What is the transgendered lifestyle?
Once differentiated into distinct groups, the TGC is now know to include a
spectrum of lifestyle solutions for those who feel a discordance between their genetic sex
and their preferred gender. As one prominent TGC member aptly describes the difference,
"sex is between your legs, but gender is between your ears". With that in mind, here is a
brief introduction to some of the TGC's lifestyle solutions:
The Crossdresser (CD) is a person who, at some level, feels personality trait not
always associated with his/her genetic sex. CD's address these feelings by periodically
adopting clothing and demeanor different from their ordinary gender role. The typically
heterosexual CD has no desire to permanently alter his/her physical appearance, and seeks
only occasional expression of a (typically) unseen part of their personality.
The Transsexual (TS) likely feels S/he has always had a mind of the sex opposite
from his/her genetic sex. In fact, the term "brain sex" is now favored by medical and
mental health professionals to describe the inner-most feeling regarding one's sexual
identity. Professionals now recognize the futility of efforts to reconcile the TS' brain sex
with their genetic sex thru psychotherapy. As a result, the TS seeks hormone therapy and
Sexual Reassignment Surgery (SRS) to permanently correct nature's mistake finally
bringing his/her anatomic sex into agreement with his/her brain sex.
Like the TS, the Transgenderist (TG) dresses and lives in a gender role different
from that which his/her genetic sex might indicate. And, the TG often seeks hormone
therapy to assist in this new role. but, unlike the TS, the TG does not desire SRS to
"become" a member of the opposite sex. The TG lifestyle is now recognized as perfectly
viable, fitting in the transgendered spectrum somewhere between that of the CD and the
TS.
The Female Impersonator (FI, sometimes referred to as the Drag Queen) is
primarily and entertainer. FI's may be transgendered or simply skilled male actors who are
likely comfortable with their genetic sex. Talent, not gender preference, is the main issue
for the FI in her quest for the professional entertainment spotlight.
Why do transgendered people feel this way?
Current medical theory embraces the concept that a combination of hormonal and
environmental influences causes an individual to develop transgendered feelings. It is
thought that a delicate balance of hormones, tipped slightly one way versus the other
during early growth, combines with external factors, such as family atmosphere in
developmental years, to contribute to the personality traits of the CD/TS/TG individual.
These persons share the need for outward expression of their preferred gender in come
combination of the above ways. In any event, these feelings are, as a rule, very deep-
seated and can likely never be changed.
Just how do transgendered people feel?
Members of the TGC share a strong desire to, at least periodically, dress in the
clothes of the opposite sex and to act out or even "live" that role to one extent or another.
They have an imperative need to express this substantial part of their personality which
often begins at a very early age and lasts throughout life. This expression provides a
feeling of relief from stress, a general feeling of well being and even a feeling of
exhilaration. It is worthwhile noting that the expression of one's preferred gender has
nothing to do with sexual preference. Members of the TGC may be gay, straight, bisexual
or even asexual with the same likelihood as any other segment of society.
Unfortunately, certain elements in our society feel threatened by any departure
from so-called "normal" gender roles and often react negatively to members of the TGC.
Some respond by trying to rid themselves of their transgender feelings. But, even the
most valiant, outwardly successful efforts to conform to the societal "norm" cannot eclipse
such deep-rooted feelings and often result only in frustration and depression.
Fearing ridicule and ostracism from family, society, work and friends, we often go
to great lengths to hide our secret life by remaining "closeted". But, hiding transgender
feelings, especially from loved ones, often contributes to further feelings of isolation, guilt
and inadequacy.
Obviously, those of us with transgendered feelings have struggles which are very
difficult to face alone. Fortunately, in recent years, members of the TGC are seeking
support groups such as Crossroads to help each other develop positive self-image and
share experiences, as well as to reach out to others with the same secret feelings.
Are transgendered people prevalent in society?
The TGC comprises a small percentage of our society (current research suggests
that somewhat less than 1% of the population are CD's, with TG's and TS's totaling even
fewer). however, we come from all walks of life - husbands and wives, fathers and sons,
and mothers and daughters are all represented in our community. and, the TGC proudly
includes a wide range of occupations and professions - doctors, lawyers, engineers,
businessmen, tradesmen, and clerks. Transgendered feelings know no sexual, social, or
economic boundaries.
Like our society in general, Crossroads itself is comprised primarily of CD's.
However, we welcome all members of the TGC with equal enthusiasm and are proud to
include a very representative number of TG's and TS's as well.
Are members of both sexes included in the TGC?
Yes. For example, it is now known that there is roughly an equal number of male-
to-female (M2F) and female-to-male (F2M) TS's and TG's. However, their are probably
fewer trued CD's who happen to be female than there are those who are male. Since
genetic females usually have more freedom to dress as they wish, crossdressing presents
fewer problems for them. Women who wear men's clothes often do so for style and are
not trying to emulate the total male persona. Most male CD's do try to personify the
complete woman from their inner feelings to outer appearances with shoes, wigs, make-
up, clothes and undergarments. One reason male CD's so completely identify with their
feminine self is society's rigid role model for the male. Men are not permitted to have
feminine attitudes, activities or emotions, so have no outlet for a wide range of human
expression.
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