By Julie Freeman


Julie Freeman is a significant other who has been active in the transgender community for over seven years, particularly with the significant others and couples groups. Julie has contributed too the "Other Voices" column of the ETVC newsletter and also writes articles on gender issues for the DVG newsletter (Devil Woman),Tapestry Magazine, and the Femme Mirror. She is ETVC's current Member of the Year. Having attended many conferences around the country, Julie along with Donna, her spouse, CO-founder of DVG and former Secretary and Membership Chair for ETVC, is now helping to organize California Dreaming' next year in San Francisco.


Understanding Fantasies

I have heard from time to time that female clothing being designed mostly by men is not really designed for the female body. Some theorize even further that male designers do not really like women and design clothing such that many women look unattractive, including the trend toward very masculine clothing. Just recently I watched a show where almost all the outfits modeled by women were male suits, including ties! Many times I have wondered at some of the dresses and blouses I find myself shuffling through, never finding anything I liked.

But I also found that female designers were equally responsible in producing unattractive clothing, unattractive, of course, being in the eye of the beholder. Now you crossdressers are probably scoffing at this! You cannot understand how we women, having so many styles and fashions available to us, could possible find anything to complain about. But as you know, many times we go shopping for hours and never find a thing that really satisfies us.

Watching my husband for the past several years wear many of my outfits, I began to get an understanding of what just might be the problem. We both wear the same size, but "she" with a male body is able to wear ANYTHING of mine with no problem! The problems I need to hide, common to many GG's, she does not have to worry about. I have turned over many of my outfits to her as she simply does better justice to them than I! And it goes without saying that "he" DEFINITELY looks better in his masculine clothing than I ever could.

Just go to any crossdressing activity and you will see what I mean. Crossdressers can wear the shortest of minis and their legs are gorgeous! Most females over 25 know that miniskirts are a thing of their past!

I began to understand as I watched one crossdresser after another wear a sexy dress why they were having so much fun! How wonderful, I fantasized, if I could still wear one of my minis, a slinky dress - outfits now stowed away as childbirth and age took their toll.

So no wonder that crossdressers love women's clothing! They have the right bodies! Fantasies are wonderful! How great that crossdressers can experience them!

(This article originally appeared in Devil Woman, the newsletter of the Diablo Valley Girls.)


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