girls like us are rejected, imagine how this things are considered in Mexico!!! which it´s society is a bit more conservative that USA, Canada or Europe. But any way I´m verry happy of beeing a girl!!!.

To Susana from Mexico:

Susy, no se si me hayas mandado e-mails, pero este mensaje en este site es para decirte que el hotmail no esta funcionando bien y llevo dias tratando de accesar a dicho site para ver que mensajes me han llegado. Por favor informame por este medio si te pasa lo mismo que a mi.

Maritza


correction

Janelle


My wife was the first to learn but didn't really reject me although there has been some tough times since.

Janelle


It sadens me to her of all the rejection that members of the TG community have faced. I have told only my sister, who was totally accepting (and it turned out that her first husband was a CD) and my girlfriend, because I didn't want to get into a long-term relationship with this secret. She was and is totally accepting and we go out all the time as girls. My sister was pleased to know that she had another sister (our other sister is a flake). Next I tell my mother and I expect that will go over fine also. I assume that one day I'll face rejection, but have been grateful for the love I've encountered so far! Hugs...Revy.

Revana


Two people rejected me after I told them that I was T'. Both were older men of about 65 to 70 years old. One was a President of a National Organization and a Vice President of a firm who I had known for many years. His advice was to "grin and bear it but DON'T come out" after I asked him his opinion on coming out. The second was in a similar vein. Both seem to feel that this was personal decison to be T' and not something that I have endured all my life. On the other hand, I have had many people hug me after I told them I was T'. Most have been very good to me and it seems not to have made a difference.

(G)Wynne


Anybody out there know of a GOOD endocrinologist in the SF Bay area? Thanks,

Vickie


I met a lady through mutual friends. She was a successful business woman, very dynamic, very vivacious, running her own company. We got together on a regular basis and eventually she noticed and asked why I shaved the hair from my body, including the arms. "I'm a cross dresser". "O.K, that's all right". The following Saturday, we wined and dined and, after a long chat informed me that she liked my friendship but it couldn't go anywhere because what I did was anti-social and could cause problems with her friends and her faith, (she is Jewish).

She had two previous relationships, an ex-husband who had treated her like a second rate person, abusing her mentally, and another, in which, although the sex was 'wonderfull', she received both mental and physical abuse. But I was socially unacceptable! Yours sincerely, Claire Stafford

Claire


Regarding the debate over removing GID from the DSM: Dr. Roberts states that almost all insurance plans cover counseling and prescriptions for hormones. I disagree. All the plans offered by my well-known employer specifically exclude ANY services related to "sexual transformations". Therefore, since everything will be coming out of my own purse, I RESENT having to spend thousands convincing some therapist that I know what I'm doing. I've ALWAYS known what I am and what I want. I'm not crazy, just transgendered!

Stephanie


A close friend who is F2M has had several expereinces of rejection from lesbians, including the coordinator of a local Gay support org when he tried to get support! There is more need for communication with each other, seems to be lack of understanding about how we TG folks are different. We, gay and TG, all seem to share the life long struggle with cultrual sex oppression. In this we all have a common need for unity to help more in the culture become less fearful of diversity. Actually, we need to help the planet become softer, more playful and kinder, gays, TG's and straights alike.

Annie


I had a wonderful experience this morning. The night before, my wife and I made love as usual and she wore some lingerie (garter belt and stockings). This morning, we were playing around in bed and she put one of her stockings on me. Of course I was turned on by this, and I think she was too. We just kind of joked about it, but I think this was a big step in introducing my secret side to her. I mean, when she put the stocking on me, I told her that I felt sexy and she agreed.

Shelly


Yes, it seems like whenever you do tell some people they reject you and then if you don't tell people because you think it's none of their business they reject also. I have been full-time for 5 yrs.

Rhonda Pearson


THIS IS TO LARISSA, I TO AM MARRIED AND HAVE A STRONG URGE TO DRESS.I'VE BEEN OUT IN PUBLIC AS WELL AS DRESSING UP AT HALLOWEEN. MY QUESTION IS, HOW DID YOUR WIFE GUESS? DID SHE CATCH YOU DRESSED? OR FIND YOUR OUTFITS? I DONT THINK MY WIFE KNOWS,BUT WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF IM MISSING ANY SIGNS OF HER KNOWING, THANKS, SUSAN

BNH RAISIN@AOL.COM


I'm a hetrosexual 19 years old female and have been post-op for two years. I attended my junior and senior years of high school in "fem". When I was transitioning, I transferred to a different highschool, where know one knew of my medical history. I've since hid my past fairly well, with now only my parents and relatives knowing.

Kim


The only person I've told about my transgenderism (who was not transgendered themselves) has been my spouse. I told her years before we got married, so she married me with full knowledge of what I am.

Christy Kay


Although nearly everyone I have told has accepted me, the one I needed most did not, my ex. I was one of those dreamers who believed the urges would magically disappear when I got married, so I didn't tell her. The urge to crossdress got worse and I was very envious of my wife. I wanted all the things she had and wanted to do all the things she was allowed to do. I was in hell. I didn't tell her outright but she guessed pretty quickly. We were never able to discuss it rationally, only through shouting or tears and hurt. We stayed together in that nightmare untill our two children were raised and then she left. In a way it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was finally free to discover myself. I should have left long ago, but that's yesterday and yesterdays gone. Larissa

Larissa


(In reply to last week's topic:) I feel we need to make as many alliances as we can and as will have us! The fact of the matter is, the vast majority of the ignorant population out there ALREADY associates us with the gay/lesbian community. I feel it would be in our best interests to go ahead and make whatever alliances we can in that regard, if they are, like they seem to be becoming, open to having us. We can ALL benefit from the situation: They from our diversity and us from their shear numbers and established clout.

Sheri Gwen Evans


KEOL in LaGrande I lost your E-mail address. Please send it to me. Thanks

Alice


Does anyone have suggestions of friendly places for someone traveling to Portland OR. Thanks Alice

Alice


Oh My God, Yes! More so than ever when trying to find a man. Why do you think we post-op TS's and TS's in general pair up with each other??? My partner had a date tell her "I don't want you anymore, I found a real woman!" My one and only date was like dating my brother. These are men who knew ahead of time "what" we were. I've heard some real horro stories of dates TS's went on where the man didn't know. A few came within an inch of losing their lives. Where are the decent caring men? It's a myth they exist. Don't fool yourselves unless you're willing to accept the attention of "tranny" lovers, such as they come.

Kelly Ann Stiles


This is for Alaina Hardie. I tried your e-mail link, but got the Rocky Horror web site. I just want to compliment you on the two transition pieces you've written so far. You sound incredibly genuinely happy--no sad stories, no misery. Your writing is wonderfully fresh and young. I hope things are as good for you as they sound, and that they stay that way.

Emily Alford


Hi, I am interested in meeting other ladies in the mid michigan area for long term relationship and friendship. I am also interested in dressing and have some experience. I am blond, blue eyes, athletic build and can meet or date as a male also. All those interested or that travel this way please write.

Vicki


This is to Renee, the one that was scared about his wife finding out. I have exactly the same feelings. I want so bad to tell my wife what I do in secret. I would really like to talk to you some more about this. Maybe we could lean on each other for support. My E-mail does not work, but maybe we could contact each other through some other means. Bye for now, and keep your strength in knowing that you are not alone in your situation.

Shelly


Have a good sister in Hampton Roads who is looking for a way to Europe or Sydney, Australia. She's really stunning and is very happy the way she was born. She is so tired of this "small town" mindset and at 24, really wants to make something of herself. I thought there was an entertainment forum called "Les Girls" in the Kings Cross section of Sydney, that showcased some beautiful girls. She's sweet, stunning and something special. Sincerest hugs and kisses, Bobbi

Bobbi


Dear TG community, I need information and insight on how to handle my son's gender problem. Facts: He is 14,says he is attracted to males but wants to be a girl and dress as a girl. He wants to start taking hormones so that the male in him does not develop. He has gotten into a group of other gay boys who take him to gay clubs. He says he does not want to stay home or go to school unless he is allowed to dress the way he wants. Is he gay or TG? And how can I help ? He already knows I love him. Desperate mother

mbatia@mindspring.com


I feel that we should ally ourselves with every group that advocates freedom of expression and lifestyle whether it be with regard to sexual orientation or not. The more pressing problem to me is how heterosexual transvestites are even going to become visible let alone ally themselves with another group. One benefit of being a gay tv is that one is already categorized by society and therefore any deviant behavior is to be expected. For a hetero tv, who spends his whole life hiding his alter ego and living in dread of discovery, the willingness to "come out" is not altogether strong. I am now willing to try to be more open about my transgenderism. The time is ripe to begin to desensitize society where individual dress is concerned. My wife commented that if more women knew that most tvs ADORE women then their would probably be more acceptance among females. As for the louts who would ridicule us, I'm sure there are plenty of pro football players out there who love too dress up. That should confuse the beer swillers long enough to where they are contemplating purchasing themselves some lingerie.

Tonya


I believe we need to have unity and diversity in our Lavender Community. We bring a strength like no other to the this community. Please put aside differences and join together with our fellow sisters & brothers. It would be a disservice to to the Trans Comm. to isolate itself. We have been that way already and where did it get us??? We came forward and now are a force to be reckoned!!!!!

Renee


I think that to be eccepted,one should thourghly accept and love ones self first. Then the balance and dynamic self love, precedes ones looks. And the ability to give this love even to the ones who have distaste and or hatreds against you puts them beneath you .

steph


I think that we certainly need to be sensitive to the gay/ lesbian/bi communities. They surely feel the same pressures from main stream society that the T* community feels. As far as having an alliance? Well I feel that we do share something in common. We are different from the mainstream, and showing respect for each other would only strengthen our perception by society. But I guess we could say that about any minority... right? I mean, weather gay,lesbian,bi,black,white,asian, we're people JUST TRYIN' TO HAVE FUN while we are here. I respect the G/L/B community because they have the same struggles of acceptance that we do in the T* community.

Heidi J


My prayers answered! I post regularly on a baseball talk list and have been hunting the net for months to find one where I could talk to other TS. I think we can and should be allies the lesbigay community. All queer folk need to stick together since we all face the same societal pressures. If you are out, educate. Being true to oneself is not a lifestyle. I picked Marilyn Lee because Mariyln was the lead female in a book I wrote in serial form to my wife while I was dating her. Lee was the last girl who didn't expect me to be a guy. (I was 12)

Marilyn Lee


Do we need close alliances with the Gay/Lesbian/Bi community to progress? Only as much as we need close alliances with the hetero community or any other community.

Dove


In today's (2-10-97) New York Times, there is an article about a Serbian TV who is a fortune teller. "Kleo Patra" is a TV on TV, with her own television show. She is said to be rather outlandish and, for the interview, wears a leopard-skin cape. She offers "hope" to clients with rosey views of the future. On the other hand, she talks down the brave protesters in the streets, saying they are "mixed up in blackmagic." FYI

Sally Nelson


We all must learn tolerance. we all judge people we must learn to be more accepting of everyone, Gay, Bi, Straight, CD, TV, TS, it shouldn't matter what a person is but who they are. we need to find who they are and learn acceptance.

Phyllis


We are all one together, gay, straight,TS, TV, CD. etc. We must learn to accept all. That is how we can help each other. We as a group are quite divers, some are just dressing, some live the part full time. Does it really matter what our sexual preferences are. For our community to be strong, we need to recognize and be ready to support our gay brothers and sisters. I do agree that we sould take a quite approach and slowly be accepted by the gay and straight community.

Terrianne


Kathy , you asked the name of the band leader that was identified as a woman after fe passed away. That was no woman no matter what the genitals were shouting. That was the man Billy Tipton. He toured with two other folks as the Billy Tipton Trio I beleive. It is a marvelous story and I have not heard all of it. Woman or not, he was the man as far as I'm concerned.

Lisa C


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In my area Gay Pride Day grew annually and was gradually accepted by the general public. However when the name was changed to Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Day it became a joke. We need to work with gay groups but I advise keeping our distance. The common factor that unites gays is their sexual orientation which suggests a sexual attraction to each other. We're different. I like a lot of transgender people but I don't want to go to bed with them. Don't we run a risk of being tarred with the same brush by associating too closely in the public mind with groups that owe their existence to their common sexual preference.

Linda Jensen


There are very few clubs catering exclusively to the Transgendered. Even in Southern California, the flagship of these venues the Queen Mary now has male strippers and is attracting more Gay customers. I personally feel very welcome at the local Lesbian bars and clubs. I really don’t care what the “official” position of organized groups is on this. I steer my own individual course. Regarding last weeks issue; I try to strengthen our community by helping one person at a time to see beyond the makeup and dress. To help them see that we are all unique, and usually very nice individuals. Marianne

Marianne


I have received the following messsage through my email. For those of us old enough to recall, the telephone companies used to charge a very high premium for such lines. The services offered now are not data quality but voice quality. I don't really want to pay additional fees for my telephone services simply because I use the internet or other data services, do you? This matter is quite serious and could cost us all a lot of money. Sallyanne Ofner >Date: 97-02-05 17:05:32 EST >>I've read this from a couple of sources, so I thought I would pass it on. >> >>Hi from Tim (Badge) on IRC Cops I am writing you this to inform you of a very important matter currently under review by the FCC. Your local telephone company has filed a proposal with the FCC to impose per minute charges for your internet service. They contend that your usage has or will hinder the operation of the telephone network. It is my belief that internet usage will diminish if users were required to pay additional per minute charges. >>The FCC has created an email box for your comments, responses must be received by February 13, 1997. Send your comments to isp@fcc.gov and tell them what you think. Every phone company is in on this one, and they are trying to sneak it in just under the wire for litigation. Let everyone you know here this one. >>Get the e-mail address to everyone you can think of. >> >>isp@fcc.gov >> >>Please forward this email to all your friends on the internet so all our voices may be heard! >> >>Jim Cashatt

Sallyanne


It's not a question of what I can, its what I am doing. Lots, I am doing a lot of outreach to other factions of the Lavender Community. Represting and insuring trans-inclusion.

Renee White



My name is Shinobu, I live in Tokyo. I'm planning to go to Honolulu at the beginning of March. I'd appreciate it if someone would give me tips about the shops in the city that deal in items for cross-dressing. Their names, phone numbers, locations, etc. Thank you.

Shinobu


I'm sure this is the wrong address to be seeking the info I'm in search of... But, I'll try anything once.. I once saw a documentary about a musician from the Big Band Era who upon his death..it was discovered that he was really a she.. Even his wife didn't know... I can't remember the name, but I believe his first name was Billy.. I think there is a book written about his lonely souls life, and I would very much like to learn more about him. Please pass the word around and see if anyone out there in cyberland has any info that would be helpful to me in rediscovering this interesting life story.. Thanks, Kathy

Kathy


I think we need alliances with anyone who will accept us. It's a lonely world out there, I know, I just came out and lost 90% of my freinds and all of my family. To any of you who have not come out yet, make sure you know what you're doing, things can get real tough real quick, especialy if you live with your parents still. Best wishes to all, Jessica

Jessica


Gee, that's a tuff question. But, I would say no! Unfortunetly I work on a male oriented job. When they see a transgendered person on one of those talking head shows right away they are considered faggots and queers and all that. So I would say no.

Debra


Hey out there. Been on 'Es' for six years, but now my whole thing is like going on inside. I mean, I like wear nice things you know, but androgynous. I like DO NOT CARE about dressing up any more. Maybe it's the 'mones. I read about all you chickies like getting dolled to the max and think I'm missing out, but I just cannot bring myself to do it. I dunno, maybe I'm scared. I saw a repeat episode of News Radio a couple of weeks ago and this guy Dave is like outfitted for Halloween in a black sheath. God, does he look hot!. Now if I looked like that I'd go full time, no lie. But here's this straight dude who probably wishes he were 6'1" and buff. Life is not fair. Bye kids. Stuck in First in California.

Vickie


Here's another little venture I had the opportunity to observe the true feelings people have towards us. I have worked in and on political movements down here in San Diego with such groups as PFLAG, UCSD GLBT steering committee, TSMenace So. Cal., and other political organizations large and small, local and nation wide. My experience is it has all been for not. We can have our flag hanging next to the rainbow colors but we will never be accepted into their (gay) world, nor should we. Why do we need them? Why should they accept us. Unless you're gay, why? As a post-op TS I'm into straight relationships with men or lesbian with another post-op TS. And with my post-op TS lover we have the lesbian community to back us, as if we need it. With my man we are a hetro couple. Do I need the gays then? No. So you tell me why the transgendered need the gays and what can they do for us. What can we do for them? We are too ecletic for anyone's taste.

Kelly Ann Stiles


It helps, and than again it sometimes hinders us to be associated with the Gay/Lesbian community but, at this juncture it is a necessary part of our growth process. The community is much less threatening and offers an atmosphere that allows us "girls" a chance to spread our wings in a "safe" environment. An example of a safe environment is Kansas City. Check us out at http://lobokc.com/cur_news. Feedback on this question of need is always welcome and we should continue to evaluate the "need" as we are innvolved in the gay/lesbian community. Stay safe. Love to all CJ

Cynthia Roberts


I've often wondered wheter my system administrator can tell what newsgroups I log into. Well, as it turns out, they can. Here is a discussion on how your newsgroup usage can be tracked.

http://www.webmonkey.com/webmonkey/geektalk/97/05/index4a.html

This may be especially of interest to sisters on company web servers.
Play safe!

sally


It's not a question of what I can, its what I am doing. Lots, I am doing a lot of outreach to other factions of the Lavender Community. Represting and insuring trans-inclusion.

Renee White



My name is Shinobu, I live in Tokyo. I'm planning to go to Honolulu at the beginning of March. I'd appreciate it if someone would give me tips about the shops in the city that deal in items for cross-dressing. Their names, phone numbers, locations, etc. Thank you.

Shinobu


I'm sure this is the wrong address to be seeking the info I'm in search of... But, I'll try anything once.. I once saw a documentary about a musician from the Big Band Era who upon his death..it was discovered that he was really a she.. Even his wife didn't know... I can't remember the name, but I believe his first name was Billy.. I think there is a book written about his lonely souls life, and I would very much like to learn more about him. Please pass the word around and see if anyone out there in cyberland has any info that would be helpful to me in rediscovering this interesting life story.. Thanks, Kathy

Kathy


I think we need alliances with anyone who will accept us. It's a lonely world out there, I know, I just came out and lost 90% of my freinds and all of my family. To any of you who have not come out yet, make sure you know what you're doing, things can get real tough real quick, especialy if you live with your parents still. Best wishes to all, Jessica

Jessica


Gee, that's a tuff question. But, I would say no! Unfortunetly I work on a male oriented job. When they see a transgendered person on one of those talking head shows right away they are considered faggots and queers and all that. So I would say no.

Debra


Hey out there. Been on 'Es' for six years, but now my whole thing is like going on inside. I mean, I like wear nice things you know, but androgynous. I like DO NOT CARE about dressing up any more. Maybe it's the 'mones. I read about all you chickies like getting dolled to the max and think I'm missing out, but I just cannot bring myself to do it. I dunno, maybe I'm scared. I saw a repeat episode of News Radio a couple of weeks ago and this guy Dave is like outfitted for Halloween in a black sheath. God, does he look hot!. Now if I looked like that I'd go full time, no lie. But here's this straight dude who probably wishes he were 6'1" and buff. Life is not fair. Bye kids. Stuck in First in California.

Vickie



I currently use Stephanie simply because it's the femme equivalent of my male name. However, when I retire in a few years and go full-time, it will be as Karen in honor of 3 Karen's whom I love and/or admire: my younger sister, who died at birth; a GG at work who has been very supportive; and last, but certainly not least, Karen (Kerri) Edwards, whose site has provided me with much entertainment, information, and wisdom.

steph843@erols.com


My first name is a softer variant of dancer/actress Cyd Charysse's last name. My last name is the name of both a street and hotel in Chicago. Originally, "Cherysse St. Claire" was a character in one of my earlier short stories. There was something about the name, the SOUND of the name, that struck a resonant chord in my mind. After I had finished the story, I decided the name was just too good to retire to some desk drawer, to be forgotten.

Cherysse St. Claire


It's actually a variation of my real name (RICK). I also happen to like the name. All of my girlfriends think it is a nice name too. LUV....

RIKKI


It took me five years to settle on my femme name. I had experimented with a variety of others, Kathy, Sharon, Gina, and so on. A few months ago I considered taking the name Catherine for keeps, simply just to pick a name and stick with it. But I thought the spelling was so ordinary and too long anyhow. But then something wonderful happened. Star Trek: Voyager and Capt. Kathryn Janeway made their debuts (I'm a Trekkie also!). I thought she was so cool that I decided to make her first name mine as well! The middle and last names just came to me out of the blue though. Go figure!

Kathryn Elizabeth James


Who is out in the heart-felt forsty land.

john


Hi. That was my secret name for the gurl I loved for years. Now it's mine. I am extremely shy and gentle now and i literally changed overnite. Not a problem with the transition. I really wonder how many of us found the feminine thingy after living hard lives? Understanding that is my only question. My ex-military, punk and biker buddies just say I'm easier to get along with and family says the same thing. So I am really ME now. She is sweet and I love her. This is a very good question. Funny thing, as a guy I was totally overlooked now I get hit on, but I have lost all aggression. Guess I have to learn all over again. It's flattering, but being told yu have beautiful eyes eyes and having your ID questioned at a bank while trying to get get a card is sooo strange (specially by a woman). Seems all my experiences ar funny (yes hehehehe) like that. I'm getting afraid to go out! CrissaLyn

CrissaLyn


At first, I used the name LINDA, I had asked my mother one day what I would have been called if I had been born a girl, ( I think she thought it was for a school project ). Sapphire, came from playing the AD&D Role Playing game. I created female personas about half of the time. Sapphire, the Druid was one of my favorate! WHen I went on-line many years ago, I was asked by a gaming friend to use the Sapphire charactor in an on-line game, he said he did'nt have enought girls! SURE! I said...if that's what you want ( he had NO idea!)...so the on-line sapphire was born! Today, my wife would rather I use Sapphire for my Femne name, because she says that LINDA is "too real"...go figure!

Sapphire


As this is the first time I have seen these pages please let me answer two questions.As a youth of about 8 I had been trying on my sister's clothes in secret for some time when I fell asleep in my bed with her slip , bra , and panties on. Next thing I knew I was getting "the lecture" from my father. Oh how I wanted to say YES! when he asked if he should buy me clothes like these to wear to school.My name I choose after my wife found out and I finally felt the need to give a real part of me her own identity.Rachel is not just what I do but who I am.Thanks for listening and: Be Well Rachel L.

Rachel L.


When I dress I transform myself into a beautiful and elegant woman. I wanted a name that was also elegant.

Victoria


Question? I NEED TO SEARCH FOR AN OLD FRIEND-NEED TO KNOW WHERE TO GO FOR INFO

jerilin@


yMy full name is Natalie Attired Which Comes From "Car Talk" the PBS Radio program

Natalie


I had a girl friend by that name and one day I decided I'd rather BE her than date her ! LOL Terricina

Terricina


Well for years I used modified forms of my birth name, but I never felt right about the results. Then I was asked if my wife and I had a baby girl what would we call Her? Well I had that name figured out a long time ago and since my wife wanted to include part of her mom's name for our virtual daughter, I decided that I was being born as a woman so I should have the name I chose for my baby girl. It is a long and Hyphenated affair but it makes me feel right. Plus there are a lot of nick names I like that can be derived. My name is Anne-Christine Elise, but just call me anne. Bye for now; love, Anne

Anne


I have a cousin by the same name, and have always thought it was a pretty name. I have used it now for a little less than 2 years, and I think it fits my fem-self very well.

Pamala


Salli is my Fem name after the girl in a Lou Reed Song. I don't remember the title but the line was "Sally can't dance no more She can't even get up off the floor she as eyebrows painted on her knees Sally can't dance know more" I can't remember the rest of it. Salli sounded wild and crazy and very lower east side. I was much more wild and crazy then. I have thought about changing it often to somthing with more flare but every one knows me as Sally and it seems to work There are not alot of Sallys out there. Oh Sally can still dance and doesn't get on the floor very often Happy New Year Salli

Sally S


I have used many femme. One of the earliest was Lisa which is still the name I call my inner child. Later on I called myself Marie after the first person I truly opened up to (after I had an idea of what was going on). Some people recommended that I keep the same initials as my given name so I started calling myself Susan. (Probably after Susan Olsen of the Brady Bunch.) Susan had already beeen taken so I switched to Suzanna after a girl I met in college and made me an honorary little sister at her sorority. I current have a cheerleading uniform with the name Susan on it. Ever since I was little I wanted to be a cheeleader, now I have a few years to use it before I get too old. To sum up, many names, same person, wonderful actress.

Suzanna


I started using Christy because of an online nicname I was using ChrisT. Then a member of the St. Louis Gender Foundation told me that Christy really fit me, so I kept it.

Christy Kay


I chose my name because it makes me feel everything "en femme". There aren't words that can describe how wonderful I feel when "dressed" & knowing I AM Brenda Suzanne. Well, ladies, I'm trying to find a place today that can give me a complete make-over & provide a photography session too! Wish me luck! Hugs & Kisses, Brenda Suzanne

Brenda Suzanne


I picked the name Yvonne because it sounds French and elegantly feminine and personally don't know anyone named Yvonne so I didn't have a preconceived idea what Yvonne would be like. The last name is also my male last initial. Best New Year to all, Yvonne Kaye

Yvonne Kaye


actually, Alexa (or Alexandra)is my third name. As I was evolving at a young, stupid age, my first name was Zina. Later, as Desiree, I had my picture in an early issue of Ladylike. But one day I heard someone call- ing: "Lexi?! Lexi?!" and I remembered that the person's name was Alexandra, or Alexa/Lexi. And I just loved the sound it made. And, when said very slowly and patiently...it sounded like someone talking to a scatter brain, which was a darling sound, like "Luceeee?" Now, every one who knows the way my brain works calls me Lexi!

Alexa


It was easy for me. My given name was Charles Edward so I thought and came up with Charlene Ann. Now my nickname is Annie instead of Chucky. Annie? So why Ann? Who knows the Why, it was the right time for When.

Charlene Grieves


Before I was Born, the Doctors told my parents that I was a girl. My folks named me Ann Elizabeth. At first I wanted to be AnnE. Anne sounds more innocent than I really am so, Anna, because sometimes I'm a nuaghty girl.

Anna20632


My name was never a choice. That may sound strange but, really when I was 12 Cynthia Jean Roberts was how I thought of my internal playmate. When I started going out in public, before I understood the "dangers" and the difference I was frequenting a country dance club in Tampa, Florida and one of my dance partners started calling me "CJ" short for Cynthia Jean. It stuck! Now over 30 years later, I would not change my name or nickname for anything.

Cynthia


I wish I had the nerve to wear what feels comfortable to me anytime of the day or night. I am so scared my wife will find out, and she is not at all understanding. Right now she is out and I am sitting here in my favorite thong panties, garter belt and hose. I would love to be wearing my favorite dress and shoes, but my wife will be home soon. I wish I could get a baby doll outfit or nice pair of panties from her for Xmas, as you say, it would be a symbol of acceptance.

Renee


Helen was a cousin who was a part of my early years. She was pert, vivacious, definitely one of the most feminine girls I've ever known. The female side of me back then was envious of how much fun she had in being a girl. The male side of me was just happy to be around her. I wondered then (at 5 or 6) why I couldn't have been a girl like her. Her name brings back warm memories.

Helen


My sister said that I looked like Amanda Woodward from Melrose Place. I chose Theresa as my middle name because my Aunt has that name, and I like it. My femme name also has the same initials as my legal name.

Amanda


Katrin is the name of a girl I knew in 2nd or 3rd grade. She was a lot of fun to be with, but the boy/girl division got in the way of a close friendship. Or maybe it was just shyness. Also, the name goes well with my last. Love, Katrin

Katrin G.


Hi everyone. I chose my name because I am very much a plain Jane. When I got on the IRC chat I found that Jane was always being used as a nickname, so I added the Y. I am so glad now because I have developed in the last year of being on the net and now I feel like "Janey" A very happy Christmas to all you "girls" and to everyone at TG Forum. Janey.

Janey.


My big sister dressed me like a doll. One of my first memories is of her saying, "Aren't you a pretty dolly." Does anyone know a good qualified gender counselor in the Houston area? Dolly

Dolly


If I thought I could like the lady in the Santa outfit, I'd be "out" now. Who is she? She's so gorgeous. I'm not a subscriber. Is she hiding in teh subcribers' pages?

Peter (yes, Peter!)


Note to Peter (above): her name is Camille (it's mentioned in the note next to the picture) and she is a subscriber and has appeared in her own Pictorial here.

Cindy Martin


Although I really do not remember how I first came up with Abigail, I do know tht I later ran acroos it in a ' meaning of names dictionary, and I felt it really did fit my goals. (The dictionary listing or Abigail is: a lady's maid) The name Stahr developed from a dtrag show hostess who called me "Star" although I wasn't. Later at a lingerie botique, that accepts Abby, the clerk asked me how to spell my last name and suggested Stahr. I liked it - it stuck!

Abigail (Abby) Stahr


I can remember when I was about 10 trying on my mothers Bra and stuffing it with her panties. What a thrill that was.Im 47 years old now and have been dressing all my life,I havent had a pair of mens underware on in ten years. In the last year I have been out 3 times and absolutly adored my time as a woman out for a day of shopping. Im getting ready to go out again soon but I would like to go out with another enfemme for a day of shopping.Having someone along to share with would be fun.I live in the Bing. NY area. Can anyone out there tell me if there are TG freindly stores in the Binghamton area.To all the ladies in here have a merry x-mas, you have all been a real source of enlightenment and inspiration for me. I love feeling like a lady and being dressed to the nines,but I never accepting of myself untill I found this forum. God bless you all!!!

Gail


Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year to everybody!

Katrina


Im a closet Mexican TV, looking for others like me. I choose the name Susana because mekes me feel sexy and femme :) PD. Maritza reply to may email

Susana


Here's an interesting development. . . I posed as "Alysha" in a gay chat room and got picked up and seduced by more than a few lesbians. (I like women. . .) The cybersex was wonderful and being seduced as a woman was wonderful. So, I ended up getting really emotionally attached to one woman and finally disclosed my trans sexual nature. She says I am "the most sensitive, caring, and intimate person" she has met. She also is entirely lesbian and cannot imagine sex with a man. . . Well. . . now she's in love with my online character. "Sex is 90% mental," she says. . . and she fell in love with me. . . not my gender dsyfunctional body! Merry Christmas!

Alysha


Gift. . . ? I wanna be unmistakably feminine in a pair of bib overalls!

Candice Caine


Ok, mine's kinda weird, right? Here's the story: I was on a TG bbs called Cross Connection and was prompted to pick a handle. I had a Lita Ford song in my head that went, "Ruby lips, Revlon kiss," so I picked "Revlon Kiss" as my handle, there and on AOL. People took to calling me "Revy" despite the names I'd given them -- Debbie (which was an ex-girlfriend) and Katrina (which was the name that emerged after a past-life regression). Although I sometimes go by "Revanna," Revy just stuck. What do ya think? :)

Revy


My wife was the first to dress me. She always thought I'd make a pretty girl, so one day during our first year of marriage, she asked if she could dress me up. She had bought a complete outfit for me, shoes, dress, wig, makeup. The transformation was so amazing, we both loved it, and its been a big part of our life ever since. She was the one who named me Janet, and she really decides when Janet comes out. She'll surprise me by buying a new outfit for Janet, thats how I know. Then we get dressed together, as girl friends, and we'll go out to a club. Being out with my wife, while I'm Janet, is a special sharing for us.

Janet


My name was a gift from the most amazing person I have ever met, my wife. As I became more "real" it was obvious that I needed a real name. I had never had a name before because a sureptitious little hiding creature of the night didn't need one. Only a real person needs name. After trying on several that I had suggested she suggested "Elizabeth". I had worked with a woman named Liz who was an out and confident lesbian and I had always admired her character. I value the name and make sure that it is used well since it was a gift from the heart of a special person. Big Holiday Hugs to All!

Elizabeth P.


My first femme name was Tammy. It was a takeoff of my name I was called by when I was growing up. I used that name for several years until the first opportunity I had to go out all dolled up. This was on Halloween and I went as a nurse. To help me get all dolled up, my wife hired a makeup artist to come to the motel room where we were. The young lady did a marvelous job for me and was so pretty herself. Her name was Shelley. Now I use that name instead. See ya girls. Love,

Shelley


I WAS GIVEN THIS NAME AT BIRTH, (MIDDLE NAME) AND FOUND THAT I AND OTHERS ENJOY USING IT WHEN I'M DRESSED

ALLISON


I THINK I'VE LET MY SECRET OUT TO SOMEONE ITHOUGHT I COULD TRUST. SORRY ABOUT THE CAPITALS.

ROXANNE


I have a very good friend by the name of Ashley and I decided that why not take up her name for she is a very beautiful person.

Ashley C


Natasha! Matins. I don't want my name to be confused with a male name.For friends I wanted a name as different from James as much as the exotic far east differs Kansas. As far as strangers, my therapist Millie Brown suggested " Abandon fear and be free", so I watch carefully with as much humour and self-confidence my emergence into my true self as a Female and more importantly a compassionate human being. Thank you Millie for inspiring me!!

Natasha! Matins



I picked my name in memory of a high school friend who sensed that I was different in many ways, and encourage me to be myself regardless of what others thought. I only wished she could of shared all of my secrets.

Josie


I was on line, my first night on the net, and was preparing my first EMail to a support group, having discovered that there were others like me out there, and I thought I just had to have a femme name. I was at a loss, hating the femme contraction of my normal male name. I had a CD of Gordon Lightfoot on the stereo, and the song "Carefree Highway" came on. In that song, there is a line that says "Her name was Anne, and I'll be damned if I recall her face, she left me not knowing what to do" I didn't know what to do, but I was doing it anyway, and Anne preserved my natural initials. It fit and still does. I have since learned that Mr. Lightfoot was referring to the Canadian folksinger Anne Murray, who I like, too, even better.

Anne C.


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