
Bi Women Are More Fun
By Diane Kaye
I had heard from some of my sisters in our
local TG group about the local Bi Women's groups and how they
were very accepting of we "Transwomen", as they called
us. I got a point of contact and decided to see if Anne Marie
and I could attend one of their outings.
After an E-Mail to one
lady explaining who I was and indicating that I was a member of
the transgender community, I got a response that their get-togethers
were only for women, and that they used the term women broadly
to include we "Transwomen". At that Anne and I made
plans to attend. The outing was at a small health food restaurant
in the local suburbs. I inquired as to the appropriate dress and
was told that "casual was fine, after all walking down stairs
with heels is hard". With that we both choose slacks and
a blouse with flats. Make up was very minimal as we wanted to
blend in and look appropriate.
We arrived around the time they said they
would be there and introduced ourselves to the two women who were
there. The women who I had corresponded with was there and greeted
us warmly. After some small talk we realized that we being treated
just like any other women. Others came in over the next hour. As it turned
out two of our members were also members of their group so we
had mutual friends from the beginning.
Much girl talk ensued with
discussion about everything imaginable. Intimate things as well
as family things were discussed freely. Some of them were interested
in us as transwomen, but from the perspective of how we interacted
in the community. They asked if we dressed as women at home. I
explained that I chose not to at my wife's request, but Anne,
being transexual, did. I explained that while I was married, I
really enjoyed the acceptance as a woman when dressed. As they
noted, they could express their bisexuality without worrying about
being noticed since they always appeared as women regardless of
what they were doing, but that we transwomen had the problem of
appearing as the opposite sex when dressed, which is noticeable.
They seemed genuinely interested in me as a woman. I learned that
they really objected to men being there, and I could see why.
Their talk was about intimate woman topics and their relationships
with men and women. While we were there a woman came by and asked
if she could bring her boy friend down also. A resounding NO was
given.
To my surprise I learned that the lesbian community was
not totally accepting of them. I told them that we have similar
problems within our community.
To me it was really a thrilling
experience to be accepted as a woman by these women. Some of them
were married and had husbands who were very accepting of their
bisexuality. Several had children also. While Anne and I did not
get a chance to talk to all of them one on one we sensed their
interest in us as women. Around 10 o'clock, we were getting tired
so we decided to leave. As we were leaving, they asked us if we
would like to join their group so we could get monthly meeting
notices. We took some information and decided to first meet a
few more times with them before making a decision. As Anne and
I drove home we decided to offer and invitation to them to attend
one of our TG meetings. I hope once they get to know us better,
they will come.
It is important for those of us in
the gender community, regardless of our orientation, to stand
together and support each other. We are not a majority and need
as much support as we can get. Some time in the future, when gender
orientation is totally accepted, people will realize that this
type of cooperation is what made it happen. Until next time this
is Diane Kaye saying love all your sisters like you love
yourself.
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