Your Innvestment | |
Vol. 7, No. 9 |
May 1999 |
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The may meeting started out
to be a meeting about makeovers, makeup and getting all dolled
up. Instead it turned into a multi faceted meeting with makeup
being only one of the many subjects discussed. The meeting was
scheduled with a representative from Mary Kay being the keynote
speaker and demonstrator. This did not take place due to a family
situation where her father-in-law ended up in the hospital. We
hope that things turned out O.K. and send our best wishes to her
and her family. This program will be rescheduled for next fall
when we start up with our new season.
The meeting started with a few announcements
about upcoming events and programs in general. The status of the
new web site (see story elsewhere), email, the pool party, the
picnic, and the Halloween Party were also covered. A schedule
of events is also published elsewhere in this newsletter. Innvestments
President, Liz, who is also on the staff of Fantasia Fair, provided
an update on what was going on and things that were planned and
solicited help from Innvestments members. More on this
program later. As the main theme of the evening's program was
to be on cosmetics and makeup, everyone contributed some little
hint or trick that they used when applying foundation. It seemed
that everyone had something a little different from everyone else
that they did while applying their own makeup. These were readily
shared with others in the room. Hair removal, and places to shop
were also covered.
We had three new girls attend our meeting for
the first time. Samantha had come to our meeting last month but
got cold feet when she arrived at the door to the room in the
hotel. This time she overcame her fears, came in, got dressed
and joined in with the group. Welcome!. Maqqi was also in attendance.
She did attend our Valentine Party in February where she won the
Best Red Dress Award, but this was her first meeting. This was
also Del's first meeting, although she has subscribed to our newsletter.
She was in P- Town during last Fantasia Fair where Liz had taken
her under her wing. We hope they will all be back for our June
meeting.
After enjoying pizza and soda's, everyone adjourned to the lounge
where we kept some other hotel patrons enthralled watching us.
We probably passed up a good chance to explain ourselves to them
but the way they were watching us, I don't think they would have
joined us. We did manage to keep them entertained, tho.
NEXT MEETING
June 7, 1999
Ramada Inn
Hyannis, MA.
7:00 p.m.
We will
have a TVision deportment class then go out for supper at a new
restaurant. We have been invited to eat at Kelsey Lynn's. Plan
to put your best foot forward and join us in having a good!
Your
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MA.0 2653-2194. Innvestments is a non-sexual service organization
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Liz W.........................................................President
Julie W..(stimpl@capecod.net).........Vice President
Brenda L. (Brrendaa@aol.com)...............Treasurer
Judy T............................................................Board
Candy Scott....................................................Board
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Membership (including newsletter) is $30.00 per-year (pro-rated after January) with a $15.00 meeting fee. Meeting fees payable only for those attended. This pays meeting location fees charged to the group, and for pizza and soda for all. Subscription only rates are $10.00 per year.
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You don't know me. Nor, would you have recognized me on that day. You were enfemme, walking out of J. C. Penney's via the catalog counter. When we passed, I noticed you looked very nervous. You looked nice, though.
I was going to say "Hi" but a few things got in the way. First, I was too much in drab, and you looked as if you were afraid I was going to be nasty. Second, I noticed one of the sales girls (she was pretty young) follow you to the start of the corridor, and I wanted to see if she was going to make a comment, and third, by the time I got around the building you were long gone from the parking lot.
What happened? One: I wasn't completely in drab. My shoes were from the women's rack but I'm the blue jeans, red vest jacket and Akubra hat (think "The Man From Snowy River") distracted you from them. Two: The young woman did not say anything, or even let on that she read you. But I strongly suspect she said something while on break. Not everyone who looks menacing is. Plus: It is easier for others to accept and deal with you if they aren't worried about your attitude at the time. If this was one of your first outings, I can fully appreciate the tension. But, it gets more enjoyable the more you can allow yourself this experience.
It looked as if you put a lot of thought into how to dress for the trip. Nothing "over the top". Something like a well groomed secretary or professional woman might wear. A bit dark on the foundation, but not bad at all. I spotted you from a great distance because of the stiffness in your walk, and because I'm one too.
Too bad, I had a good line to speak to you with but it was probably just as well. If you had seen me driving my pickup, you would probably have had a seizure.
What I do want to say though is: Don't be so tense. I do wish I could have said "Hi", but there wasn't enough time, and I didn't want to make you more uncomfortable than you probably already were by saying it very loudly.
EDITORS COMMENT: Food for Thought. How many times have you seen a sister out and wanted to say something but did not know if you should...or not? What would you have done...if it were you who were spoken too?
Does it matter that you can't walk very far in star-quality stilettos? If you have a car and driver, you don't have to. No limo? Well, guess you better take as your own the motto of the Kilgore Rangerettes, Texas's most famous baton-twirling team: "Beauty knows no pain."
Beauty is, of course, at the bottom of the high-heel conundrum. When a power-suit outfit features a short tight skirt and spike heels, it raises interesting questions. Some women argue that you have to use everything you've got to get ahead in a man's world. Others point out that flaunting your physical assets undercuts complaints about sexually suggestive behavior by men in the office. The truth is, a hint of sexiness is a door opener, but when it comes to serious promotions, the bosses are looking at your competence, not your ankles.
Stilettos are more relevant to the dating game. Men love 'em for the way they make legs look and for putting a wiggle in your walk. One could take the symbolism of shoes further (see Freud), and some do. But for most of us, it's an interesting balancing act. So to speak. You can look at wearing high heels as a painful concession to male fantasies or as some heavy sexual artillery of which you are in command. (Q: What's the one thing strippers leave on? A: Their stilettos.)
But when the real thing comes along -- true love or a great business opportunity -- is anyone looking at your feet? How do you think high heels affect workplace or romantic interactions?
Remember the fashions of fall 1997. The shoe of the season was the highest stiletto Gucci and Manolo Blahnik could engineer. And fall `98's must have shoe? The flattest skimmer they could press out of shoe leather. Oh, those fashionistas!
Stilettos have always had their time, as if they had magic powers.
And speaking of the supernatural, high heels embody a paradox about power that defies early logic. For many a woman, the essential finishing tough to feeling as powerful as possible is .. a pair of killer heels.
But who are they killing? You don't need a podiatrist to tell you all the medical problems that can stem from too many hours in high heels (the latest addition to the list of bunions, hammer toes, nerve damage, etc., is arthritis of the knees).
OK, if medical researchers were able to influence behavior, tobacco companies would be out of business. Let's just mention more immediate issues...such as, say, running from a mugger or a burning building. Or walking comfortably for more than two blocks.
These days, although fashion followers could certainly agree on the status footwear of any given season, shoes are assumed to be changeable, disposable and fun, rather than a fundamental statement of socioeconomic status.
But just because flats rule the runways one season does not mean that garbage cans across America will be filled with high heels. Shoes are more personal than that. Women can fall in love with and spend the rent on a pair of red shoes. They will save old favorites they know they'll never wear again. Certain pairs seem to guarantee a good time, as if they had magic powers.
But heel height is about much more than what's in fashion, or what goes with what. Some short women would wear high heels on a surfboard if they could. Comfort freaks would wear sneakers with an evening gown - if they were as confident as Cybill Shepherd, who's done it. In fact, shoes used to be the most telling element of one's dress. Everyone wore the best she could afford. The axiom "You can tell a lady by her shoes" was perfectly true.
As reported on an earlier page, Brenda has the Innvestments home page up and operating. The URL for this page is included below. Also included are those who gave their email addresses at April meeting. This way you can keep in touch.(From surfing around, I can see traces of our people here, there and everywhere). First, lets get the official URL's out of the way. The second column contains world wide web sites that may be of interest. Starting with the next issue we will review some of these site. If you would like to have our E-mail address added to the list, please let us know.
Innvestments...............innvstmnts@aol.com
Brenda L........................brrendaa@aol.com
Candy S.................candyscott@capecod.net
Denise S.............................dsteale@aol.com
Joan C..................................jcofiii@aol.com
Julie W.........................stimpy@capecod.net
Karin Anne S...............kar63784@aol.com
Maqqi J.....................maqqi2727@aol.com
Noel R..........................noellerose@aol.com
Rachel E......................raellis@capecod.net
Karin Ferron/A Plus Electrolysis..................
...............................apluselec@capecod.net
Sara B. & Beth B...sblossom@earthlink.net
Sunshine Club...............................................
.....umass.edu/stonewall/sunshineclub.html
IFGE Bookstore...................Books@ifge.org
Trans-Chat (Worcester area)........................
.....................................Transgndr@aol.com
Our very own site
Innvestments..................transgender.org/innv/
Our site hosts
Trans Gender Forum...................tgforum.com
....................tgfmall.com
Large Gender Organizations
International Foundation Gender Edecation...............ifge.org
Tiffany Club.........................................tcne.org
CO. Gender Info Center..........abmall.com/gic/
Fantasia Fair............................fantasiafair.org/
Information (for what it is worth)
Wives Pge......ruralamerica.com/candy2b.html
Gianna Israel
Librar.........firelily.com/gender/gianna
How to..................tvts.net/lvtgw/index_h3.htm
TS Roadmap......members.aol.com/tsroadmap/
Services
Nail Polish...............theglamorouswoman.com/
Makeovers........................................................
......emakeover.com/makeover/homeframe.htm
Disposable Breast Forms..................................
...................members.tripod.com/disposable_2/
Hormones.........................................................
savina.com/confluence/hormonem2f/index.htm
Fashion Experience..........................................
...............................michaelhall.com/index.html
Special
Womans Network...........................women.com
Cheri Berens............................cheri.addr.com/
L If you have not already heard...One of our own, Dawn R. was diagnosed with spots on her lung. After 2 of the first of 3 massive doses of chemo, she suffered what appeared to be a heart attack. With a lot of prayers she came through that ordeal and went back onto the chemo. She still requires your prayers and a special card or two would be nice. Call Candy for the address.
L When it rains, it seems to pour. After reporting on Charlynn and Joanne, keeping track of Karin from A-Plus Electrolysis, folks checking on myself (thank you), Tracy with removal of some tumors, and now Dawn, we also have Phyllis F. who has undergone some problems and will be going into the hospital for an operation. We send our prayers and best wishes for speedy recovery to everyone!.
J After all that, just remember....A smile is the curve that sets things straight!
J A United Kingdom clothes retailer recently took a poll of 552 men on whether or not men should wear skirts. The results were that 447 voted that it was about time; 57 voted that guys should keep their trousers on and the remaining 48 indicated that if other guys wanted to, why not.
J Brenda L., who used to take quite a bit of wedding photography would like to get together with some of the members to take some serious portraits. Along with the pictures she will get the photos placed on floppy disks so that they can be placed onto the web or sent over the internet if you so desire. Please give Brenda a call if you would like to take advantage of this. A special session can be set up to do just photography. Bring lots of outfits for fun, fashion and photos.
J When Noel Rose was in Boston recently she passed a retail shoe store on Newbury Street with a most interesting name: investments Shoes. Even tho she was in drab she went in a did some browsing (of course...wouldn't we all.) She commented that they seemed to quite at home with guys buying ladies shoes (a big plus). They are also on the web at www.DesignerShoes.com. The last statement under their "What We Do" paragraph says: "We'd be delighted to welcome you to what some have called a Shoe Fantasy land. This could be the answer to your dreams!." That sounds like an invitation to become an "Imelda" and shop till you drop.
J "Why didn't you report the robbery at once?' an insurance agent asked a woman claimant. "Didn't you suspect something when you came home and discovered all the drawers opened and their contents scattered around the room?" "Not really," the woman replied. "I thought my husband had been trying on my clothes while I was away."
J You might want to check out the following www.geocities.com/colosseum/pressbox/
flash4968. See if you can find someone "dressed" that you might know.
J At the next meeting, we will be going out to eat at Kelsey Lynn's. This is located across from the airport. Elaine and I ate there recently and it was very good. Please come prepared.
7 June........................7 p.m. Meeting at Ramada Inn (TV deportment) (Check out how you really walk, as viewed by others.)
Followed by supper at Kelsey Lynns (Dutch treat. Order from the menu.)
17 July.......................1. p.m. Pool Party and Barbeque at Randolph Country Club. (Tiffany Club members will also be involved.) Followed up by dancing in the evening.
14 August..................10:00 a.m. Family Picnic at Nickerson State Park in Brewster. Our annual family in DRAB event. Bring the family and meet others.
13 September............7 p.m. First meeting of the new season. Annual business meeting and election of officers. There will be a photo session conducted by Brenda L. Bring several changes of outfits and look pretty.
4 October...................7 p.m. Meeting at Ramada Inn. Makeup & makeover session. Bring your questions.
17 - 24 October Fantasia Fair in Provincetown. Keep Posted.
30 October 7 p.m. Halloween Party at private home in Barnstable Village. Wear costumes. Prizes for certain categories.
1 November 7 p.m. Meeting at Ramada Inn. Speaker: The law and you. Bring your questions.
4 December 6:30 p.m. Christmas Party at the Ramada Inn. Annual Party and awards banquet. PLAN TO ATTEND NOW.