Tri-Ess

Welcome, wayward traveler! We have left a candle burning in the window for you. Come in and have a nice warm cup of tea. You may have been looking for a group like this, or you may have stumbled across us accidentally. Either way, welcome. You may be comfortable and secure with your second self, or you may be lonely and scared and looking for support. Either way, welcome.

This is Tri-Ess and this may be just what you have been looking for. Tri-Ess (Society for the Second Self) is the oldest and largest support group for heterosexual crossdressers and their partners. It's a place where CD's can let our hair down, be our "other" selves, and explore our feminine feelings without fear of exposure or ridicule.

Being gender-conflicted is not easy, as you know if you are one of us. Many of us go through our lives for years feeling confused and scared. We may even feel like we are alone in the world. Well, you don't need to feel that way any longer. At Tri-Ess, we are here for each other, for support and friend ship.

A Few Facts...

The average crossdresser is married, has children, and is college-educated and middle class. Some estimates put our numbers at 3-4% of the population, though there are estimates that go much higher. However, since the vast majority of us are mostly or completely secretive about our other identities, it is very difficult to assess accurately. Contrary to what some people think, being a crossdresser does not make one gay, or transsexual, or bisexual. None of us knows for sure why we like to crossdress, but we do know we can't change the way we are--and most of us wouldn't want to.

What is Tri-Ess?

Tri-Ess is a group that provides support and education for crossdressers and their partners. This includes meetings and other functions at which we dress in a safe and private environment--a chance for us to revel in our feminine side and interact with others at the same time. This does NOT include meeting others for sexual or dating purposes. You decide how much or little privacy you want, but you must respect all other members' privacy. Our membership list is totally confidential, and everyone who joins must agree to a stringent code of conduct prohibiting disclosure of private information about any other member. If you join and come to our meetings, you can expect to meet lots of other people just like you (and their wives) who have been through the same trials and have had many of the same experiences. You can also expect to have fun!

Partners

In Tri-Ess, wives are equal partners. We understand that being married to a crossdresser can be just as complicated as being one, and one of our primary goals is to give the same support to our partners as we give to our sisters. To that end, we even have a partners' group called SPICE, the Spouses and Partners International Conference for Education. Of course, if you are single, or your wife is unaware or unsupportive, you are just as welcome.

Dues and benefits

To join a local Tri-Ess chapter, you must first be a member of Tri-Ess National. The dues are $36 per year for individuals, $48 for couples. Members receive the quarterly publication, The Femme Mirror. A wife will also receive the SPICE newsletter if she joins. To receive a Tri-Ess Membership Application and Pledge Form, please provide the following information, and the materials will be sent to you.
Name and/or Femme Name
Mailing Address and/or email address

Email this info to Tri-Ess and request a Membership Application.

The Last Word

If you are a crossdresser, and you wish to join us, we wish you a warm welcome. We hope you take that first step to come in from the rain. You couldn't find a better place for shelter.